I'm 20! And man, I thought people were looking at me sideways for being so young! It is no one else's place to judge you, my dear. Do the best you can with the hand you have been dealt. Just remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Most people just thought this was a weird first post and probably a troll.
It is at this time that I would like to introduce you white knights to the CTFD method of life - recently expanded from the CTFD method of parenting. I think you'll need it.
best response ever. I'd double love tit this if I could. Also, I completely subscribe to the CTFD parenting method. More people need to do this.
if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
why are people are people so judgemental nowadays ?!?! it's nobodys place to judge nobodys situation , or decisions they have made in life , we each have our own story . good luck to you & aslong as you do whats best for you & your baby then good for you !!! age doesnt determine how "good of a mom" someone can be , im pretty sure theres plenty of woman out there who are in there 30's+ and arent the best moms they could be . anyways goodluck im 23 btw..
I'm going to hope you are mobile bumping. It's spelled judgmental. And punctuation and proofreading is your friend.
And you're saying you're not a little skeptical of someone stating they are 15 and pregnant and getting married? People weren't mean. They were pretty supportive, actually, but in reality and truth, 15 IS really young to be having a child.
I had my first at 22. Hell, that was young! I was a single mom who struggled. That's really here nor there. But I suggest if you want to white knight for someone, you should at least do it so it looks intelligent.
Most people just thought this was a weird first post and probably a troll.
It is at this time that I would like to introduce you white knights to the CTFD method of life - recently expanded from the CTFD method of parenting. I think you'll need it.
I thought she was either a troll or just joking. She had an emoticon that made it seem like a silly post. I'm still not convinced its real.
For aessary03: if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
I am 28. Had my first unplanned at 21, pregnant at 20 and still thought that was too young but I burned my one "get out of jail free card" I gave myself when I got pregnant at 16 also but did not go though with that pregnancy. I couldn't imagine having a baby without a drivers license or a high school diploma.
how about you stay confused because clearly you didnt read what she said to me about the OPINION i gave your right we are all intitled to our opinion so i was intitled to mine so what she said to me was uncalled for .
For aessary03: if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
I'm confused....who asked for your opinion? Obviously it's an open door policy for different viewpoints.
For aessary03:
if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
If you could read, you would see I didn't pass any judgment. I just said 15 is really young to have a baby. I didn't imply anything about her parenting skills. You seem to be the one doing that. And you're right, you didn't ask for my opinion. But you gave yours unsolicited so I figured I could do the same. Thanks!
ETA: Yes, I did pass judgment on your spelling and grammar.
Im mobile so SIMPLE MISTAKES that anybody can make , but thank you for taking time out of your day to correct me if it's that serious to you. I honestly thought this was a site were we SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER not judge somebody based of how they"spell" or based of what there story is!!!Agree to disagree your intitled to your opinion and so am i , i will not go back and forth with somebody i have never once seen and will never see a day in my life ! have a good day ..
For aessary03: if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
If you could read, you would see I didn't pass any judgment. I just said 15 is really young to have a baby. I didn't imply anything about her parenting skills. You seem to be the one doing that. And you're right, you didn't ask for my opinion. But you gave yours unsolicited so I figured I could do the same. Thanks!
ETA: Yes, I did pass judgment on your spelling and grammar.
For aessary03: if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
If you could read, you would see I didn't pass any judgment. I just said 15 is really young to have a baby. I didn't imply anything about her parenting skills. You seem to be the one doing that. And you're right, you didn't ask for my opinion. But you gave yours unsolicited so I figured I could do the same. Thanks!
ETA: Yes, I did pass judgment on your spelling and grammar.
She wasn't asking anyone to comment on her age.. She wanted to know how old everyone else was ( maybe there is another 15yrs out there and he wouldn't feel so alone!) To answer the original question: I'm 29
She wasn't asking anyone to comment on her age.. She wanted to know how old everyone else was ( maybe there is another 15yrs out there and he wouldn't feel so alone!) To answer the original question: I'm 29
Welcome to the Internet. No matter what she was asking we can answer however we please.
