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Work Exit Strategy Help
I'm 31 weeks 3 days. I have a very stressful job but do get to sit at a desk all day. The current plan is for me to deliver somewhere from 34-36 weeks depending on how things look at my growth scan next week. My MFM has said he'll write me a note whenever I would like him to but I feel like work expects me to come in up until I deliver. I honestly could suffer through a few more weeks but I don't want to. I'm incredibly uncomfortable and have short term disability insurance to help out since work will only pay me for 6 weeks.
We hired a temp to fill in while I am out and she started yesterday. I hope not to work after next week but when I hint around about it, I get blank stares. I don't want to be seen as a slacker so I'm not sure how to convey that I need to go ahead and start leave. Any advice? It is obvious that I am uncomfortable but I don't think my coworkers see this as different than any other pregnancy.
We hired a temp to fill in while I am out and she started yesterday. I hope not to work after next week but when I hint around about it, I get blank stares. I don't want to be seen as a slacker so I'm not sure how to convey that I need to go ahead and start leave. Any advice? It is obvious that I am uncomfortable but I don't think my coworkers see this as different than any other pregnancy.
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Re: Work Exit Strategy Help
I'd have your doctor write you a note for when you want to start and blame it on him.
Hope these next weeks fly for you and you get some rest.
My plan is to try to work up until I give birth (as long as there are no complications) because I only get 12 weeks (by FMLA) maternity leave whether that is taken before or after birth (or a combination thereof.) I have short term disability insurance too, but I think it only pays out for 8 weeks. I will take the other 4 weeks unpaid, but I would rather be home when the babies get here.
That being said, if you are too uncomfortable, no one can side-eye you with a doctor's note. I am sure the doctor's note will say it is a medical necessity. I would probably drop a few hints to my co-workers that I am really upset to have to leave but my doctor is forcing me.
Good luck and I hope you feel some relief!
I'm probably only going to be able to manage 8 weeks off after the babies are born regardless of whether I take off before or not. There is going to be a lot of pressure on me to get back.
Listen to your body. I started telling people in my office well in advance so they were prepared for my departure. I ended up working until 34.5 weeks. But honestly, I think people expected it, since I was pregnant with twins. It's definitely a lot harder on your body from a singleton pregnancy. When I was pregnant with or DS I worked up until the day I went into labor. With the twins, I was exhausted by 6 months!
Even being home from may 5 to delivery, I was miserable. Listen to your body, rest and relax!
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And with the delivery trifecra of one twin vaginal, one c-section with general anesthesia for twin B, Spencer and Sidney joined us at 35 weeks exactly on June 18.