I got into it with another mom at my cardio stroller class this morning. Or more precisely, I got laid into. Hard. I'm still shaking just thinking about it.
Long story short, Baby Boy does ok for the first part of the class, but more often than not, he gets pissed once we stop moving (so about 20 minutes toward the end). This morning was no exception. One of the moms offered to hold him, but I declined. I've already tried every trick I could think of, and nothing works aside from leaving the class. So I let him cry. Which really didn't sit well with that other mom.
She didn't tell me right away though. It was only when I overheard her bitching to the instructor (poor instructor, WTF is she supposed to do anyways?) about me that things got ugly. I went up to her and asked if she had something she'd like to tell me. She started telling me how not normal this was, how horrible I was for letting my baby cry that way, that babies don't just cry without a reason (hey Baby Boy was crying for a reason: he was pissed and wanted to go home - I just wasn't ready to that just yet) etc.
I told her he was **my** child and I knew him best and that he was fine. I reminded her that earlier on when classes first started, I did in fact try to calm him down, and that nothing worked, which is why I just let him be now. She gave me the "my mom is a doctor" speech, then the "you are his mother (for christ sake)" speech, and a few choice others. It was awesome (not)
I just told her again that he was my child and I knew him best and to just mind her own business. I may or may not told her something about how you don't see me bitching her out for strapping her kid all kinds of wrong in her stroller, though. But other than that, I think I handled it well enough to at least not make an ass of myself.
But really, I am just so angry right now. I am angry at her for attacking me and questioning my parenting the way she did. And for doing it in front of the class, too. And for trying to drag our instructor into this. And also, hello awkwardness come next class.
And of course, I can't help but wonder "what if she is right?" I've always been of the mind that a little bout of crying twice a week (I go Wednesdays and Fridays) wasn't going to kill him. But maybe even that is too much and I actually am being selfish? I don't know. *sigh*
I'm just so rattled right now. As a mother, one of the worst things someone can say to you is that you are doing a bad job as a parent, and that is exactly what that other mom did to me this morning.
Thanks for letting me vent. Here's a cookie for your trouble.
Farewell, nesticle, you will be missed
Re: Got into it with another mom *sigh*
I say go the next time, and hold that chin up! You are an amazing mother, and I know you would never do anything that would harm your children. A little bit of fussing is normal, hes a baby!
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Babies cry. Sometimes it's just out of frustration and to relieve tension, and if you've tried everything else, there's nothing you can do but let them go until they're good and done. But I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. Don't let her get to you! ((hugs))
I say go to the class and if baby boy cries, then so be it. If you don't go you are letting her think she's right. And she's not.
Hold me back, Imma cut a bitch.
Nope - I did, too.
MHa, I am so sorry this happened to you.
Stupid lady indeed.