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  • I agree on the weight loss- unless you have an underlying medical issue, I can't stand to listen to people crab about their weight if they're not willing to DO something about it. You didn't become overweight magically, and it's not just going to magically disappear. 


    You realize being overweight is a symptom right? There is always an underlying medical issue.
    Being overweight because you're lazy IS the medical issue in some cases.  If you have a medical reason for not being able to exercise or eat better, I am 100% okay with you bitching about it.  But if you're otherwise healthy, gained weight because you went out to eat too many times and never go for a walk, let alone the gym, then I don't want to hear you complain about your weight if you're not willing to at least try to do something about it.
    (quote fail) I completely agree with the weight thing. I have no sympathy for overweight people. In fact, and I know I'll take heat for this and I'm fine with it since this is an UO thread, I strongly dislike overweight people. I don't understand how people can't keep themselves in some sort of physical health. I'm not saying everyone needs to be a sports illustrated model or be bulging with muscle, but there is no reason why you have to be overweight. Medical issue or not - get out and walk. Put down the cheetos and mountain dew and pick up some fresh fruit and a bottle of water. It infuriates me when I see overweight children. 

    Since we are all about making judgements, I think you are a terrible human being @cheergrl28 and I hope the people in your life are smart enough to know you have the emotional density of a dry sponge.
    Seriously @cheergrl28, what the actual fuck? That is such an insensitive, horrible fucking thing to say. GFY is the nicest thing I can even think of.

    @thekikimonster, so many hugs to you!

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  • EmeJay said:

    I don't believe there is any excuse for it. Just like I don't have tolerance for drug addicts and alcoholics. These are life choices and if you choose to do nothing to change your current state, then I have no sympathy.
    Just...just make a new screen name.
    I'd rather like she keeps this one
    Yeah, I wouldn't want her to be here under any name.

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  • EmeJay said:
    teal owl said:

    I think plastic grocery sacks shouldn't be made anymore. I literally think they should be illegal. Why can't we use paper sacks or totes only?

    When I see someone with 45,000 grocery bags, I'm like, "You couldn't have bothered to bring just ONE reusable tote?"

    Also, I'd love to recycle, but I'd have to pay almost $10 more a month in order to have the city come get it, and I think that is stupid. No wonder no one does it here.

    You have to pay to recycle? How fucked up is that?

    Regarding the plastic bags - I've heard that the rule is that you will save 0,05$ if you bring a reusable bag in the US?

    Here, you have to PAY 0,05$ per plastic bag you use. I think this is more effective.
    Only at some stores will they credit you if you bring your own.

    Also, some communities here PAY you to recycle.
    Mine doesn't.  The cost is part of our normal trash pick up.  Only they don't always come and it's only once a week (trash is 2x a week), so if you recycle a lot, you're sometimes in a pickle because it'll become over flowing (we have 2 small bins for it).

    Dude, trash and recycling here is only picked up once a week. And we pay for trash pick up. Recycling is "free".

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  • I cannot even deal with the assholery in this thread today. It took everything in me to get out of bed & come to work today. I don't need to feel more guilty about my weight than I already do every day of my fucking life. I'm holding onto my sanity by a tiny fucking thread. Peace out.

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    Lap & hysteroscopy scheduled for 10/31, right tube cleared, no endo found! ...Happy Halloween!
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  • I don't believe there is any excuse for it. Just like I don't have tolerance for drug addicts and alcoholics. These are life choices and if you choose to do nothing to change your current state, then I have no sympathy.


    Holly Hell!

    Seriously? I watched my dad get addicted to drugs. He has an addictive personality, I'm sure he has some underlying personality disorder. He went from gambling, to women, then to drugs. He's now 70 years old lost everything he's worked for his whole life. He's been clean for 4 years now but it's been a struggle. I never knew much about it all Until I went through that with him and attended meetings ....IT'S A FUCKING SICKNESS!!!!!!!

    This REALLY pisses me off an I never speak my mind but how can you say shit like that. Trust me my dad did NOT chose that path he went down. I hope to God that you never have anyone close to you have problems because it sounds like you won't be very supportive.
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  • teal owl said:

    Ugh, I'll jump in.

    I've been jogging since last June. When I started, I couldn't go two blocks without getting exhausted. Now I can go at least a mile without having to walk a bit. I joined a gym in November. I started personal training in January.