Hey, anyone else 15? (That's how I would've asked if anyone else was 15) genius!
"Dont fucking ever come out your face talking shit like that" -SG 1/12/2014
I'm 16 and will turn 17 right around the time my little one comes. Although I am also young I have to agree that getting married at 16 may be a mistake .
The Big 3-0.
Feel like I should have worked one or two more years, ideally, before having to go part-time. But I got scared about fertility. : )
Best of luck to you! xo
I love titted this for your description of what your ticker used to look like! Slow clap for solvin' problems! =D>
Wow 16 is super young. I'm 24 going on 25 when baby is Bon and I still feel like I am young as heck to be a mom. I am just curious was this baby planned? How long have you two been together? Was marriage your idea? Do you both have jobs? Somewhere to live? Did you sign up for 16 and pregnant? I mean the other girl in here with her high school diploma and two jobs and a plan I have no worries she will be alright but you honey..... If you're not MUD I hope you got this
I'm 16 no way was this planned . And me and my boyfriend Been together for two years . My boyfriend is in the process of getting a job buht my mom doesn't want me to get a job because of how she struggled with everything when she was my age . And there really is no way for me to get a job without her signing my work permit . Buht my mom is practically taking my kid as her own when it comes to finances as long as I stay in school and Im staying with mom. And no to the signing up for 16 and pregnant.
I'm 16 no way was this planned . And me and my boyfriend Been together for two years . My boyfriend is in the process of getting a job buht my mom doesn't want me to get a job because of how she struggled with everything when she was my age . And there really is no way for me to get a job without her signing my work permit . Buht my mom is practically taking my kid as her own when it comes to finances as long as I stay in school and Im staying with mom. And no to the signing up for 16 and pregnant.
I could go in so many different directions on this topic, but its already become pages long. I will say this. I have read research that the age that is best for most women's bodies to have children is at age 22. I am assuming this age has been shown to have the least percentage of complications to mother and/or baby. The decision of when to start a family is different for everyone based on any number of relevant factors unique to that individual(s), and occasionally that decision is made for them, whether they were acting responsibly or not. Everyone has a completely different situation coming into this.
For myself, I wanted to start a family before I turned 30 to be sure to avoid the risks associated with AMA (which is currently considered 35 and above). I was lucky that all my other ducks were lined up simultaneously and I was able to achieve this. The last factors that I was waiting on were to a) improve my own physical health and b) spend enough time married to my husband without kids. This year, we decided that both of those conditions had been satisfied and started TTC. I am so thankful to have been blessed with a child precisely when I was prepared for it and I know so many other women don't get that chance. I am very grateful and cannot wait to hold my LO in my arms with my husband.
I was the child of a teen mom. She decided to keep me after her mother told her to get an abortion. She says she did it because she hated her mother when she was a kid. If I was able to give my opinion in utero I would have begged her to put me up for adoption. Her bf had a job and wanted to help but she wanted nothing to do with him.
The first few years of my life she couldn't handle a baby or toddler. I was passed around in shifts to friends in family.
As I got older she had me around more but was not much more responsible. By the time I was 4 she made it regular to tell me how I ruined her life by being born and that I was a horrible child. When I was 5 a man moved in who was physically and emotionally abusive to me. Not to mention the fights they would have and the cops showing up.
Welfare and work didn't make ends meet not because there was no money. It was because she never learned how to budget. She had to grow up before she was taught how to be an adult. Also she never got to finish the selfish fun time as a teenager when you just worry about you. In addition to no budget, she would often waste money on thins like TVs, outings etc when there were no diapers for my little brothers or formula not to mention many other things.
When I got older the state took me. They gave her and the bf a list of stuff to do in order to get me back. She didn't do them. When I around 17 the court gave up on her and she signed the termination of rights under the condition that they erase all back child support.
I have loving parents who raised me and great siblings that have my back. My experiences with her stay with me. They shaped my teen years because I didn't want to be like her. I came from a neighborhood where it was common my chances weren't much better. I'm lucky to have worked through PTSD and other stuff. I stayed focused to get through have and go to college- many times I thought about how hard it would be with a baby.
