FWIW.. I would talk to the adoptive parents and see what names they are leaning towards and discuss a few names with them. Just a thought. Good Luck to you.
Maverick James 01.07.2012 * Married 01.23.2010 * Harper Skye 01.24.2013
Yeah, I'm 17. My case worker says almost all her bio moms named their babies, but only about 30% were kept. Higher at 60% in open adoptions. I just wanted opinions because I don't wanna pick a name they are gonna hate I want to have a shot at them keeping her name
And you really think this is a name they are going to want to keep?!?! Seriously??! )
Okay I'll bite. As far as names that might work, if you like the sound of Duvet, you might think about Ava, Eva, Olivia?
Also, I went to college with a girl named Nova and I thought that was a lovely name. Unusual and could work for boy or girl, which you said were important to you, but isn't something you buy at BB&B.
Indygirl, giving up your baby is the most beautiful and selfless thing you can do. I applaud your bravery and my heart aches for what I can only imagine you must be feeling. Give your baby girl a name that MEANS something. Whether the adoptive parents keep the name or not, if she ever looks back at the original birth certificate she will know she meant something to you.
You have got to be kidding me. This post must be made up. On the off chance that it is not, hell no! That is not a name; it's what you sleep with!!!!! Would you name your kid Pillow?
Where I live no one uses the word duvet EVER. So I don't think it's that bad
Where in the heck do you live that no one uses the word duvet? It IS that bad. Just because you don't use the word personally doesn't mean you should give that name to your child. I don't call a shopping cart a "buggy" like people do in some areas of the US and no one for a couple hundred miles around me does either, but I wouldn't name my kid Buggy just because no one I know uses that word.
If you are wanting to give your birth child a meaningful name, how about Irene? You stated in another thread that this name is a family name that has been used for 5 generations. You said that your baby is being adopted by a family that is local to you and that the adoption is open, maybe if you talk to them they would consider letting you pick Irene for the baby's middle name.
I can not believe that this thread is still going on and that there are people who fall for this s$%t.
There is no baby.
I just saw this thread today for the first time, I ignored it thinking that it was the previous Duvet thread. I know a lot of you think this is MUD, but the idea of what if there is a 17 yr old pregnant girl reaching out, stopped me from calling her out. I am less convinced that she owns a horse than anything else.
Indy, if the adoption is open, simply consult the adoptive parents for names that they like. Get a list if possible, otherwise a style will do. Find a name that is on their list/their style and that you also like. That will probably maximize your chances for them keeping the name, or keeping it as a middle name.
If you don't want to do that, I would choose a name that has significance, not one that sounds "pretty" (if it sounds pretty too, then consider it a win). Mainly because this child is going to associate that name with you and where she came from. If it's "pretty," but it's shallow, it's not going to mean as much to her than if it's a name with significance and meaning regarding the family she came from/is a part of in some way.
Duvet (or Duvae) does not have meaning to you or your family and is just something that you heard that you thought was pretty. Most people don't think the name is appropriate for a child - thus your adoptive parents will most likely change it, which you say is what you don't want. Also, your daughter won't be able to look at it and say, "I feel closer to my mother because she chose this name," she'll likely say, "I don't know why my mother named me this." Wouldn't you rather her think of you with the former sentiment and not the latter. Therefore, I don't think this name is what you are looking for - I don't think it will accomplish what you want in a name for your daughter. I don't have other suggestions for you, other than to talk with the adoptive parents if you are able.
I saw it on Say Yes To The Dress as well. I actually think it's a really
pretty name. Yes, I know it's a comforter but personally I've never
used the word 'duvet'. I just stick with comforter or quilt. So
especially using a different spelling I think it makes a lovely,
feminine name.
Re: Duvet?
Maverick James 01.07.2012 * Married 01.23.2010 * Harper Skye 01.24.2013
And you really think this is a name they are going to want to keep?!?! Seriously??!
I'm happy we could help. As a PP said, it would be better to choose a similar sounding name, such as Danae.
I can not believe that this thread is still going on and that there are people who fall for this s$%t.
There is no baby.
I am less convinced that she owns a horse than anything else.
Duvae or any other variation is horrendous.
If you don't want to do that, I would choose a name that has significance, not one that sounds "pretty" (if it sounds pretty too, then consider it a win). Mainly because this child is going to associate that name with you and where she came from. If it's "pretty," but it's shallow, it's not going to mean as much to her than if it's a name with significance and meaning regarding the family she came from/is a part of in some way.
Duvet (or Duvae) does not have meaning to you or your family and is just something that you heard that you thought was pretty. Most people don't think the name is appropriate for a child - thus your adoptive parents will most likely change it, which you say is what you don't want. Also, your daughter won't be able to look at it and say, "I feel closer to my mother because she chose this name," she'll likely say, "I don't know why my mother named me this." Wouldn't you rather her think of you with the former sentiment and not the latter. Therefore, I don't think this name is what you are looking for - I don't think it will accomplish what you want in a name for your daughter. I don't have other suggestions for you, other than to talk with the adoptive parents if you are able.
GL!