32 weeks and baby has dropped!!

rmtafoya · August 2013

Hey all,

I'm 32 weeks and 3 days along with a baby boy. I saw my doctor today and he told me that the baby has dropped. Is it normal for a baby to drop so early? For those of you who have already had children, i'd love your opinions...for those of you who are also pregnant and expecting around the same time as me, have you dropped yet? i'm worried that i'll be delivering too early, although my doctor did not tell me i was at risk for a preterm labor or update my expected due date.

thanks!

babyLOLO13 · August 2013

rmtafoya said:

Hey all,

I'm 32 weeks and 3 days along with a baby boy. I saw my doctor today and he told me that the baby has dropped. Is it normal for a baby to drop so early? For those of you who have already had children, i'd love your opinions...for those of you who are also pregnant and expecting around the same time as me, have you dropped yet? i'm worried that i'll be delivering too early, although my doctor did not tell me i was at risk for a preterm labor or update my expected due date.

thanks!

Pretty sure you just answered your own question. Why didn't you ask the doctor when he said that instead of random women who know nothing about your pregnant history besides "your baby has dropped"?

imakeeff0rts · August 2013

Did your doctor seem concerned about it?

Babies can "drop" at any time, but they can also come back up. DS has dropped three or four times now...and risen three or four times. I wouldn't really think anything of it.

burmann · August 2013

I am 33 weeks....but I def. dropped at 32 weeks. It was obvious. I go to the doc. on Thursday and I was kind of wondering the same thing. According to my "google research," on average people give birth 2-4 weeks after dropping. I'm not sure how accurate that is..but I plan on asking my doctor this week.

shakes · August 2013

Sometimes it's just baby position. My son dropped more than once before he settled into the pelvis at 34 weeks and I still was induced and that induction failed. I wouldn't be concerned.

BelhurstBride · August 2013

I don't know which pregnancy books you've been ready but I wouldn't recommend it to any of your friends. Baby dropping is in no way an indication of when you may or may not go into labor.

rmtafoya · August 2013

Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!

WashingtonQueen · August 2013

rmtafoya said:

Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!

Ummm, excuse you?

SuperSecretStatus · August 2013

rmtafoya said:
Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!

kcs7 · August 2013

rmtafoya said:

Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!

lol I think I can see where you are coming from a little, even if others do not agree.

I just wouldn't respond to those who reply with a twinge of sarcasm or criticism. I have wondered a few times why people have to respond in a manner anything other than nice and encouraging, as I though this was a place to look for encouragement and camaraderie, but some may not be on that page, It's ok. Just how it is. Don't worry. You just want to talk to others who may have had the same experience or just hear their stories, understandable. Always good to ask your doctor though, or if you are like me, you don't ask because you don't think about it, and in the mean time, you want to get encouragement, so you write on here, but forget by the time your next doctor's appointment comes around, or, by then it may not be relevant. Either way, it's natural to want to talk to people and get information. That's how you learn!

So don't feel bad about it. Oh, and I was going to say, write the questions down though and take them with you to next doctor's appointment. I have to do this or I forget, but then of course I remember 5 minutes after the appointment. And we don't like to get in trouble for not asking while at our doctor's eh? lol

Hope people smile. It's a good day to just choose to relax and be happy.

ejh090305 · August 2013

Just means you can breathe a little easier but it will be more difficult to walk in my experience. I've heard women drop sooner in first pregnancies but don't know if its true.

Staceylynn602 · August 2013

I'm jealous! Can't wait for my LO to drop so I can breathe!!

emmylou78 · August 2013

Don't be scared to ask your doctor questions about stuff like that. He/she is going to be the one that knows best! Especially if they are the one that said it. I wouldn't worry, and just see what they say at the next appt. Always ask though! You'll feel better

imakeeff0rts · August 2013

mishkaroni said:

I'll never understand how people can be told something by their Dr, not ask right then and there but come to an internet forum with people who are not Drs and get butthurt with the responses they get. If you forget to think in that moment, certainly there's nothing stopping you from picking up the phone and asking that way, correct?

This. This 100%.

Prior to the"ermegersh guise quit being so meeeeaaaannnn" post, none of the responses were snarky. PPs asked legitimate questions and gave legitimate answers to OP's question. This is NOT necessarily a support board. If you ask for advice, that's what you're going to get - and you may not like all of it. Period. That's what happens when you join a public internet forum filled with women of different backgrounds and opinions. Some are butterflies and rainbows, others are going to give it to you straight.

If you can't handle it go somewhere else....like your doctor.

llybeck · August 2013

rmtafoya said:
Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!

People can respond however they want, if you wanted a definitive response you could have, oh, I don't know... ASKED YOUR DOCTOR. If they told you they weren't concerned, well there you go, do you trust us more than your OB? No one was mean to you, if you're going to ask something like this it's your responsibility to understand you're going to get a variety of responses, none of which are going to be actual medical advice because we are not your OB.

