Facebook group?

Kutieska · August 2013

Is there's Facebook group for us??

ccip82 · August 2013

No.

ETA: And no offense this is your first post, this is why I do not like the idea of a FB group...

Also, you just joined today...

Deblondie1 · August 2013

ccip82 said:

No.

ETA: And no offense this is your first post, this is why I do not like the idea of a FB group...

Also, you just joined today...

Yeah, that's not creepy AT ALL!

sugarland726 · August 2013

One hundred billion times agree with @ccip82.

jldubb0626 · August 2013

Very weird that you'd ask about a FB group with your first post. Sorry, but that screams creeper to me.

ccip82 · August 2013

Someone should create a fake FB account, create a group, and whenever this question arises we can direct the weirdos over there...

Dishylo · August 2013

ccip82 said:

Someone should create a fake FB account, create a group, and whenever this question arises we can direct the weirdos over there...

This!!

sarahlm619 · August 2013

awe -- I like the FB group idea -- however agree -- it shouldn't exactly be the FIRST post from someone!

I got SO much closer to the women on my Knot Month group once we started the FB group. We still all talk on that group...I can hoenstly tell ya it's been a hot second since I've been on TK!

bensmommy518 · August 2013

Just want to throw out there that I saw Facebook pretty much RUIN my BMB with DS. Not everyone was part of it (there are still some people in this world without Facebook like me) and the whole BMB became very cliquey (not sure how to spell that).

Please, please, please, please do not ruin our great group we have here by having half the people switch over to Facebook!!!!!!

sugarland726 · August 2013

sarahlm619 said:

awe -- I like the FB group idea -- however agree -- it shouldn't exactly be the FIRST post from someone!

I got SO much closer to the women on my Knot Month group once we started the FB group. We still all talk on that group...I can hoenstly tell ya it's been a hot second since I've been on TK!

I am totally on board with a FB group. Someday. Not today. If I had my way, not even until after LOs are here. I have a FB group from TB for my BMB with DD (holy acronyms!) and they are the best. I travelled this weekend and met up with 3 of them in person. But a first post asking for all my personal info? Hell to the no.

KimberlyTX · August 2013

I was curious, so I went to look at when my FB group for DD's BMB was started. It was started while we were in second tri, but I remember there were some issues early on with people who only seemed to lurk and worries about trolls. Those girls are some of my closest friends now, but I don't see why we need to rush making one. And when one is made, I hope someone with only one post can't join...

Saltina11 · August 2013

I like the idea of an eventual FB group. Firefly9, myself, vera81, waterlily, and DCRider are all in the same one(s) for our last BMB, which is still quite active 2+ years later.

That said I still think it's too early for this one. I want to say I joined the July 2011 one in March 2011 and we still had our fair share of crazies on the regular for a few months after that.

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nbbride06 · August 2013

Saltina11 said:
I like the idea of an eventual FB group. Firefly9, myself, vera81, waterlily, and DCRider are all in the same one(s) for our last BMB, which is still quite active 2+ years later.
That said I still think it's too early for this one. I want to say I joined the July 2011 one in March 2011 and we still had our fair share of crazies on the regular for a few months after that.

I never joined the July 2011 one. It was started a little too early for me. I'd love to see this one start once the babies are born or maybe just before.

Dishylo · August 2013

@Saltina11 - did your siggy name change? The picture of your little nugget is familiar but the name isn't.

I'm down with a FB group - my sis joined one with both of her boys and is still friends with some of those girls. But.....not yet. We still have some crazies coming and going so let's get rid of them first and then start one.

jldubb0626 · August 2013

I love my 2/12 FB group, but we didn't even make it until after our LO's were born. We're super close and the group is still going strong today. I'd love to be in a FB group with some of you ladies, but I still think it's too early and there are too many random posters still.

LatteLady5 · August 2013

sugarland726 said:

sarahlm619 said:

awe -- I like the FB group idea -- however agree -- it shouldn't exactly be the FIRST post from someone!

I got SO much closer to the women on my Knot Month group once we started the FB group. We still all talk on that group...I can hoenstly tell ya it's been a hot second since I've been on TK!

I am totally on board with a FB group. Someday. Not today. If I had my way, not even until after LOs are here. I have a FB group from TB for my BMB with DD (holy acronyms!) and they are the best. I travelled this weekend and met up with 3 of them in person. But a first post asking for all my personal info? Hell to the no.

There was one that fell apart on my BMB really early that I never participated it.