People are right age doesn't make a parent but it helps when you have been through enough of life that you have a full set of independent living skills and have reached a point of independence in stability. It is less the age and more the frame of mind of realizing how serious this is. It is highly irresponsible to have unprotected sex even if your and adult but doing at 15 is not a good sign. I believe in marriage and am lucky to have a good husband but you don't need to rush things. Someone else suggested a plan for working together as parents before getting married. I wouldn't make suggestions but you responded to the criticism with a support request and this isn't hearts and flowers.
I pray that you have become more responsible and are taking the future of this child seriously. I pray that your families are supportive and strong. I hope that you are wiser than the many young women who made decisions like my birth mother did and I hope your child has every opportunity to flourish. I'm not trying to be harsh I just saw everyone judging your age felt like they were missing the bigger picture. What happened to me is not the absolute but certainly not uncommon when you look at our FCC system. I'm only offering this perspective as the product of teen pregnancy. I hope you and your baby have a wonderful future and that your family helps you get on your feet.
I'm 16 no way was this planned . And me and my boyfriend Been together for two years . My boyfriend is in the process of getting a job buht my mom doesn't want me to get a job because of how she struggled with everything when she was my age . And there really is no way for me to get a job without her signing my work permit . Buht my mom is practically taking my kid as her own when it comes to finances as long as I stay in school and Im staying with mom. And no to the signing up for 16 and pregnant.
It's spelled "but".
Congrats, you pointed out a 16 year olds spelling mistake! I hope that made you feel some how superior! Get over your self! Good Lord!!!!
I'm 16 no way was this planned . And me and my boyfriend Been together for two years . My boyfriend is in the process of getting a job buht my mom doesn't want me to get a job because of how she struggled with everything when she was my age . And there really is no way for me to get a job without her signing my work permit . Buht my mom is practically taking my kid as her own when it comes to finances as long as I stay in school and Im staying with mom. And no to the signing up for 16 and pregnant.
It's spelled "but".
Congrats, you pointed out a 16 year olds spelling mistake! I hope that made you feel some how superior! Get over your self! Good Lord!!!!
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Ok? If she is old enough to be on a pregnancy forum, I figured she needed to know how to spell it correctly. I guess you could even say I was being helpful..or superior whatever you wanna call me is fine.
I'm 16 no way was this planned . And me and my boyfriend Been together for two years . My boyfriend is in the process of getting a job buht my mom doesn't want me to get a job because of how she struggled with everything when she was my age . And there really is no way for me to get a job without her signing my work permit . Buht my mom is practically taking my kid as her own when it comes to finances as long as I stay in school and Im staying with mom. And no to the signing up for 16 and pregnant.
Congrats and good for you for stepping up to the plate. I had my first son at 18 (unplanned) and ((enter shocked face)) he is a straight A student who is in sports and has turned out just fine. I have also came far in my job field and live comfortable. Don't worry about the judgement from others and as long as you guys are doing the best you can and loving your child everything will work out. If you ever have any questions feel free to ask me.
Roxanne
Mother of two, soon to be three!
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I can't speak for anyone else but I know I joined the board for a little extra support from women who are going through the same thing as I am. I'm 25.
I hope you have looked at all of your options and feel that the decision you have made is your own. As long as you feel comfortable. I wish you the best and congratulations!
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I was the child of a teen mom. She decided to keep me after her mother told her to get an abortion. She says she did it because she hated her mother when she was a kid. If I was able to give my opinion in utero I would have begged her to put me up for adoption. Her bf had a job and wanted to help but she wanted nothing to do with him.
The first few years of my life she couldn't handle a baby or toddler. I was passed around in shifts to friends in family.
As I got older she had me around more but was not much more responsible. By the time I was 4 she made it regular to tell me how I ruined her life by being born and that I was a horrible child. When I was 5 a man moved in who was physically and emotionally abusive to me. Not to mention the fights they would have and the cops showing up.