    I sobbed every time before I went to the gym because my anxiety was THAT bad. I literally would panic and be hysterical to my previous BF, who was a total gym rat. He couldn't understand why I was so terrified to go. I hated being sweaty, I still will put deoderant all over me when I go so I don't feel gross.

    I only do group classes and work with my trainer, but two weeks ago for the first time, I did a leg set by myself. The only equipment I've ever worked out on alone was a treamill. It was a huge acomplishment for me that took months. MONTHS.

    I work out consistently, drink tons of water a day, eat vegetables every day, eat as clean as I can, and rarely eat out. I ran a 4 mile race this year in 50 minutes.

    I still haven't lost any fucking weight.

    It will go up and down 5lbs. I go up and down inches. I don't look much different than last year. Granted I took off a few months because of pregnancy and my m/c, but still.

    Losing weight is really, really hard for some people. It's been almost a year at my gym, and I don't have results yet. I can't imagine trying to do this combined with worse emotional problems than mine.

    Hi I'm Teal, I'm 5' 2'' and I weigh 157 pounds. I'd just like to one day have sex with my shirt off.

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  • @thekikimonster My heart goes out to you. That must've really been tough to share.

  • EmeJay said:
    teal owl said:

    I think plastic grocery sacks shouldn't be made anymore. I literally think they should be illegal. Why can't we use paper sacks or totes only?

    When I see someone with 45,000 grocery bags, I'm like, "You couldn't have bothered to bring just ONE reusable tote?"

    Also, I'd love to recycle, but I'd have to pay almost $10 more a month in order to have the city come get it, and I think that is stupid. No wonder no one does it here.

    You have to pay to recycle? How fucked up is that?

    Regarding the plastic bags - I've heard that the rule is that you will save 0,05$ if you bring a reusable bag in the US?

    Here, you have to PAY 0,05$ per plastic bag you use. I think this is more effective.
    Only at some stores will they credit you if you bring your own.

    Also, some communities here PAY you to recycle.
    Mine doesn't.  The cost is part of our normal trash pick up.  Only they don't always come and it's only once a week (trash is 2x a week), so if you recycle a lot, you're sometimes in a pickle because it'll become over flowing (we have 2 small bins for it).

    Dude, trash and recycling here is only picked up once a week. And we pay for trash pick up. Recycling is "free".
    Same here.  Trash pickup fees are added as a line item to our water bill.  Recycling is free.

    Commercial recycling is free as well, but you have to 'sign up' for it, and buy the recycle bin.  I work in a small office and one of the first things I did when I started was sign us up for recycling and the large bin was like $90, and $5 for each small bin that we keep at our desks.  

    As for the bags, I still like the plastic ones for my meats.  Also, I pseudo recycle them because I re-purpose them and use them for bathroom trash can liners as well as for cleaning out my cat's litter box.  
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    EmeJay said:
    @thekikimonster it breaks my heart to read that *hugs*

    To be very honest and opened, I lost 110 lbs because of an eating disorder. I never talk about it, because I'm very ashamed of that. I had to reducate myself about food, which is a day to day struggle.

    People kept on congratulating me on the weight loss. If only they knew. They were the pushers to my addiction.




    This. I gained quite a bit of weight during college and right after we got married. We went through some really stressful stuff and I was able to not gain much more weight but I was eating everything in sight. Last May I started having digestive issues that wouldn't go away and one day I just snapped. I stopped eating all together. I quit going to work for 2 full weeks. I lost 30 lbs in 1 month and my dr.s had no idea what was going on. Got diagnosed with PTSD and a year+ later my relationship with food is still rocky. There are foods I am convinced will make me sick and I have a daily fear that it will happen again.

     The worst part of all this is the weight loss made me look healthier when I really wasn't. I had so many people ask me my secret to weight loss and I was/am ashamed to admit what actually happened.


    The reason for my post on this is to just say my not-so-UO is that I really dislike other women/people who comment on anything weight related about someone else. It is IMPOSSIBLE to know why someone is the weight they are and to assume they are "fat" because they are lazy, or even "skinny" because they are anorexic is horrible. Keep your nasty thoughts to yourself - or better yet - find a way to see the beauty in everyone and get those nasty thoughts out of your head. 

