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Sad, hurt, shocked and disgusted
I received an anonymous email today. The sender did not reveal their name and the address was one that was unfamiliar to me. It just said that they thought I should know what my friends were really like. That I?m the apparent ?innocent? in this mess.
The contents of this email were what appeared to be a Gmail chat between three well known nesties?conspiring to make the now infamous ?OntheRopes? ?Because shit rolls down hill? post.
One of these people, is someone that I consider a friend. Someone that I had hoped would become an even better friend over time. SHE is the one who suggested USING me in their post. Even though it would break my heart (her words).
I?ve grappled with whether I should post this chat and I have decided not to. It was long and hurtful. Beyond hurtful . Just imagine the original post, but worse. Believe me, I would love to blast it from the mountain tops and show everyone how shitty and conniving these three are.
The great part is that one of these people even commented on my ?tattooed freak? post saying something along the lines of: ?it takes a big person to form your own opinion and not feed off of others.?
Meanwhile, just a few hours earlier she was one of the people writing this filth trying to get me to turn my back on Katie! Yes, I will form my own opinions. And my conclusion is that you are a huge fake biotch. I came to that conclusion long ago and my own, without any help from Katie.
I have obviously shared this with Katie, as she the main target. As well as with Michelle, who is one of my closest friends and was also targeted.
I am just shocked that a friend would use my name in that way. I?m so so hurt. And I know you?re reading this. And I know your friendly ?lets get together next week? email that I got yesterday was sent out of guilt. Please, just stay the f*ck away from me.
I know I?m not perfect. I know that I have done my fair share of shit talking. But the people on this board that I have problems with KNOW IT. I?ve told them right where they can shove it. Because I?m not a p*ssy. I don?t have to hide behind a screen name.
Aren?t we supposed to be mature women? Aren?t we supposed to be strong and stand behind our words? Is this a lesson you would want to teach your children? To hide in anonymity and be cruel to others? To make fun of someone?s miscarriage??? Which, by the way, hurts not only Katie, but every woman on this board who has suffered such loss.
So, that?s that. Again, I?ve grappled so much as to whether I should even say anything. I can only imagine the effect that this could have on the board. But I can?t let them get away with this. Being proud of themselves. And there is no way I could see these people at GTGs and pretend like everything is A-OK. This really makes me want to take a break from the board. Because I don?t know who to trust. But I?m not going to give anyone that satisfaction.
I?m here to stay b*tches!
Love you all?well, most of you anyway.
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Re: Sad, hurt, shocked and disgusted
um wow
Sorry all this is going on
OMG, Kelly. I am SO sorry.
I have no idea who the people are who you are talking about, and I am so sorry you have been so hurt. 
But I am glad you know who was behind this and know who to stay away from.
I hafta admit- it does scare me too, b/c I of course don't ever want to be betrayed and hurt the way you were. Nor- do I want that for any of my friends on this board. And of course- I am curious about who the key people are for that reason... to protect our hearts. Anyway- I am not trying to get the names out of you, but I am just rambling (as always)... partially b/c I am shocked and so sad that your feelings were so hurt.
((((HUGE HUGS))))
Kelly, I am so sorry you are getting this stuff happening to you. I am really glad you know who it is that is doing this. Yay, you are tough and here to stay. I have started a reply several times and delete what I am typing as I dont want to feed more to these people. I went through some crap on theknot.com. I cant be bothered with the petty childish stuff when it comes to the "on the ropes" post from last weekend. I got out of high school 20 years ago and can't be bothered with that stuff. Anyway, I dont have your personal email so I can't send you a message. I do however agree with you and am sad, hurt, shocked and disgusted.
I like the people I have met on this board and that I trust to come to for questions. I hope I can continue to do so without any regrets.
Kelly, you rock so stick around.
Kristin
WOW
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Kelly I 'm so so sorry your going through this. I can't believe I'm literally picking up my jaw from the floor as we speak..
I'm so sorry!! I can't say it enough..
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HUGS HUGS HUGS to you.
I'm glad you are staying because you are a vital part of this board!!?
I'm so sorry that you, Katie and Michelle have to put up with this and I hope all this drama would just dissapear! HUGE (((hugs))) to you guys!
I went back to your original "tatooed freak post" and read the line you refered to in this post. I'm so sad that it was people who pretended to be your friend who were involved.
I'm ashamed for them.
I had to read this three or four times to comprehend it all.
Kelly, I am so sorry you have to deal with this and that someone is still out there intentionally trying to hurt you and others.
I am also so sad and disappointed because I think I know who you are talking about.
As someone else said, I thought we all left high school a while ago. It is sad that some "mature" women feel the need to go back there.
Big hugs and I am so glad you are here to stay!
wow. I am SO sorry. It doesn't even remind me of HS- it reminds me of 5th grade. Remember that Judy Blume book "Blubber"?