I'm part of one now that was started after our LO's were 18mos. I like it and am comfortable being a part of it. It's still WAY too early.

jldubb0626 · August 2013

KimberlyTX said:

I was curious, so I went to look at when my FB group for DD's BMB was started. It was started while we were in second tri, but I remember there were some issues early on with people who only seemed to lurk and worries about trolls. Those girls are some of my closest friends now, but I don't see why we need to rush making one. And when one is made, I hope someone with only one post can't join...

I keep forgetting there are 2 2/12 FB groups. I miss some of those ladies from our posting days back on the board!

aessary03 · August 2013

I joined the December fb group (the first one made) and I have to say it's pretty mellow and tame. It is a far cry that was the shit storm of the August 2013 fb group. That one was drama filled and ridiculous. This one is real laid back and easy going. I've actually really been enjoying it.

I wouldn't mind a January fb group if it were filled with the regulars and not people with a hand full of posts.

rowanthefrog · August 2013

Not yet, but probably after our babies are born.

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KimberlyTX · August 2013

jldubb0626 said:

KimberlyTX said:

I was curious, so I went to look at when my FB group for DD's BMB was started. It was started while we were in second tri, but I remember there were some issues early on with people who only seemed to lurk and worries about trolls. Those girls are some of my closest friends now, but I don't see why we need to rush making one. And when one is made, I hope someone with only one post can't join...

I keep forgetting there are 2 2/12 FB groups. I miss some of those ladies from our posting days back on the board!

I confess, I am a dirty lurker on the 2/12 BMB. I post maybe once a month anymore. But it's exciting to see a few of us on this board now!

ChuggingWater · August 2013

I'm impressed I haven't seen this asked in a while.

ccip82 · August 2013

@aessary03 Interesting that you mentioned Aug '13 FB was crazy. I think it was started by moms who are Dec '11 first FB group.

I am in Dec'11 2nd FB group that started well after our LOs were born. I would not be opposed to a FB group, but agree with many of you and would only feel comfortable if it was made up entirely of people who are frequent posters. I still think now is too soon for FB though!

BuckeyeANG · August 2013

For those of you who are in current FB groups, how many members do you have? And of the total, how many would you estimate are active?

sugarland726 · August 2013

BuckeyeANG said:

For those of you who are in current FB groups, how many members do you have? And of the total, how many would you estimate are active?

78, which I have been told is small. It started off near 100, but we do a quarterly purge of anyone who isn't posting at least once a month. We have no tolerance for lurkers.

ccip82 · August 2013

68 members, I would say 50 out of the 68 are active every day.

sarahlm619 · August 2013

We had some drama in our initial FB group -- it was at about 100 people until after we got married -- it dwindled -- but not by much. Then -- it did split off into two different groups because of drama (some women wanted to talk about babies -- others thought it was annoying...it just split up from there.) I was never involved in the drama much -- but the group I belong to has 43 members now.

One of the ladies is on this board too -- I'm such an airhead when I see her post -- multiple times I thought "wow -- I saw that picture on fb too" -- then think "duh dumb a$$ of course you did!" haha

buckeyebride22 · August 2013

I actually was just talking to Katielynn about bringing this up. I started in my feb12 facebook group right around this time in pregnancy. There were around 100 of us. There was a posting minimum. I don't mind starting one, but I wouldn't post a link. Just have people send a pm to see how active they've been first.

LatteLady5 · August 2013

I also just want to point out that not too long ago one of the mods and her Bestie

BuckeyeANG said:

For those of you who are in current FB groups, how many members do you have? And of the total, how many would you estimate are active?

There are 80 members in our group. I think everyone is semi active.

ETA: I'm not fb "friends" with anyone. The only info they have is what I volunteer and my fb profile is pretty private. They can see my name and cover picture but that's it.

KimberlyTX · August 2013

BuckeyeANG said:

For those of you who are in current FB groups, how many members do you have? And of the total, how many would you estimate are active?

There are 90 members in ours right now. I'd say that we have about 15 or 20 that are more occasional posters (maybe once every week or two, and a few that rarely post anymore). A few months after the group was created, there was a purge of people who didn't post at least once a month. That may have happened another time before babies started arriving, but we stopped adding new people after that.

ccip82 · August 2013

I personally am not ready for a FB group yet.

SunflowersBride · August 2013

I guess I just don't understand what the obsession is with a Facebook group? Why can't we chat on here? If we start a Facebook group, will everyone leave this BMB and only chat there?

LatteLady5 · August 2013

SunflowersBride said:

I guess I just don't understand what the obsession is with a Facebook group? Why can't we chat on here? If we start a Facebook group, will everyone leave this BMB and only chat there?

That is pretty much what happened with our BMB. I personally like the group better because is secret so only members can see what has been posted as opposed to any internet lurkyloos. My settings are private so they only know my name and what I reveal.