    Last thing, I'm so glad this wasn't posted on flame free day.





  • edited August 2013
    cheergrl28 said:
    I agree on the weight loss- unless you have an underlying medical issue, I can't stand to listen to people crab about their weight if they're not willing to DO something about it. You didn't become overweight magically, and it's not just going to magically disappear. 


    You realize being overweight is a symptom right? There is always an underlying medical issue.
    Being overweight because you're lazy IS the medical issue in some cases.  If you have a medical reason for not being able to exercise or eat better, I am 100% okay with you bitching about it.  But if you're otherwise healthy, gained weight because you went out to eat too many times and never go for a walk, let alone the gym, then I don't want to hear you complain about your weight if you're not willing to at least try to do something about it.
    (quote fail) I completely agree with the weight thing. I have no sympathy for overweight people. In fact, and I know I'll take heat for this and I'm fine with it since this is an UO thread, I strongly dislike overweight people. I don't understand how people can't keep themselves in some sort of physical health. I'm not saying everyone needs to be a sports illustrated model or be bulging with muscle, but there is no reason why you have to be overweight. Medical issue or not - get out and walk. Put down the cheetos and mountain dew and pick up some fresh fruit and a bottle of water. It infuriates me when I see overweight children. 
    I really want some Cheetos now.
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  • I can't believe people actually think like this. It's disgusting.

    Two of my best friends have struggled with serious weight issues. It was very hard Seeing them struggling and hurting. And there wasn't much I could do to help except just be there for them.

    One was hospitalized for months and almost lost her life to an eating disorder. That was a terrifying time. And while she did get better, she still struggles with it every day.

    It's not always so black and white. Everyone has there issues and the last thing anyone needs is someone commenting on it, judging them, saying hurtful things..

    I have so much love and respect for everyone on here who is dealing with weight issues, addiction issues, anything.. You girls are amazing.

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  • I just want to say I don't think @ellyd14 or @nariadreaming had any intention of this thread taking the turn it did. When you get on topics like this though, there is always someone like cheerbitch that is going to put in there terrible 2 cents and take it to an evil place. There is only one person I am going to hold a grudge against in this thread and I hope she never returns.
    100% agree with this!
  • Wow, this thread made me so sad for humanity. But it also reminded me why I love this board so much. You ladies are fierce and will fight to the death for each other, I love that. I truly hope those with the horrid comments are never on the other side of the fence feeling the fire of others' hurtful comments, but you know what they say about karma...
  • There are a few boards I frequented when I was on here years ago, and I am lurking on one and over the years I think they have become even more overly sensitive than they were before.
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  • I seriously judge people who constantly complain about not having any money but buy cigarettes,  go to the bar all the time and smoke weed.  My cousin asks me for money for diapers every month because he wastes it all on booze, smokes and weed.  It pisses me off beyond belief!
  • On a lighter note..

    I hate facebook.  I deleted mine.  I'm pretty sure I'm the only one who doesn't have a FB.
  • This thread has taken an awful turn... To all of those who shared stories, my utmost admiration for your bravery and hugs to each and every one of you. You never know what someone has gone through until you walk a mile in their shoes. To judge someone in that capacity is just disgusting.

     
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  • AllyTales said:
    On a lighter note..

    I hate facebook.  I deleted mine.  I'm pretty sure I'm the only one who doesn't have a FB.
    I also don't use FB.  I use G+, though. 
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  • @jessa8907 I have no idea. I just found it in one of my photo albums. I guess I was saving it for a special occasion.


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  • I don't even know what to say or how to feel after reading some of the things in this thread.

    I guess losing my babies and falling into a deep depression was no excuse for gaining almost 50lbs. Yep, guess I'm just lazy......With that being said, Fuck you, Cheerbitch.

