How To Tell My Parents ?

Julyce12 · August 2013

I'm 19 years old and this would be my first baby I'm 7 weeks and I'm just not sure how to tell my family let alone my parents I know everyone is gonna be against it . & even tho me and my mother have a really good relationship this may break her heart she might feel to young to be a grandmother in her words ... Help

thumper11 · August 2013

First, please use punctuation; I can't take you seriously when you use run on sentences.

Second, who cares if she thinks "she's to young to be a grandmother". It's not up to her, it's up to you. Live your life and if you want this than make it happen!

Sit her down like the grown women you should be (you are going to be a mother) and tell her women to women.

I'm sorry to be so harsh, but it's times like this that I don't understand why we have to care so much about what everyone else thinks. I know its easier said than done, believe me. But we need to take care of ourselves and if family wants to be involved and be supportive then they can. If not, that's on them. Not you.

Good luck telling her! Sending you good vibs

Katiecave · August 2013

Is there another member of your family that might be more understanding/ you might feel more comfortable talking to? I feel like getting advice on breaking the news to your mom might be better coming from someone who knows her. It also might be nice to have someone already on your side when you tell her

boxerbabylove · August 2013

I got pregnant at 17, which wasn't ideal under any circumstances. It's a little different than where you are since you've graduated from high school already but I know what it can be like to tell your parents when you know they aren't going to be happy about it.

My advice, Know what you want and stick to it. If you're committed to keeping the baby make it clear and don't let your family try and convince you to change that based on their opinions and feelings. I say this because when you are younger the option of giving up your baby automatically seems reasonable to some.

I ended up losing my baby in the second trimester and it became a moot point. My parents weren't happy but they stuck with me. Is the father part of the picture?

TMVG · August 2013

Does the father know and want the baby? And, as a previous poster mentioned, is there another person you can confide in that can help you tell your mom?
You may be surprised that she might actually be excited. But, also anticipate some mixed reactions. Know that whatever the reaction is it is likely out of love and concern for you.
Especially if you think there may be pressure to abort your child, arm yourself with knowledge about the growth of your child and other support in the community if you may need it.
*hugs* I will pray for you and your family. It's an exciting time but bound to be an array of emotions for everyone.

partridgeb06 · August 2013

Wow, I am shocked that you would immediately insult someone in your first sentence. This is a supportive place, why put someone down and then provide your advice? No one cares if you can't take someone serious because of their writing skill level, save the rude words.

thumper11 · August 2013

It's understandably a supportive place, but it wasn't an insult. It was a suggestion. I'm sure I'm not the only one who dislikes reading run on sentences that are hard to understand. @Partridgeb06 , didn't you just do the same thing to me?

boxerbabylove · August 2013

Ladies let's just let it go. No need to cloud this post with drama. The way to have addressed it without being rude and attacking would have been to say that run on sentences are hard to read and that it would be helpful if she used more punctuation (which is true). the comment about taking her seriously was unneeded and added nothing to the conversation.

Hormones are high with us all ladies. What is done is done so lets focus on what is important, Helping @julyce12 get through her difficult time.

thumper11 · August 2013

My apologies. I should have worded it differently. @julyce12 , I really do hope your mom understands and supports your decision you make! Good luck

partridgeb06 · August 2013

Difference: She reached out for support and help, and your first sentence was very rude (and could really make someone feel insecure), you were not seeking support in a post. Therefore, no I did not do the "same" thing to you. Why step on someone when they are obviously down? Does it make you feel better to point out someone's flaws (just because they are annoy you), come on.

boxerbabylove · August 2013

@partridgeb06 she apologized. Please let it go.

partridgeb06 · August 2013

Oops, let me correct myself- "annoying".. Haha, don't want any spelling or grammar shout outs.. We are all here for support, just be nice

amhah09 · August 2013

thumper11 said:
First, please use punctuation; I can't take you seriously when you use run on sentences.

Second, who cares if she thinks "she's to young to be a grandmother". It's not up to her, it's up to you. Live your life and if you want this than make it happen!

Sit her down like the grown women you should be (you are going to be a mother) and tell her women to women.

I'm sorry to be so harsh, but it's times like this that I don't understand why we have to care so much about what everyone else thinks. I know its easier said than done, believe me. But we need to take care of ourselves and if family wants to be involved and be supportive then they can. If not, that's on them. Not you.

Good luck telling her! Sending you good vibs

You know what bothers me more than run on sentences? People who don't know the difference between "then" and "than" and "woman" (singular) vs "women" (plural). If you're going to *suggest* someone use punctuation, then check your spelling before you post.

boxerbabylove · August 2013

partridgeb06 said:

Oops, let me correct myself- "annoying".. Haha, don't want any spelling or grammar shout outs.. We are all here for support, just be nice

petty and uncalled for, Take a breathe and walk away. We're all adults here, can we act like it?

partridgeb06 · August 2013

Posted before seeing her apology. Kudos for the apology, great to see

boxerbabylove · August 2013

Julyce12 said:

I'm 19 years old and this would be my first baby I'm 7 weeks and I'm just not sure how to tell my family let alone my parents I know everyone is gonna be against it . & even tho me and my mother have a really good relationship this may break her heart she might feel to young to be a grandmother in her words ... Help

Please let us know how your conversation goes with your mom.

Julyce12 · August 2013

Sure no problem, when ever it is I get the balls to do so . ( ended the sentence )

boxerbabylove · August 2013

Julyce12 said:
Sure no problem, when ever it is I get the balls to do so . ( ended the sentence )

Putting it off might just make it worse. Stress is the enemy. For me the stress of telling and all the imagined reactions was way worse than the actual telling. Once it is done, it's done. Ya know?

steph1977 · August 2013

playingonadream said:

partridgeb06 said:

Oops, let me correct myself- "annoying".. Haha, don't want any spelling or grammar shout outs.. We are all here for support, just be nice

petty and uncalled for, Take a breathe and walk away. We're all adults here, can we act like it?

Take a "breath".

boxerbabylove · August 2013

steph1977 said:

playingonadream said:

partridgeb06 said:

Oops, let me correct myself- "annoying".. Haha, don't want any spelling or grammar shout outs.. We are all here for support, just be nice

petty and uncalled for, Take a breathe and walk away. We're all adults here, can we act like it?

Take a "breath".

Was actually going for take a breather lol :P

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