Push Gift?

emmarios · August 2013

Is anyone else's DH getting them a push gift? A few days ago DH told me that I have been amazing this entire time and that he feels bad about not being able to spend as much time with me during the pregnancy because of work (he works crazy hours in overtime, job requires it). He tolde he wants to get me a push gift, he has something in mind but is taking suggestions. I'm not one to deny a gift!!! But I'm starting to feel like this "push gift" thing is kind of ridiculous. Any thoughts? Anyone care to share their push gift experience? Lol

missmuffin87 · August 2013

Typically I think they're silly because it always seems like the woman is fishing for gifts from her husband. I'm seriously surprised if YH had the thought to get you a gift for no real reason all on his own without you ever mentioning a push present. I would tell him it's not necessary, but if he really wants to then let it be a surprise and don't make any suggestions. It might be fun to see what he's thinking of getting you

redfallon · August 2013

If I mentioned something called a "push present" to my DH, he would look at me like this:

Shanmarie1083 · August 2013

God I hate the term "push present". The name and the concept behind it are utterly ridiculous IMO.

DaisyZH · August 2013

I didn't with DS but DH mentioned he was ordering me a "push present" the other week. I was really surprised, I think it's because his brother got something for SIL when she had my niece. He told me last night they are Mickey Mouse earrings with the September birth stone. I'm super excited because I love that kind of thing : )

SweetPeaK26 · August 2013

Personally, NMS. If he surprised me with something, while it would be sweet, I wouldn't like it if it was anything extravagant. I'd be just fine with a bag of Hershey kisses, and he'd get mega bonus points if he made them dark chocolate, since he doesn't like dark, I know he really intended them to all be for me!!

Sometimes I think that I should get him something for being such a great labor support and an awesome daddy, and taking care of me during my pregnancies!

Tally879 · August 2013

Our first anniversary was this August, and since we're watching our pennies because of baby, we agreed that we wouldn't exchange gifts. H decided that he would combine the push present and the anniversary gift and he got me very pretty diamond and sapphire earrings as a surprise. It was very sweet. I had actually told H not to buy a push present, but he wanted to get me something to always remind me of this experience.

magdalina.h · August 2013

Yes!!! the baby

bexsd · August 2013

If my husband thought, completely on his own, to get me something, it would be sweet. I would absolutely never mention that this is a thing or hint about it to him though.

redfallon · August 2013

@susanb887 said:

@jdoud77 lol. I made the same sentiment about an engagement gift. Initially I never said anything. One day DH asked if he was supposed to get me a gift. "You are now that you've mentioned it".

Hehe, that made me giggle.

ravenclaw1 · August 2013

we're getting a baby out of the deal, and we're sharing it

RedDDD · August 2013

it is a bit lame BUT having said that I dont turn down gifts. I don't get a ton of gifts ....we typically haven't done a lot at xmas or for our birthdays so when I got an amazing Tiffany necklace when my son was born I didn't say BOO other then "holy crap YES! and thank you!!" Course my son was born a couple weeks before mothers day which is also my birthday so it was sort of a combo gift. Im hoping he will get me something else for this baby since this pregnancy has been a real B and it will also be my last. Sorry but I like gifts.

IrishPiratess · August 2013

push present... you push and out comes your present... the baby.

blinnea23 · August 2013

I've been getting a lot of "just because" gifts so a push gift sounds silly to me. Just NMS.

curlyq625 · August 2013

This is slightly volgure so I apologies if it offends anyone... When my DH heard about push gifts he asked me where his squirt gift was... He said whipping up a good "batch" is a lot of work! Haha! Obiously he has quite the sense of humor. Needless to say we didn't exchange last time and won't be this time either, a healthy baby is enough for us.

mrs.mickulz · August 2013

I asked for a "push present" (as a joke, as I've mentioned to DH before that I think the idea is silly) of a case of Guinness for us to share when I get home. I'm SO ready to have a beer with my DH (and I'm all for things that will help my breastmilk supply)!!

rab2006 · August 2013

My SIL got something from her husband and she hounded DH (must be a brother sister thing) about what he was getting me when we had DD1. I said I really didn't want anything, BUT, if he asked, I wanted a Coach wristlet. DD1 was born in February.... I didn't get anything till the following Christmas (10 months later). I think the general concept is nice considering I'm not one of those woman who has had an easy pg or enjoyed it. But I could care less if I got something or not (although it would be nice if DH just got me like flowers or something bc so much concentration is on the new baby and I mean come on - we did grow and bring a new HUMAN into the world). However, like others have said, I get amazing children out of it.

jlbhz2275 · August 2013

I see nothing wrong with a push present. Is it necessary, no, but it is a nice idea, that your husband just wants to say thank you for all the hard work have done carrying and birthing the baby. Yes the baby is a present, but I see nothing wrong with a nice little gift of sentiment. Could be as simple as flowers or some kind of jewelry with baby's birth stone etc. It is just supposed to be a "I love you" gift given on the occasion of birth and I don't see anything wrong with that.

jjkaye · August 2013

I've told H that he will be required to go pick up whatever takeout food sounds most delicious to me post-labor if the cafeteria at the hospital is gross or closed. I'm pretty easy to please.

