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CPW: How has sex changed since your BFP?

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CPW: How has sex changed since your BFP? 98 votes

It hasn't really changed.
8% 8 votes
We do it more now.
4% 4 votes
We do it less now.
47% 47 votes
I can't remember the last time we had sexy time.
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  • KatieintheCityKatieintheCity member
    No suggestions, just sympathy, since we're in the same boat over here...
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  • Julieturner507Julieturner507 member
    Yeah, we had had difficulty finding a good position that really works. My belly weighs a billion pounds... Or feels like it anyway. So we have what we like to call "awkward sex", rearranging to try to find something that works. DH will agree that it's better than no sex at all. Ha ha.
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  • PamelacakePamelacake member

    I'm just very nervous about it for now and still in first tri. DH is definitely letting me know he doesn't like it but he understands my concerns. We will hopefully start back soon.

    Doggy style and spooning positions according to the movie, Knocked Up. LOL

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  • Wifey xoWifey xo member
    Cerclage + pelvic/ bed rest = what sex?? I am dangerously close to humping my snoogle :-S

     

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  • pineconeypineconey member
    We were doing ok until I started feeling sick :/

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  • Luckie519Luckie519 member
    I found out I was pregnant on a Saturday night and we went to the doctor Monday morning.  The OBGYN told me not to have sex or me have an orgasm until I get the go ahead from the High Risk OBGYN I have an appointment with on 09/09.  I have done "other stuff" to DH.  We haven't been having sex because I don't want to, because I want to!  Hoping I get cleared on 09/09.

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  • limeblue44limeblue44 member
    We have been doing it a lot less as well. It isn't due to my size as when I lay down you can barely notice my bump, but due to lack of interest on my part. Is anyone else struggling with that?
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  • PamelacakePamelacake member
    @limeblue44 I am and I try to play it off as just being concerned but I am also lacking in the interest department. I don't want to hurt DH's feelings but I think he kind of knows this.
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  • PamelacakePamelacake member
    kklamb10 said:

    I'm just very nervous about it for now and still in first tri. DH is definitely letting me know he doesn't like it but he understands my concerns. We will hopefully start back soon.

    Doggy style and spooning positions according to the movie, Knocked Up. LOL

    We've never been able to do doggy style. Spooning is the only one we've found that sort of works.
    . I was just referring to that movie. I think doggy style would be very uncomfortable. 
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  • jhs121jhs121 member
    It hasn't changed for us since before the BFP, not yet.  Standing in the shower or spooning seems to work best.  Or lately, with the bump more in the way and no more doggie style, I've been taking top position.  Although I'm not always up for doing all the "work," I've enjoyed it much better.  DH needs to be fulfilled somehow so I realize I gotta step up.

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  • boxerbabyloveboxerbabylove member
    I'm too scared to have sex. I think I'm going to wait until after my first real OB appointment at 10 weeks. poor hubby.
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    It increased until I started getting contractions. All I know is that it's been since like 26 weeks...
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  • jap618jap618 member
    Hasn't happened since O which was a month ago.  I have gooey progesterone coming out of me (ha!) and I'm to scared and irrationally afraid of hurting the baby.
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  • jhs121jhs121 member
    kklamb10 said:
    kklamb10 said:

    I'm just very nervous about it for now and still in first tri. DH is definitely letting me know he doesn't like it but he understands my concerns. We will hopefully start back soon.

    Doggy style and spooning positions according to the movie, Knocked Up. LOL

    We've never been able to do doggy style. Spooning is the only one we've found that sort of works.
    . I was just referring to that movie. I think doggy style would be very uncomfortable. 
    Got it! DH suggested doggy style the other night. When I asked him how I was supposed to get into and out of that position he quickly changed his mind!
    We did it for a while.  I would put a pillow under my hips.  DH said it was awkward but it worked.  Now, the belly is too big for it and it's uncomfortable.

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  • MeganWordenMeganWorden member
    we went from an every other day+ average (even when not TTC) to a once maybe twice a week average. It has picked up a bit now that we are playing with different positions that are more comfortable for me! DH has been really good, super supportive.    

      
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  • limeblue44limeblue44 member
    Pamelacake said:
    @limeblue44 I am and I try to play it off as just being concerned but I am also lacking in the interest department. I don't want to hurt DH's feelings but I think he kind of knows this.
    Me too! I try as hard as I can but my sex drive went from like crazy high to NOTHING since my BFP. I have been making an effort to make him feel loved in other ways but I think he see right through me.  :-/
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  • ufsandra85ufsandra85 member
    i am on pelvic rest so none of that for us.

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  • porterlove525porterlove525 member
    DH won't come near me until I'm no longer taking Crinone, he's so freaked out that it will hurt him and he said it's disgusting :-q

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  • Gatorsgirl731Gatorsgirl731 member
    kklamb10 said:
    I need to know who answered "We do it more now." I don't want to call you a liar but really? I need numbers because this seems crazy!


    :-h Um Hi.

    Really are you surprised? 

    Ok 1st tri not until our 12th week and it was glorious.

    From then on close to every other day.  Sometimes we may skip a day or two but then we make up for it and have a love fest.

    1. My hormones are cray cray and every day about 2pm all I want to do is jump his bones, but have to wait till bed time.

    2. DH has had a hard on since we got the BFP.  I think it has something to do with being manly and getting me KTFU.

    3. He also says I'm a goddess, which makes me feel really sexy.

    4. I'm super sensitive like EVERYWHERE.

    I don't like doggy style that doesn't feel the same.  Although being on my hands and knees relieves a lot of pressure from my lower back and hips, so when those are hurting I will assume that position for a few min.  The best for us seem to be me on my back with a pillow, and him setting up, and him standing and me laying down.  Me on top is ok most of the time, but if I feel my belly rub on his I get turned off. lol

     



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  • katigoxkatigox member
    I was in the "we do it more now" category ;)
    But I always get horny in the first trimester xD

    Then I get sick, then I get fatbigger.  And then the belly is so huge, I'm so tired, and the baby is moving around so much that it freaks us both out D=  (Ironically, we both agreed that neither of us would mind ocnitnuing to have sex througouht pregnancy, but right around five months, with my belly visibly moving, it just made us uncomfortable - like a menage a trois with our baby :P)

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  • pineconeypineconey member
    Just DTD tonight and asked DH to get it over with. I TOLD him he would miss the days of me begging him for sex... He should have taken advantage of my friskiness while it lasted.

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