DH got Tdap but issues with Auntie.

AlwaysForgetful · August 2013

DH got the Tdap after telling me he had it a few years ago. I told him no, he had a tetanus booster. Straight tetanus. He insisted it was the same because the nurse at the OB referred to it as the Tetanus shot. *SMH* I told him to talk to his Dr. anyway. I pointed out that *I* was asking him to get a shot and he knows how I am. I do not go much myself, I do not get a flu shot (go ahead and flam that if you want.) and I use common sense when the kids get a cold. He and his family is in the Dr. with a slight cough demanding meds. *shakes head* So if I ask, it is not something to be taken lightly.

In he went. I was right (Hahahaha) and he had his shot no issue. His arm hurts today.

DH did inform me that it was not fair to ask his Auntie A (same one I talk about) to get a shot. He understands why I want her to. She is over 2-3 times a week and she is all over a newborn. She never had babies of her own and I think that makes it even worse. She and his side played pass the baby with a November baby. Umm, cold season? But flipped out because last year (DD a year old at that point) had a fever (101-102*) and a slight cough and I was not in the ER demanding meds. So they do not believe in common sense prevention but they want you to go to the ER over everything. I know some FTM that would flip over that, but a 102* temp is not going to kill your standard healthy baby. That is how the body fights things and it is not like a 104* temp or higher, nor was she a newborn. I did watch her for an ear infection though because that is her only sign for one.

I told Dh fine about the Auntie, but I was NOT allowing another round of pass the baby this time. I don't care. I know Auntie likes to show off babies at bowling and with family, but I am worried about RSV (#1 had it his first year) and whooping cough. Our area has had it increase the last few years and we had a scare with DD last year with it. Luckily she did not have it, but she was making that noise on and off for several days. And yes, I did take that serious (I knew the noise was not normal) and was in to see the Dr. I did have the Tdap this year (I have never been offered it before), and I know it passes some immunities onto the baby, but that does not mean it prevents baby from getting it 100%.

He followed my paranoia up with "it is not like she comes over sick. You know how she exaggerates when she even has a cough." True, but for a baby, she comes over! We learned that! *shakes head* And kisses baby.... and puts mashed items into a newborns mouth to *try* using her fingers.

That is ok, I am wearing this baby more and I will just be the grumpy mommy. Sorry if I hurt her feelings, but just because things have not happened does not mean I wish to tempt fate. That and I am tired of the "she means well" without backing me up when it is in regards to only this Auntie. I know she holds a special place in our hearts, she took over the mother role when DH's mother passed and is the MIL I never had.

TY for letting me vent a little.

ranaverde · August 2013

Good for you for standing your ground, and wearing the baby whenever Auntie (or other visitors) are over sounds like a very good idea in this situation.

The nasty thing about whooping cough is that you can't tell who's contagious with it, because you're infectious before the symptoms show up. My husband got it a few years back, and it was like it came out of nowhere; he had no clue what was going on, and half the doctors who saw him didn't either. (I was lucky; I'd had a booster somewhere post-childhood and didn't get it.)

And it's a disease that's really, really unpleasant at best - he was waking up every night for weeks desperately trying to breathe (it was really scary for both of us) and during the day he'd sometimes cough hard enough to puke. And he is a healthy, strong adult. Anyone who'd risk putting a tiny newborn baby through that just to avoid a simple one-time shot is too selfish to be allowed to interact with said baby.

AlwaysForgetful · August 2013

I love Auntie, I really do. She drives me nuts because I am not use to a close family. She is awesome though. None the less, I fear if I was the one who asked her, she would get it. But then she would see it as even more of an ok reason to show baby off. I know she will tell me that no one will touch her, but no. Young people and older people are germ factories. Mean, but true.

I wish I could get out of bowling... *sighs* That would take some of the showing off away.

I am so sorry your husband had it!

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