Kellseibellsey · August 2013

I see a push gift more as a way to commemorate this major thing that has just happened in your life.

If I looked at it as a "Thank You" from my husband for pushing out a baby, it would see a little strange... but I don't. It's more symbolic and commemorative like gifts on an anniversary.

My H is getting me a tiny little diamond band for my right hand- it was something he asked if I would like. I'm not one to turn down diamonds.

To each is their own.

just.me. · August 2013

I told my husband the only thing I wanted was him to write one letter to me and one to the baby sometime while we're at the hospital. He writes the sweetest things when he takes the time (which is just not often these last few years) and I think it will be special to have something to look back that documents what he was thinking when we first became parents.

jeb2013 · August 2013

At my child birth class the person in charge told the dads to present the moms with a push gift when the labor gets too much.... Or when the baby arrives. Of course that's when my husband decided to take a cell phone break... I think the term push gift is a little stupid... And the idea seems very hallmark. But I'm not mentioning anything. I'm sure we will get a lot of gifts once everyone comes to the hospital. Plus what kinda of gift could i possibly enjoy more or get any use out of than my LO finally arriving!!

BabyBrooks5516 · August 2013

I'd be annoyed if DH got me a present, this baby stuff is so expensive as it is..

Habs2Hart · August 2013

I first read the title of this as "push gif".

So here you go:

stephl3055 · August 2013

I told H to get me a McFlurry after I deliver because I have GD. He said he would get me one AND also get me a Sonic Creamslush. Can't argue with that.

But seriously, our anniversary was back in April and he's been wanting to get me a diamond band to go with my wedding band and engagement ring. We actually went to the store and picked out one I liked, but he hasn't gotten around to buying it. I haven't mentioned it in months but he brought it up the other day. My birthday is 9/12, so I'm not sure if he's planning on getting it then and kind of rolling it into a "push present" even he doesn't like the term/idea either.

bumpuser9130703 · August 2013

*IF* DH thought all on his own to get me something to commemorate the occasion I would, of course, be grateful. But the phrase push present/gift makes me feel..... really icky.

msronzio · August 2013

I get push presents all the time, it's called massages to my swollen feet

Bonus for being a good girlfriend that week and I get my toes painted!

We just celebrated our 2 year and he offered to take me to The Melting Pot. I declined. I told him honestly to just save our date for when I can enjoy it. Even on that day we just spent the day together watching Ghost Adventures and then we took a nap. I feel like a real adult now that I don't need materialistic petty bullshit to feel loved. The best gifts in life are free.

Zmommy2 · August 2013

DD was born on our anniversary, and while I was standing in the bathroom mid-contraction, DH comes in with a card and little box. I immediately started crying because I completely forgot to even get him a card.. But it was very sweet and in the box was a necklace with 3 diamond hearts. He said it was one for each if us; him, me, and the baby.. At which point I started crying again... He's usually not that sweet or sentimental, and coupled with him planning it ahead of time, and giving it to me on the day our first baby was going to arrive, it was very sweet. It was definitely an anniversary gift though, and I'd be even more surprised if he got anything this time. I think the concept is pretty silly.

redfallon · August 2013

@msronzio said:

I get push presents all the time, it's called massages to my swollen feet Bonus for being a good girlfriend that week and I get my toes painted!

We just celebrated our 2 year and he offered to take me to The Melting Pot. I declined. I told him honestly to just save our date for when I can enjoy it. Even on that day we just spent the day together watching Ghost Adventures and then we took a nap. I feel like a real adult now that I don't need materialistic petty bullshit to feel loved. The best gifts in life are free.