Anyway, sending hugs your way.
Again, new here...but just wanted to say...
I am really sorry this is happening. I think it is really crummy that people are being two-faced and hurtful. I thought we were all here to gain support and understanding.
This all makes me very sad because people do not deserve this kind of treatment.
Money Matters The other half's blog.
EJ is growing up too fast!
Huge {{{hugs}}} Kelly.
I am appalled at all of this. It also makes me afraid of sharing my life and letting people have a glimpse into my family life. I am really at a loss for words. It hurts me to even think that someone on this board could be capable of something so heinous, cruel and just plain mean.
Why?
Kelly, I am so sorry you, Katie, and Michelle all have to deal with this
This whole thing is so horrible and I was telling Katie the other day how invaded, shock, and hurt I would feel. I am so sorry again that you are dealing with this and I really hope that you stick around here! I love reading about Greyson's escapades and you being an active member of this board. I would hate for the loser out there who created ontheropes to win anything from their post. More hugs headed your way!!
This is so pathetic! I really can't believe THREE people would WASTE their time coming up with such cruel and hateful garbage.
I also went back and re-read the "tattooed freak" post. I am shocked and appalled at the connection that I think is there. Unbelievable!!
Kelly, please just disregard these people. If the crap continues, I think it will almost be necessary to reveal who these people are. They need to be shunned and cut off. I am afraid this is the only way it will stop. They should not be a part of the community. Just my 2 cents!
Honestly, I was so excited to try to connect with old friends on this board, and was really trying to make an effort. But this situation sucks big hairy balls. As much as I've lurked, I've never seen Kelly or Michelle do anything to deserve this. And I've known Katie for a long time, and she didn't deserve it, either.
The whole thing is shitty, and cruel. I sincerely hope whoever is doing this would just GO AWAY.
I'm sorry you all are dealing with this - but for what it's worth, I've got your backs!
This whole situation makes me sick. ?To think that GROWN women who have nothing better to do with their time are conspiring to create drama and fake names really makes me want to puke. ?They are lucky you aren't outing them because I can guarantee that they would be ones ostricized by the board, not you..
I don't know what to say, Kelly. I went back and looked... and I just don't know what to say. I don't blame you a single bit for feeling the way you feel.
Blech, yuck yuck yuck.. awful.
Kelly
I am so sorry that you and Katie and Michelle have to deal with this type of shit, it is immature and crappy of adults to behave this way. I'm glad you are staying on this board, I hope to meet more of you as I become a more regular poster and make it to and East Bay gtg.
Stephanie
If someone is too cowardly to come forward with who they are, who is to say that they didn't fabricate the whole thing in the name of stirring up drama? Good for you for taking a stand and not letting it get to you!
I hate drama. I sit on my lawn and shake my fist at drama.
What a bunch of shit. These 3 need to grow up.
Sorry Kelly, Michelle and Katie and everyone else that is on the board. The original post directed at specifics but it actually is directe at and hurting everyone. We dont need it. We all have our own things to deal with rather than childish crap.
I don't want to give these people the satisfaction of an reaction but I am also disgusted!! Just had to say it again. GGGGRRRRRRR
Kristin
Sorry this is happening again you guys. I wish I knew who it was.
Josie said what I really couldn't put into words. Personally, I think you should out them. And, if you don't out them on the board, you should tell someone at the knot/nest/bump and see if you can get them blocked. I know they could just start up another screen name but seriously... at least it might send a message.
So DRAMA!
Wow what a marked lack of class and character those 3 display. Thank God there are not more of them around!
I am sorry and FWIW; I think you are a great asset to this board!
Katie
I am so sorry Kelly. I find it so pathetic that these women, mothers none the less, can find the time and energy to be so mean. Not the character traits I'm hoping to instill in Emily! Imagine the positive things they could be doing instead...
that is the culprit i'm least shocked by. We are not friends. It was one of the others that made me cry and nearly puke up the contents of my dinner.
I am inclined to believe the chat log was real. It was over an hour long, with time stamps and email address. if someone made it up, it would have taken a lot of energy...so type it all (20 pages if i were to print it) and to also write in 3 different "voices".
And that is why I haven't. My good friends will know. I'm sure word will get around. But really, posting the names here...shocking and hurtful to everyone, including them.
Ditto M! So that we can all know who we need to stay away from too. Definitely awful and agree with PP that as mothers, and grown mature women in this world--that this should NOT be happening!
Wow, seriously this is beyond sad. I feel almost embarassed that this is actually happening. I mean, seriously? Aren't we supposed to be grown adults here? Though I've never seen it, this somehow reminds of that "Mean Girls" movie.
Like what others said, I have to admit that this scares me too b/c I don't want to ever be betrayed or hurt the way you were. Or anyone for that matter. No one deserves to be hurt like this. This is so upsetting. I am so sorry that you got used this way. Big HUGE HUGS to you three.