Welfare and work didn't make ends meet not because there was no money. It was because she never learned how to budget. She had to grow up before she was taught how to be an adult. Also she never got to finish the selfish fun time as a teenager when you just worry about you. In addition to no budget, she would often waste money on thins like TVs, outings etc when there were no diapers for my little brothers or formula not to mention many other things.
When I got older the state took me. They gave her and the bf a list of stuff to do in order to get me back. She didn't do them. When I around 17 the court gave up on her and she signed the termination of rights under the condition that they erase all back child support.
I have loving parents who raised me and great siblings that have my back. My experiences with her stay with me. They shaped my teen years because I didn't want to be like her. I came from a neighborhood where it was common my chances weren't much better. I'm lucky to have worked through PTSD and other stuff. I stayed focused to get through have and go to college- many times I thought about how hard it would be with a baby.
People are right age doesn't make a parent but it helps when you have been through enough of life that you have a full set of independent living skills and have reached a point of independence in stability. It is less the age and more the frame of mind of realizing how serious this is. It is highly irresponsible to have unprotected sex even if your and adult but doing at 15 is not a good sign. I believe in marriage and am lucky to have a good husband but you don't need to rush things. Someone else suggested a plan for working together as parents before getting married. I wouldn't make suggestions but you responded to the criticism with a support request and this isn't hearts and flowers.
I pray that you have become more responsible and are taking the future of this child seriously. I pray that your families are supportive and strong. I hope that you are wiser than the many young women who made decisions like my birth mother did and I hope your child has every opportunity to flourish. I'm not trying to be harsh I just saw everyone judging your age felt like they were missing the bigger picture. What happened to me is not the absolute but certainly not uncommon when you look at our FCC system. I'm only offering this perspective as the product of teen pregnancy. I hope you and your baby have a wonderful future and that your family helps you get on your feet.
I'm 25
I understand you are saying this just as your perspective because your mother was a teen mother but mine wasn't (she was 26 when she had me) and I was also emotionally, physically, and sexually abused. As you said, I'm only offering this perspective as the product of a non teen mom. My mother was never stable or responsible and she was in her 30s. Everything that's happened to me made me who I am. My mothers age didn't determine the choices she made. I truly believe that a 16 year old can be as equally responsible as a 25 year old. I think it's more of a debate on if the person realizes they have to step up to the plate, be strong, stop being selfish, and never let anything happen to their child. I do prey for the young girls as well as the older women here that they realize that.
I'm 16 no way was this planned . And me and my boyfriend Been together for two years . My boyfriend is in the process of getting a job buht my mom doesn't want me to get a job because of how she struggled with everything when she was my age . And there really is no way for me to get a job without her signing my work permit . Buht my mom is practically taking my kid as her own when it comes to finances as long as I stay in school and Im staying with mom. And no to the signing up for 16 and pregnant.
It's spelled "but".
Congrats, you pointed out a 16 year olds spelling mistake! I hope that made you feel some how superior! Get over your self! Good Lord!!!!
People point out spelling mistakes for everybody. If a 16 year old can't spell but, it's going to be a long road. LOL
Re: How old is everyone?
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And you're saying you're not a little skeptical of someone stating they are 15 and pregnant and getting married? People weren't mean. They were pretty supportive, actually, but in reality and truth, 15 IS really young to be having a child.
I had my first at 22. Hell, that was young! I was a single mom who struggled. That's really here nor there. But I suggest if you want to white knight for someone, you should at least do it so it looks intelligent.
if your opinion was needed i would have asked. All i said was why are people judging others when all of us have a story age doesnt determine what type of mother you will be Yes she is young but who are you to judge her ? & Lets not talk about intellegent because you look really stupid judging somebody you don't even know!!!! &obviously my spelling wasnt that bad if i still got my point across to you ! thank you have a good day
ETA: Yes, I did pass judgment on your spelling and grammar.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
Feel like I should have worked one or two more years, ideally, before having to go part-time. But I got scared about fertility. : )
Best of luck to you! xo
ETA: Yes, I did pass judgment on your spelling and grammar.
