Should I throw myself a baby shower?

DebateThis · August 2013

Throw3ks said:

I'm not say I didn't say that. My point is I didn't use anyone's name. And how is it relevant to what I said on this particular thread. I was commenting on something another member posted.

It's relevant because it's yet another case of you talking shit and being utterly clueless about how the world works.

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dnt27 · August 2013

Throw3ks said:
I also didn't use a members name. It was all assumption by everyone.

I just went back and re-read the diaper pale/genie thread. DT was the one and only to give us that knowledge...way to be an asshat. You should probably just apologize.

Throw3ks · August 2013

Understood.

Throw3ks · August 2013

I'm truly not worried about it. No matter who says/said what. You have all the right to call me out on whatever I say. It's a public forum.

LoveOfMikesLife · August 2013

Do NOT throw one for yourself. Can you talk to a sister/SIL, friend and see if they will throw one for you?

countrygirl15327 · August 2013

I've heard of people having a "baby naming party" after their baby arrives. There is still time for a shower! Maybe someone will plan you something.

Elreid · August 2013

This isn't a stupid question, I think that EVERY mom on the bump would be upset and want to throw herself a shower if no one else was planning one. I wouldn't throw a baby shower, but maybe have a small "meet and greet" at your own home when you are settled with baby. I have a ton of friends that can't come to my baby shower because of budget, but we are having a day in December when everyone is home from school to have friends over to the house to meet him. Good luck and congrats on your LO.

LoveOfMikesLife · August 2013

That poster that likes to talk shit about our loved regulars is a dumb ass! I really hope she doesn't expect to get much support anymore! Disagreements are one thing but to talk shit about someone just because they are a wealth of useful knowledge is ignorant.

DebateThis · August 2013

LOL, you guys are the best.

And seriously, did she think I pulled that comment out of my ass? It's been on the box of various types of disposable diapers for years and the AAP website even says to flush poo before you throw away a 'sposie.

Moron.

DebateThis · August 2013

CFox815 said:

LOL, you guys are the best.

And seriously, did she think I pulled that comment out of my ass? It's been on the box of various types of disposable diapers for years and the AAP website even says to flush poo before you throw away a 'sposie.

Moron.
Truthfully, I had no idea so I was happy you said that the other day. But ... I've never changed a diaper in my life, so I think I have quite a few things to learn before November.

It's *probably* not 100% necessary in most major cities in the US, since as it was noted in the other post, most landfills are better equipped to handle disposable diapers and human waste than they used to be. BUT not all areas of the US have clean drinking water and not all landfills follow proper EPA guidelines, and in fact one Chicago suburb was just under a boil all water order last week due to finding fecal coliform bacteria in the drinking water supply.

Between the stink issue with keeping dirty diapers in a pail/trash can (and pets potentially getting into them) and the small-but-present risk of poo getting into our drinking water, I'd rather do what I can to reduce that risk.

Elreid · August 2013

estreyas said:

Elreid said:

This isn't a stupid question, I think that EVERY mom on the bump would be upset and want to throw herself a shower if no one else was planning one. I wouldn't throw a baby shower, but maybe have a small "meet and greet" at your own home when you are settled with baby. I have a ton of friends that can't come to my baby shower because of budget, but we are having a day in December when everyone is home from school to have friends over to the house to meet him. Good luck and congrats on your LO.

Well, I can provide some empirical evidence for you... I'm not upset, and have no intention of throwing my own, since no one is planning one for me.

I'm sorry, I worded that wrong. If someone thought that it was important and really wanted to have that memory then I was just trying to give another suggestion. Sorry!

Terrilippy · August 2013

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Elreid · August 2013

GOBLU1274 said:

Elreid said:
This isn't a stupid question, I think that EVERY mom on the bump would be upset and want to throw herself a shower if no one else was planning one. I wouldn't throw a baby shower, but maybe have a small "meet and greet" at your own home when you are settled with baby. I have a ton of friends that can't come to my baby shower because of budget, but we are having a day in December when everyone is home from school to have friends over to the house to meet him. Good luck and congrats on your LO.
Saying EVERY lady on TB would like to throw herself a shower is a gross overstatement. A shower is not an entitlement, it's a gift. If a friend or family member does not step up and volunteer to throw a shower, unfortunately mom-to-be doesn't get to have one. Throwing yourself a shower is poor etiquette.

Did you not read the comment above?! I said I worded it wrong. Move on.

Kfran84 · August 2013

This MUDdy post got real interesting in a different way. Team DT!!

Stash2Sisco · August 2013

jacqgomar said:
People on here are crazy about giving yourself a shower. In fact I didn't even read any of the comments cuz I'm sure more than half are going to be rude. I say do it! No one needs to know you planned it yourself, it's a party to celebrate you becoming a mom. Just have someone run the games, if you are in to that. My mom is "hosting" my shower but really she is making me do everything since she thinks I'm too picky. She is just bank rolling most of it. Just have fun, enjoy your party. Don't feel bad about doing it, you only have your first child once.

Yep. Same. I love my mom to pieces but she's not really a proactive planner, and she's desperately afraid of picking/planning something I won't like. So she and my mother in law are officially hosting but I've picked the venue, invites, food, etc. I don't really see the problem with being involved in the planning to make it what you want and it's not like you're going to print "THIS WAS ALL MY IDEA AND I HOPE I GET GREAT PRESENTS" on the invites. Sheesh. The shower should be about the celebration with your fam and friends, not the gifts.

Lindsayloring1 · August 2013

Save your money and buy the items that you will need for your baby. I dont see anything wrong with having a sip and see party or a meet the baby get together after LO is born. Most of the time, people will bring a little something to an event like that, but usually it isnt big ticket items like strollers and carseats...and I wouldnt expect people to bring things, I personally just dont like to show up empty-handed

I would just get what you need for your baby like PP's have said already. Dont forget to use coupons! Also there are a ton of online facebook groups that are specifically for buying, selling, and swapping gently used baby items. We have gotten most of our essentials this way, and we have saved hundreds of dollars! Good Luck!

Lindsayloring1 · August 2013

dollphnfreek10 said:

@Lindsayloring1 Never heard of a "sip and see" party before. LOVE THAT! Sounds super cute and love love love the "sip" part! Just may do that!

I have had a couple of my girlfriends that are STMs host one at their own homes for close friends and family to stop by. It's also a great way to reduce the hospital traffic!

I fully intend on having one myself - it is our year to host the annual family Christmas Eve gathering.. PERFECT!

Harperdawn · August 2013

I'm not having one as well but I'm not worrying about throwing one myself. No point in wasting the money when I can use it for the babys needs

eleanorserina1 · August 2013

In England, we do not have baby showers.If someone does have a shower,its not common. Neither are there any strict rules of who throws it.

I say, keep the money and spend it on your baby. Why spend it on throwing a shower if you're unsure if the people attending are A) your friends or b) genuinely happy for you.

It could also just be that everyone is assuming someone else will be organising a party for you? Either way, if people want to buy you a gift when baby is born they will.

I know it's your first child and you would love to experience a shower as you're excited about your blessing, nevertheless, I say get the stuff you need for baby, enjoy and get excited about that

mclaughlin89 · August 2013

I say either through ur own or strongly suggest that someone close to you does.

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