Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
JBDamonM
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Re: It's Friday..... time for some flame free confessions!
The best part is that my brother said I shouldn't get mad at him for not automatically cleaning up, that I should just ask him for help. Sounds great huh? Until I ask him for help and he whines because he wants to play games instead.
Dude, you are 25 years old and no job. I dont care if you have depression. Get off your butt and clean up your mess!
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But I will say - I don't think it's fair when SAHM's can produce good pumping sessions. Makes me a little bitter!
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I think the whole obsession with breastfeeding and "ZOMG I'd never use formula!", "ZOMG, I will be so devastated if I can't breastfeed" culture is sort of... stupid. Shrug. Just feed you kid. I feel the same way about the conversation about when to start solids. Shrug. Who cares. Just do what works for your family.
Are you guys me? My sister is 18 and supposed to be starting college on the 26th. I helped pay for her books, a few of her classes, helped her register, and so forth. She is also staying with me because my mom is on one of her "episodes". She tells me today that she doesn't really feel like going to school. She doesn't have a job and just sits on my couch like a walrus watching MTV all day. I told her ass if she doesn't want to work or go to school then she needs to go back home because I'm not about to take care of two babies.
Thank you for saying this! I agree 100%! My kid is healthy, happy, and formula fed.
Lol, a walrus.
Yeah, my brother doesn't have his GED either. I gave up on that battle long ago. He used to work very hard but has thrown it all away now. He was diagnosed with depression at the end of last year. The passing of our dad afterward really pushed him over the edge. He tried to commit suicide and was hospitalized for a while after DD was born. I am glad he is somewhere safe and I can keep an eye on him. And I get that he is suffering, so I try to be as supportive as best I can, but sheesh... I am not superwoman. I need him to at least try. He has a lot of stuff to work out but sitting in his room all day and acting like a complete slob is not the answer.
My LO loves the nanny...I secretly am very jealous for some wierd reason. When I get home from work at 5 she usually says go shower, make dinner and get settled you have me until 7. I always says no it's okay but she always insists. While she is there is seems like LO only has "eyes" for her and all the giggles and smiles make me jealous that he's forgetting me. I should be happy he loves her but i'm irrational and crazy like that.
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@lilbit0910 never that, everyone deserves it from time to time lol
@Mansmeesh I was angry at the though of her just plopped on my couch & that's the animal that came to find lmao
I'm really annoyed with DH about money. He had this car that he helped his dad fix up when he was in high school. It is an old car, but not really a classic. It isn't worth much and he never drives it. I want him to sell it since it just takes up space in our garage and costs $ to insure. But then he hit our garage with it and now it will cost us $1200 to fix the POS to sell it for $5k on a good day.
I've been putting a lot of pressure on DH to unload the car at a steep discount just so it isn't our problem anymore. Probably not entirely fair but it isn't like I have a comparable expensive, depreciating asset that costs us $$ to insure and maintain that I'm refusing to sell... I'm talking about selling jewelry and old purses and givig up wine to help fund daycare, so seems like he should be willing to sell the car.
I wish we made enough to make the tax write off tempting, but we are already pretty deduction-rich with student loan interest, FHA mortgage, and two little cash eating machines a.k.a. children.
The stupid thing is that DH has a bunch of auto body people in his family who could at least repair it at a discount to sell it, but he doesn't want to admit that he hit the garage with it... As my mom said, pride is expensive.
Ahh. Though we can't do another baby right now and would be crazy to even think about it!
I am starting to resent my MIL for watching her on Tuesdays even though i should t..I think I'm just more upset my mom can't because of health issues and I feel like its all about DH family and never mine