If you could read, you would see I didn't pass any judgment. I just said 15 is really young to have a baby. I didn't imply anything about her parenting skills. You seem to be the one doing that. And you're right, you didn't ask for my opinion. But you gave yours unsolicited so I figured I could do the same. Thanks!
ETA: Yes, I did pass judgment on your spelling and grammar.
To answer the original question: I'm 29
I could go in so many different directions on this topic, but its already become pages long. I will say this. I have read research that the age that is best for most women's bodies to have children is at age 22. I am assuming this age has been shown to have the least percentage of complications to mother and/or baby. The decision of when to start a family is different for everyone based on any number of relevant factors unique to that individual(s), and occasionally that decision is made for them, whether they were acting responsibly or not. Everyone has a completely different situation coming into this.
For myself, I wanted to start a family before I turned 30 to be sure to avoid the risks associated with AMA (which is currently considered 35 and above). I was lucky that all my other ducks were lined up simultaneously and I was able to achieve this. The last factors that I was waiting on were to a) improve my own physical health and b) spend enough time married to my husband without kids. This year, we decided that both of those conditions had been satisfied and started TTC. I am so thankful to have been blessed with a child precisely when I was prepared for it and I know so many other women don't get that chance. I am very grateful and cannot wait to hold my LO in my arms with my husband.
The first few years of my life she couldn't handle a baby or toddler. I was passed around in shifts to friends in family.
As I got older she had me around more but was not much more responsible. By the time I was 4 she made it regular to tell me how I ruined her life by being born and that I was a horrible child. When I was 5 a man moved in who was physically and emotionally abusive to me. Not to mention the fights they would have and the cops showing up.
Welfare and work didn't make ends meet not because there was no money. It was because she never learned how to budget. She had to grow up before she was taught how to be an adult. Also she never got to finish the selfish fun time as a teenager when you just worry about you. In addition to no budget, she would often waste money on thins like TVs, outings etc when there were no diapers for my little brothers or formula not to mention many other things.
When I got older the state took me. They gave her and the bf a list of stuff to do in order to get me back. She didn't do them. When I around 17 the court gave up on her and she signed the termination of rights under the condition that they erase all back child support.
I have loving parents who raised me and great siblings that have my back. My experiences with her stay with me. They shaped my teen years because I didn't want to be like her. I came from a neighborhood where it was common my chances weren't much better. I'm lucky to have worked through PTSD and other stuff. I stayed focused to get through have and go to college- many times I thought about how hard it would be with a baby.
People are right age doesn't make a parent but it helps when you have been through enough of life that you have a full set of independent living skills and have reached a point of independence in stability. It is less the age and more the frame of mind of realizing how serious this is. It is highly irresponsible to have unprotected sex even if your and adult but doing at 15 is not a good sign. I believe in marriage and am lucky to have a good husband but you don't need to rush things. Someone else suggested a plan for working together as parents before getting married. I wouldn't make suggestions but you responded to the criticism with a support request and this isn't hearts and flowers.
I pray that you have become more responsible and are taking the future of this child seriously. I pray that your families are supportive and strong. I hope that you are wiser than the many young women who made decisions like my birth mother did and I hope your child has every opportunity to flourish. I'm not trying to be harsh I just saw everyone judging your age felt like they were missing the bigger picture. What happened to me is not the absolute but certainly not uncommon when you look at our FCC system. I'm only offering this perspective as the product of teen pregnancy. I hope you and your baby have a wonderful future and that your family helps you get on your feet.
I'm 25
Ok? If she is old enough to be on a pregnancy forum, I figured she needed to know how to spell it correctly. I guess you could even say I was being helpful..or superior whatever you wanna call me is fine.
As you said, I'm only offering this perspective as the product of a non teen mom. My mother was never stable or responsible and she was in her 30s. Everything that's happened to me made me who I am. My mothers age didn't determine the choices she made. I truly believe that a 16 year old can be as equally responsible as a 25 year old. I think it's more of a debate on if the person realizes they have to step up to the plate, be strong, stop being selfish, and never let anything happen to their child. I do prey for the young girls as well as the older women here that they realize that.