FFFC

Re: FFFC

• sdtchica13 member

  August 2013

  kdasr said:

  I'm late to the game, but I'm posting mine anyway.
  
  I don't feel like breastfeeding increases my bonding with DD. In fact, I don't really enjoy it at all. But I'm determined not to let formula pass her lips so I do it anyway. I'm hoping that part of this is the fact that we've had a really rough go of it with a bad latch, lesions, EPing for a week and now blocked ducts, mastitis and a yeast infection and that once we get past this I'll enjoy it more but I'm not really counting on it. We bond in a thousand ways but BFing just isn't one of them. My mom says she felt the same way.
  
  Also, I side-eye people who never even try to breastfeed WITHOUT  a good reason. I'm not talking in cases where you can't for whatever reason, be it mental or physical. But the moms who just say "eh, I don't want to." We have to do a lot of things we don't want to do because it's better for our baby, that's being a mother.
  

  
  Ok the second part of this pisses me off a lot. I EPd for my daughter because she was in the NICU for nine weeks...I EP for my son because frankly, I have zero desire to breast feed. I don't want to be tied to my house and kid 24/7, I don't want to be the only one on feeding detail, and I don't want to deal with nipple confusion, weaning to a bottle, etc. when I go back to work in eight weeks. Just because you don't consider someone's reason legit, doesn't make it any less valid, nor does it make that person selfish...it just makes you sound like a freaking sanctimommy. You are no better than I am simply because you chose to have a baby attached to your boob all day, and you should really not give a shiit how anyone else feeds their kid, as long as they are getting fed.

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• sparkymcgeee member

  August 2013

  I agree with @sdtchica13 I breastfeed my baby but I don't care how someone feeds their kid. As long as you are providing nutrition to your children then you are fine. There are a lot of reasons people choose to FF or EP. It has nothing to do with anyone else. Why do you care what legitimate choice another mother makes as long as she is caring for her child(ren)? It's no better than side-eying at the coffee shop for NIP.

  
  

  
  

  
  
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• valstulas member

  August 2013

  Yep @sdtchica13. There's not a damn thing wrong with formula. It's not like it's BAD for baby.

  
  

  

   

   

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• sdtchica13 member

  August 2013

  valstulas said:

  Yep @sdtchica13. There's not a damn thing wrong with formula. It's not like it's BAD for baby.

  
  Exactly! Like I said, I EP and my goal is to do so for a year if my supply holds out, but if not, I will supplement with formula and Gavin will be just fine, just like Corri was when my supply tanked at five months with her.

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• valstulas member

  August 2013

  I work in a hospital with baby friendly designation. I whole-heartedly support BFing (currently BFing my 4th child), but it's difficult to see the amount of pressure that moms put on themselves/we put on moms to EBF. I've seen some very exhausted moms cry bc we had to supplement their LO's with formula bc of weight issues. These moms were tired from being up constantly to BF a newborn who was either not taking to the nipple or not getting enough. I've worked with BF babies who were inconsolable bc they were so hungry. I was very fortunate in that I've had no problems BFing any of my children, but I consider that more of a fluke than the norm. I will never judge a mom for choosing to FF. Some women are just not comfortable with it, and many others do it for a variety of reasons. Either way, it's safe and it's a personal decision.

  
  

  

   

   

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• Jenniferinspain member

  August 2013

  Just my two cents. I have nursed all three of my kids, because it was important to me. I have even donated my extra milk, But how someone else does it makes no difference to me. Its funny though, 'they' say breastfed kids have less ear infections and asthma. Both my kids have had to get tubes, my oldest twice now and has asthma. Nobody smokes yet we still have these problems. People can find studies to support anything. (Ex. Vaccines/induction and autism)

  

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• MrsMcC.10409 member

  August 2013

  kdasr said:

  Also, I side-eye people who never even try to breastfeed WITHOUT  a good reason. I'm not talking in cases where you can't for whatever reason, be it mental or physical. But the moms who just say "eh, I don't want to." We have to do a lot of things we don't want to do because it's better for our baby, that's being a mother.
  

  I love how it's "my body, my choice" except when it comes to feeding my child. I suppose I should bang my husband at his demand as well, since I'm the only one that can meet that basic need of his? According to your logic, that's just being a wife.

  Being a mother means balancing all benefits, sacrifices, needs, desires, etc. for your whole family. NOT sticking your tit in your kids mouth no matter the detriment to other aspects of your life. Who are you to decide what constitutes a "good choice" for another woman? it's your kind of baseless judgments that contribute to the depressions and feelings of failures on the part of mothers who can't accomplish BFing for whatever reason.

  Now, if you'll please excuse me, I'm going to go feed my son formula. I'll be sure to convey your condolences.
  

  

  
  
  
  
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