WWA12D?

rp-chicago-mom · August 2013

So do any of you remember my back story about how I didn't want to move to Washington DC but we decided to anyway? And my family flipped the eff out and my sister libeled me on Facebook and I briefly considered just cutting them out of my life?

Oh you don't keep my trials and tribulations in the forefronts of your minds? I thought you did. Anyway, that happened and my BFF from since kindergarten and my sister got into it because my BFF was defending us. Since then, my BFF has decided she can't be friends with my sister. That's fine except she's basically family and she doesn't have any family of her own. Holidays will be awkward.

Three weeks ago, I sent her a FB message asking for her address because she'd moved recently and I had Howie's invites. She never responded and has since sent several unrelated texts and we got drinks together. I think the reason she never responded was because she knows my sister will be there. I know her and she holds a grudge and she evades. Should I ask why she wouldn't respond? And if it is my sister, how offended would you be? The whole thing was seven months ago. She's been in my life for 28 years and like an adoptive sister. I'd assume she would be there.

rp-chicago-mom · August 2013

She knows when and where it is. The invite was a formality and a cute photo card. I talked about his party when we had drinks and she clammed up. I should just send her a text to ask. I just want to decide how much I care if she skips because of my sister. Oh and we were all at the beach the other day and my sister saw her and her bf walk by when I was in the water and she walked by without saying hi. It's childish if you ask me. Sure my sister was a twat and she can forever think of her as such but there's a way to do that gracefully.

twoitalians · August 2013

I'm sorry your BFF is doing that. If it was me in your situation, I would ask her why, and if the reason was because of my sister, I would explain how it made me feel, but that the day should be for my LO and other matters should be set aside for the day. If she still avoids the situation, then it is what it is for the time being.

Buona Fortuna · August 2013

I agree with @twoitalians. She is wise.

bigbootyjudi · August 2013

If you're really that close and she's like a sister, you should be able to just flat out ask her what's up. Just be to the point and ask her what's going on, let her know that you've since gotten over the whole sister thing, that you appreciate that she backed you up, and that the whole thing has blown over.