Also, this is something you probably should have educated yourself about at this point to be honest with you. Dropping and engaging are not the same thing. Even if your LO was engaged at this point, that still isn't a clear indication of when labor will happen. But then again, I wouldn't expect you to know what engaging means either. Sigh...

llybeck · August 2013

Also, no one needs counseling or a pillow to punch. Sounds like you're the one lashing out with that suggestion, no? Thing is, these questions get pretty fucking old when a lot of us have been responsible for taking control of our health and the health of our LO's by researching, reading, and talking to our OBs. Seems like that should be the common sense thing to do but apparently not.

kcs7 · August 2013

llybeck said:

Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!
People can respond however they want, if you wanted a definitive response you could have, oh, I don't know... ASKED YOUR DOCTOR. If they told you they weren't concerned, well there you go, do you trust us more than your OB? No one was mean to you, if you're going to ask something like this it's your responsibility to understand you're going to get a variety of responses, none of which are going to be actual medical advice because we are not your OB. Also, this is something you probably should have educated yourself about at this point to be honest with you. Dropping and engaging are not the same thing. Even if your LO was engaged at this point, that still isn't a clear indication of when labor will happen. But then again, I wouldn't expect you to know what engaging means either. Sigh...

Perhaps, but people have to start somewhere, no? and is there anything wrong with her wanting to hear people's experiences and get their opinions? We always say, everyone's experience is different. A doctor cannot tell you people's experiences, and sometimes people experience things that Doctor's will tell you aren't possible. Sometimes it just nice to hear what range of things "can" possible happen, and it gives you more to discuss and ask about, like maybe how common is that, the next time she goes to the Doctor.

I don't know, it's kind of like not wanting to make fun of a kid in class for asking a question, questions in life are good no matter where they are asked (ok,most the time anyway lol) but some people don't know how to research and learn on something they haven't experienced yet, but they are getting there. Let them move through their path and learn, it's ok.

llybeck · August 2013

kcs7 said:

llybeck said:

rmtafoya said:
Hot damn, to those of you who were able to respond politely -a big warm thank you. As for the others, I hope your hospital has some type of pregnancy counseling service or perhaps you need to invest in a pillow to hit...nothing less beautiful than a pissed off prego who lashed out at a total stranger!
People can respond however they want, if you wanted a definitive response you could have, oh, I don't know... ASKED YOUR DOCTOR. If they told you they weren't concerned, well there you go, do you trust us more than your OB? No one was mean to you, if you're going to ask something like this it's your responsibility to understand you're going to get a variety of responses, none of which are going to be actual medical advice because we are not your OB.

Also, this is something you probably should have educated yourself about at this point to be honest with you. Dropping and engaging are not the same thing. Even if your LO was engaged at this point, that still isn't a clear indication of when labor will happen. But then again, I wouldn't expect you to know what engaging means either. Sigh...

Perhaps, but people have to start somewhere, no? and is there anything wrong with her wanting to hear people's experiences and get their opinions? We always say, everyone's experience is different. A doctor cannot tell you people's experiences, and sometimes people experience things that Doctor's will tell you aren't possible. Sometimes it just nice to hear what range of things "can" possible happen, and it gives you more to discuss and ask about, like maybe how common is that, the next time she goes to the Doctor.

I don't know, it's kind of like not wanting to make fun of a kid in class for asking a question, questions in life are good no matter where they are asked (ok,most the time anyway lol) but some people don't know how to research and learn on something they haven't experienced yet, but they are getting there. Let them move through their path and learn, it's ok.

Yep, we all do need a place to start. But as far as being responsible during pregnancy, the best place to start probably isn't going to be internet strangers. Also, her doctor already told her he wasn't concerned, end of story. And again, no one was mean to OP and the responses were warranted. Her telling people to get counseling was not.

Weljadraak · August 2013

kcs7 said:
lol I think I can see where you are coming from a little, even if others do not agree. I just wouldn't respond to those who reply with a twinge of sarcasm or criticism. I have wondered a few times why people have to respond in a manner anything other than nice and encouraging, as I though this was a place to look for encouragement and camaraderie, but some may not be on that page, It's ok. Just how it is. Don't worry. You just want to talk to others who may have had the same experience or just hear their stories, understandable. Always good to ask your doctor though, or if you are like me, you don't ask because you don't think about it, and in the mean time, you want to get encouragement, so you write on here, but forget by the time your next doctor's appointment comes around, or, by then it may not be relevant. Either way, it's natural to want to talk to people and get information. That's how you learn! So don't feel bad about it. Oh, and I was going to say, write the questions down though and take them with you to next doctor's appointment. I have to do this or I forget, but then of course I remember 5 minutes after the appointment. And we don't like to get in trouble for not asking while at our doctor's eh? lol Hope people smile. It's a good day to just choose to relax and be happy.

holy smiley faces

alatham · August 2013

If the doctor isn't concerned then you shouldn't be either. However, baby dropping can be a god send as far as being able to breathe a little easier.

heaven22tw · August 2013

I find it hilarious bc half the board complains ( the ones who make remarks) when people dont ask thier Dr/ or ask for other peoples opinions....and the other half bc people only listen to thier Dr and aren't more proactive in getting more info....you really cant win. Just let it roll:)))

llybeck · August 2013

heaven22tw said:
I find it hilarious bc half the board complains ( the ones who make remarks) when people dont ask thier Dr/ or ask for other peoples opinions....and the other half bc people only listen to thier Dr and aren't more proactive in getting more info....you really cant win. Just let it roll:)))

You have to do both realistically, you need to be your and your LO's own health advocate. The internet is just by far not the first place I would come to get medical advice or educate myself.