    To all you other amazing ladies that were hurt by this thread, you're beautiful.
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  • You can be skinny as all hell and still feel bad about yourself. I am in a constant battle with my doctors (all three of them but especially my specialist) on how I am just way to skinny and I need to eat as many cheesburgers and milkshakes as possible. My mom and sister both look at me with degrading looks because its "just so hard being 95 lbs". When I get my infusions the nurses all ask me why I havent gained any weight since I last saw them... I try to justify my weight by telling myself its all because I have this disease but that doesnt help because I hate the disease and what its done to me in the last 3 years before and after the diagnosis. I understand this will probably get flamed...I shoukd be happy to be thin right? Im not. As a side note I think everyone is beautiful. Heavy, skinny, tall, short we all are beautiful in sone way.
    I hate this for you! My sis was already very small before she was diagnosed. She lost even more weight after going through infusions. All of her meds take away her appetite. Every time I talk to my mom she is always wanting to talk about my sisters weight. "What did she weigh when you saw her?" "How does she look today?" "Does she say anything to you?"

     I get so frustrated by that. Of course I don't know how much she weighs. It's not my business. I'm not her doctor. If she wants to confide in me with that info or concern I am here for her. She knows that it's not healthy to be so underweight. I don't need to remind her! FFS she is a nurse. She has a hard enough time trying to fight through the exhaustion and pain of her disease, not to mention the total mindfuck of a complete lifestyle change from her disease. I hate that your family acts this way toward you! I hate that my mother acts this way toward my sister sometimes!
  • I am amazed, as usual, at the love and support given by the women on this board. There are some terrible people in the world that want to break people down and see others in pain. But just look at the good that is out there in this world. You ladies have the strength and power to help and empower others that are struggling. That is what we should focus on. If any of you are ever struggling or having a bad day or are starting to think negatively about yourselves I think you should come back to this post and see how truly beautiful, loving, and supportive you really are. This really is an amazing group of people. Even though I don't post much, I am happy to be a part of this group.

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  • Well! As usual I'm late too. I've said this before--everyone judges all the time. With that said, a judgment doesn't always have to be negative. Sometimes I think when people judge others harshly they need to take a deeper look. What is it about that person that you dislike about yourself?

    Also, I pay for recycling/trash. I use grocery totes, and paper and plastic and reuse every single bag. I am very interested by and support PEOPLE in all shapes, sizes, sexual preference, ability.

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  • After reading all of these pages, I'm thoroughly disgusted. I'm also amazed by all of the strong women here. We all have our struggles and it's great to see all of the love and support for each other.

    I have always had struggles with my weight. In high school, I tried to get healthier. I ran after school with a friend and one day some guy mooed at me while I was running. I felt like it was no different than my grandma telling me that I'm fat or to cover up my "spare tire" every time she saw me. But really, all that accomplished was discouraging me more.

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  •   AmyC925 said:
    After reading all of these pages, I'm thoroughly disgusted. I'm also amazed by all of the strong women here. We all have our struggles and it's great to see all of the love and support for each other. I have always had struggles with my weight.
     
    In high school, I tried to get healthier. I ran after school with a friend and one day some guy mooed at me while I was running. I felt like it was no different than my grandma telling me that I'm fat or to cover up my "spare tire" every time she saw me. But really, all that accomplished was discouraging me more.

    This reminded me about something that happened just a few months ago, I kind of forgot about.  DH coaches HS sports and we went to a tournament this spring.  I've been making a commitment to get walking/jogging in as much as I can, so I brought workout clothes and went for a walk on the road outside of where the tournament was going on. 

    A car drove by and some jackass yelled "fat ass" out the car window - it was pretty deserted so not much question that it was directed at me.  I'm sure it was just some jerkoff HS kids but for a few minutes, I really felt like shit.  On most occasions, I think I look pretty damn good so I really didn't dwell on this, but I was truly so shocked that someone would yell that anyway, but especially when I was obviously out working on my FAT ASS.  

    So, yeah, cheergirl - your comments put you at about the same the level of HS boys, you must be very proud. 

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  • People should not judge the shoes they haven't walked in. Period. I was overweight for most of my life. As a child my stepfather and stepbrother would moo at me, call me a fatass, ask me if I really needed that, and other horrible nasty things that I could never imagine asking a child. My parents are also drug addicts, so a home cooked meal was provided my McDonalds or friends houses where I stayed a majority of my time. Rock bottom for me in the weight dept. was seeing my wedding pics and being disgusted with the baggage I was carrying- emotional and physical. I worked my butt off, and again once ds was born to get it off. It drives me crazy when people just judge others and automatically think they're lazy. You have no idea what is going on behind closed doors... You never know how much one compliment or nice word or smile can make someone's while day, instead of just cutting then down.. Whatever rant over..
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