terrified of miscarriage?

PenWedding · December 2008

I'm only 3-4 weeks pregnant and eagerly awaiting my first ultrasound in a few weeks. In the mean time, I'm obsessed with worry of a miscarriage (for no real reason). Does anyone else find them self analyzing every little twich and ache? I need to stop obsessing and just be optimistic!

jeng329 · December 2008

I think everyone does that.

The odds are in your favor and stress isn't good for you.

As far as you know, everything is great- go with that!?

Carrie50 · December 2008

Yes - I'm so nervous. The past few days I've been trying to think postive thoughts and remind myself that I have no indications that a miscarry is going to happen. And there is nothing I can do to control it.

iluvtom · December 2008

I do too...I worry all the time and I am just trying to enjoy the moment for now. good luck

mrshutch · December 2008

Ditto PP- stress isn't good for you! But I know it's hard not to worry. I definitely have the same concern, especially after having gone through one, but I also have a beautiful, healthy daughter. Miscarriage is a sad part of life and they happen, but you've got to think of all of the pregnancies that go just fine. Enjoy your happy news right now- think about getting a pregnancy magazine or book if you haven't already.

Best wishes- I know how hard it is to wait for the 1st appt.- I have mine tomorrow and am concentrating on thinking happy thoughts.

MattysGirl81 · December 2008

Yep. I had my first ultrasound and breathed a big sigh of relief. It only took a few days to start worrying again. I have another ultrasound on Thursday and I am so nervous. I've read too many sad stories on these boards and don't want to be adding one.

PenWedding · December 2008

Thank you all for your responses. I'm just reading into everything which is just unneeded stress. I'm having some lower back pain right now and am convinced something is wrong. I'm also 6' tall and do get back pain once in a while so I just need to real myself back into reality!

THANKS! Keep the responses coming. Good luck to all!

aldyn · December 2008

I've had a m/c, so I've been especially worried during this pregnancy. What I kept telling myself during that first trimester was that healthy pregnancies started just like this pregnancy started. I concentrated on just being happy for each day that I was still pregnant. There's not much more you can do but that!

N&G 5_26_07 · December 2008

I have been like this too. I feel reassured when I have an appointment but after a few weeks my worry returns. Have you thought about renting a home doppler to be able to listen to the hb when ever you need some reassurance? Just an idea. I didn't but wish I had thought of it sooner. (Now I am hoping I start feeling kicks soon and that will be my reassurance!)

easjer05 · December 2008

Yeah, I spent of my pregnancy in fear of miscarriage. Even when I told myself I was relaxing because of my symptoms or the week mark I hit, I was terrified.

It's normal.

That terror became real for me, and it was one of the worst things I've ever gone through. And I came out the other side and survived.

So, what I'm trying to say is - don't worry, if you can avoid any worry. Worry detracts from enjoying a healthy pregnancy (which odds say you have a good shot at having). Worry doesn't change a miscarriage or prevent it from happening, nor does it soften the blow if it does. And if it does happen - you will cope, you will find a way to live through it and survive.

So do what you can to relax and to try and enjoy this experience, even if it's short-lived. It's not easy - worry doesn't just shut itself off, but . . . try to do what you can.

tumpkin · December 2008

I worry about it ALL the time. It took us a while to get pregnant, and we had to seek professional help in order to get pregnant, so I feel that this baby is a blessing. I'm also 34 and having my 1st. I feel like I started late, so I really don't want anything to happen where I need to start over again. I find myself analyzing what I eat and what I do. I wonder if there is anything that I have done to put my baby at risk of any complications, so on and so forth. I think this is normal. I'm learning to relax a little and believe that all is going to be OK.

ibis · December 2008

I had a major meltdown about it last week - I spent most of the week in a state of heightened anxiety. This week, I feel fine and optimistic. I think part of it is normal worry and part of it is your pregnancy hormones blowing things out of proportion. Just try to think positive. A good cry in my H's arms helped me a lot.

SoonToBeMommy09 · December 2008

I did. In fact, at almost 36 weeks, I am still nervous. I previously had a m/c and it's always in the back of my head. I could tell you to try not to be nervous but I know it probably won't help. As time passes, and you hit milestones, it will become easier though.

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