What upsets me are the people who try to tell others how to respond, that's just stupid, people can say whatever they want.

swspear · August 2013

heaven22tw, your response made me laugh because it's spot on.

As a FTM, I feel comfortable asking my doctor "dumb questions" but like many of you, I also research for answers to my own medical questions. I would assume most of us use The Bump for a more human approach to pregnancy and labor: that is, just to read about others' personal experiences. If that's our shared approach, I'm not sure why there's so much anger and criticism in so many of these threads. Like you said, I think readers/responders need to relax and "just let it roll."

BelhurstBride · August 2013

heaven22tw said:

I find it hilarious bc half the board complains ( the ones who make remarks) when people dont ask thier Dr/ or ask for other peoples opinions....and the other half bc people only listen to thier Dr and aren't more proactive in getting more info....you really cant win. Just let it roll:)))

There's a huge difference between educating yourself so you're capable of having an intelligent conversation about the care you're paying for and hopping on a message board to ask a bunch of random people a question that really is covered in any Pregnancy 101 book.

ahssabino · August 2013

oh good lord! WE ARE GROWN UPS! lets try to act like it. sometimes the books don't make you feel better. i have 5 of them and medical training. Sometimes we feel like we don't have to ask the Dr because its not a big worry and we just want some community time to help work though nerves like adults. i read this petty mean girl no one loves me in high school dribble for entrainment value at this point. and i support the ones that sick up for themselves beucase that is how i will raise my daughter to be.
IN RESPONSE TO THE POST
yes my LO has gone up and down a bit my Dr lets me know whats going on when i am with him and there is no big worry. However i am now 33 weeks 1 cm dilated and we keep an eye on stuff like that a little more then before. we are also not super positive on my due date. I conceved on Sesonique

llybeck · August 2013

ahssabino said:

oh good lord! WE ARE GROWN UPS! lets try to act like it. sometimes the books don't make you feel better. i have 5 of them and medical training. Sometimes we feel like we don't have to ask the Dr because its not a big worry and we just want some community time to help work though nerves like adults. i read this petty mean girl no one loves me in high school dribble for entrainment value at this point. and i support the ones that sick up for themselves beucase that is how i will raise my daughter to be.
IN RESPONSE TO THE POST
yes my LO has gone up and down a bit my Dr lets me know whats going on when i am with him and there is no big worry. However i am now 33 weeks 1 cm dilated and we keep an eye on stuff like that a little more then before. we are also not super positive on my due date. I conceved on Sesonique

Do you mean act like grown ups and not finger wag and tell people how they should/shouldn't respond? That seems like the adult thing to do. Or do you mean act grown up and not tell people they need counseling because they were being honest and giving a response on the internet? Also, it's drivel, not dribble, and this website IS for entertainment, that's all the value anyone should expect to take away from it. The people who gave her responses that were called mean are just sticking up for themselves as well, which you stated will be your philosophy when raising your daughter so I'm not sure what your point is.

No one was mean, we were honest, and people can respond however the hell they want, get over it. It's a lot more "high school" to try and pretend that everyone needs to be puppies and rainbows instead of giving helpful, realistic advice. If people want someone to coddle them then how about get family/friends/clergy/etc. to talk to IN REAL LIFE instead of acting like everyone in the world on the internet needs to hold your hand and tell you everything is going to be okay. People have different opinions and there are some people who would rather be honest and blunt when giving advice, you better get used to that if you're going to ask complete strangers questions about your health on the internet.

swspear · August 2013

I guess peoples' expectations then are the root of the problem with this website/forum. While many posters have said this website is purely for "entertainment" (though I don't know where that's expressed exactly), I think most pregnant women joined this site for some sort of community or camaraderie with other pregnant women. While I agree that some posters need too much hand holding or coddling than I'm personally comfortable with, I thought the general point of this website was for pregnant women to connect and if they need to, to seek "support" (unlike Reddit or other random forums).

swspear · August 2013

Good to know!

Personally I use it for both purposes so I don't really have a problem with the forum... I was just pointing out an observation of mine.

N021282 · August 2013

My baby had dropped a few weeks ago, I'm also 32 weeks now. When I asked the doctor if I will go into early labour she told me not neccesarily. I decided that I will start to worry when my doctor start to worry.

But I must say it is not comfortable at all! Good luck to you.

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