That sounds like us. Our 1 year wedding anniversary was in April. We got each other cards and went out to dinner at our favorite restaurant. We're so boring (:|

MegStark · August 2013

My DH would think anyone who even would say something like "push present" is insane. I WILL be requesting that he fills our wine fridge before I return from the hospital. That's not really a gift I guess. More like a demand.
I will say that if he for some reason gave me something for the arrival of our first baby, I would definitely love it. I don't want him asking me what I want for a "push present" though. That's weird.

emmarios · August 2013

missmuffin87 said:
Typically I think they're silly because it always seems like the woman is fishing for gifts from her husband. I'm seriously surprised if YH had the thought to get you a gift for no real reason all on his own without you ever mentioning a push present. I would tell him it's not necessary, but if he really wants to then let it be a surprise and don't make any suggestions. It might be fun to see what he's thinking of getting you

Years ago there was a show on tv about celebrities/millionaires and their extravagant lives. We watched it for some odd reason and they talked about push gifts and what some celebrities got their SO. That's where we both heard about push gifts for the first time. Even though I never asked for a push gift I was very impressed that he remembered. Lol

rachelstauf · August 2013

I told my DH, and I am completely serious, that I am going to need a honey roasted turkey sandwich with Brie and mayo on really good sourdough bread. That's all I need! (Well, that and my baby- the real push present!)

Nukke · August 2013

redfallon said:

@msronzio said:

I get push presents all the time, it's called massages to my swollen feet Bonus for being a good girlfriend that week and I get my toes painted!

We just celebrated our 2 year and he offered to take me to The Melting Pot. I declined. I told him honestly to just save our date for when I can enjoy it. Even on that day we just spent the day together watching Ghost Adventures and then we took a nap. I feel like a real adult now that I don't need materialistic petty bullshit to feel loved. The best gifts in life are free.

That sounds like us. Our 1 year wedding anniversary was in April. We got each other cards and went out to dinner at our favorite restaurant. We're so boring (:|

Same here. We don't do much. For anniversaries we get each other cards and go to dinner.

OP: If DH came up with a gift to give me after enduring 9 months of pregnancy and who knows how many hours of labour, I'd love it. I think it's sweet your DH wants to get you something. Tell him to make it a surprise though. It's just my opinion, but it kinda ruins the spontaneity and romance if you tell him what you want.

msronzio · August 2013

rachelstauf said:

I told my DH, and I am completely serious, that I am going to need a honey roasted turkey sandwich with Brie and mayo on really good sourdough bread. That's all I need! (Well, that and my baby- the real push present!)

I LOVE BRIE UGHHH

I miss it so much.

michelle7482 · August 2013

I got a beautiful bouquet of roses and calla lillies, my two favorite flowers. I didn't ask for anything, but DH had them waiting for me when I got home. It was very thoughtful. I see nothing wrong with push presents if your SO thinks of it without being hounded by you.

CutieBean79 · August 2013

jlbhz2275 said:

I see nothing wrong with a push present. Is it necessary, no, but it is a nice idea, that your husband just wants to say thank you for all the hard work have done carrying and birthing the baby. Yes the baby is a present, but I see nothing wrong with a nice little gift of sentiment. Could be as simple as flowers or some kind of jewelry with baby's birth stone etc. It is just supposed to be a "I love you" gift given on the occasion of birth and I don't see anything wrong with that.

This exactly. It comes off a little judgmental and jealous when people are so "anti push present".

mrsmoxie · August 2013

We were out eating one day, I had heard the term push present, but I didn't mention anything to DH, and I didn't think he knew anything about that. Then he brought it up, asking what I would want. I choked on my food, I was shocked he knew anything about that! I just told him whatever food I feel like eating at the moment, I guess. Or a shot, or 2, of cake flavored vodka.

mrsbrooksie · August 2013

I had never heard of it until I moved to the south!
Honestly, I'm all about it! My body is morphing and going through crazy things to get baby here...I'll gladly accept a present for being a good sport :-)

My sister had a little one 4 weeks ago and her husband surprised her with a Burberry bag! Though, I highly doubt my hubby will be dropping that kind of $$ on me - I would likely be just as excited about flowers :-)

sgautschi · August 2013

redfallon said:
If I mentioned something called a "push present" to my DH, he would look at me like this:

I did mention it to my DH, just to see what his reaction would be, and he said yeah right and that I was SOL, which is what I thought he'd say. Lol

This is the man who also says he won't be getting me a Mother's Day gift next year because I'm not his mom. Lol Oh DH....

JLMcWeeney · August 2013

DH got me a push present. I don't know exactly what it is, but he is really excited to give it to me. He is really proud of himself for coming up with a great gift that isn't expensive. I'm pretty sure it is a necklace, and I know it is something sentemental. I guess I will just have to wait.
I'm all for push presents. I think they are fun, and they can make wonderful family keepsakes.

Babybabybabyohhhhhhh · August 2013

I just feel like my husband is doing so much around the house, and so much for me these days, that I'm not the only one who deserves recognition. To me the baby is the present. However I don't hate on anyone whose husband thinks of a push present on his own, that's super sweet. I'm just saying I don't expect anything.

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