Again though, it's way too early. Ours didn't start until after our LO's were around 18mos.

wedbliss5 · August 2013

@SunflowersBride The one thing that draws me to it is knowing who is part of it. I hate how PUBLIC this is and how many people can lurk without us ever knowing. I think once the LO's are born, this because even more of an issue as peope don't want to post too much information or pictures and what-not for internet creeps and trolls to run with.

I'm on board with one, but I also think you need to get a group of the regulars together and basically hand pick who you are okay with joining. The mom's group I'm part of now is rather annoying since there is one girl who ONLY posts to ask for formula coupons, and she does it like once a week.

buckeyebride22 · August 2013

SunflowersBride said:
I guess I just don't understand what the obsession is with a Facebook group? Why can't we chat on here? If we start a Facebook group, will everyone leave this BMB and only chat there?

I personally find it easier and felt like I got to know people better.

Firefly9 · August 2013

Saltina11 said:

I like the idea of an eventual FB group. Firefly9, myself, vera81, waterlily, and DCRider are all in the same one(s) for our last BMB, which is still quite active 2+ years later.
That said I still think it's too early for this one. I want to say I joined the July 2011 one in March 2011 and we still had our fair share of crazies on the regular for a few months after that.

We still weeded a few crazies AFTER the babies were born

I think I joined at 8 or so months pregnant. That was plenty early enough for me.

I'm all for waiting awhile longer.

ETA: We never had a "posting minimum" requirement. The crazies weeded themselves out, and what a pain that would be to keep track of--and it causes a lot of drama. However, we did boot a few people recently who hadn't posted in 6+ months (including a crazy that was still around).

ETA#2: We have about 100 girls still after 2 years after weeding out the worst lurkers. Everyone else contributes often enough that we "know" them.

jldubb0626 · August 2013

BuckeyeANG said:

For those of you who are in current FB groups, how many members do you have? And of the total, how many would you estimate are active?

We have about 95 members with almost all of us being active members. I think there may be a handful of ladies, 10-15 who lurk more than post, but they're still active enough that they're in the loop with everything. The 2nd 2/12 group, that I'm a part of, doesn't have posting minimums or anything.

jldubb0626 · August 2013

SunflowersBride said:

I guess I just don't understand what the obsession is with a Facebook group? Why can't we chat on here? If we start a Facebook group, will everyone leave this BMB and only chat there?

It depends on the activity of the FB group and the board. For my 2/12 group almost everyone is exclusively FB because we were pretty much the only posters left after the 1st FB group left so there wasn't anyone to go back to on TB board. If there are enough posters here to keep the board active, I'd personally post in both places.

ETA: And the personal connection you get with posters on FB is SO much greater than here on TB. Ladies have done IRL meet ups with other moms that wouldn't have been possible without being in a FB group vs. here. And the privacy is a lot better on FB than here as well.

SunflowersBride · August 2013

wedbliss5 said:

@SunflowersBride The one thing that draws me to it is knowing who is part of it. I hate how PUBLIC this is and how many people can lurk without us ever knowing. I think once the LO's are born, this because even more of an issue as peope don't want to post too much information or pictures and what-not for internet creeps and trolls to run with.

I'm on board with one, but I also think you need to get a group of the regulars together and basically hand pick who you are okay with joining. The mom's group I'm part of now is rather annoying since there is one girl who ONLY posts to ask for formula coupons, and she does it like once a week.

I get what you're saying, but I guess for me I just don't post what I don't want people to know. I also think creeps have a way of finding things out on Facebook too, even if you are careful about privacy settings (one of the reasons I haven't posted an ultrasound photo).

Also, who decides who's considered a "regular" poster? I get that a person who posts once to ask about a Facebook group obviously wouldn't make the cut, but it seems that maybe there would be people who maybe aren't creepers but just can't really post a lot at work but still like reading and being involved. I dunno, I guess I worry more about putting my personal pictures and things out there than being more guarded on an anonymous forum like this.

katie-lynn3313 · August 2013

the 2/12 BMB month board was started around this time and still going strong. We have lost members of the 2 yrs but that is normal and to be expected. We have about 90 members. You really do get to know people more in that sort of format.

Like it has been mentioned only ppl who were active on the board joined and at first we had rules about posting to avoid random lurkers. It worked for us and I have made some really close friends on that board- some I have even been lucky enough to meet in real life.

BuckeyeANG · August 2013

Ok those numbers are way lower than I expected. I was briefly part of the March12 group (which spun off into like 6 different groups) and there were 400 women in the main group. 400!!!!! I ended up leaving because I was mostly a lurker anyways as there was just way too much going on to try to keep up with it.

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