So, I've not been on here in a realllly long time. Like, since I was
pregnant with my first baby and now she'll be two in Oct. So, anyway, DH
and I have been pretty heavily talking about number 2.. and by heavily I
mean, we've thrown all caution to the wind. I'm pretty set on getting
pregnant as soon as it can happen. My concerns are, is it too soon? I
mean I know there are plenty that want their kids really close, I feel
like my DD has no one to play with and the thought of having a new baby
just makes me melt and I'm really experiencing the same feelings I had
when trying to get pregnant with my daughter. I'm worried about the age
gap and how hard this is going to be with transitioning from one to two.
I know I worry for nothing but to have a little encouragement and input
would be nice! I'm such a worry wart I can find a reason to worry over anything and obsess over everything
Re: Ready for # 2?
DS: 11/8/11 | 9 lb 7 oz, 22 in
DD: 5/22/14 | 9 lb 9 oz, 21.5 in
DS is 14 months and we are not "trying" but we're not on BC. We have talked a lot about it and think we're ready, even though we don't really know what "ready" means:) We have a stable home, fine financial situation, good jobs, etc. etc. but we also know that two will be a tough transition and have it's up and downs. So we aren't 'trying" (charting, temping, tracking, etc.) and just living life, having sex whenever the mood strikes and for now seeing what happens. If we aren't preggo in 6 months or so, we'll try more intentionally. We decided to be ok with getting pregnant anytime for the following reasons: like the idea of my children being 2-3 years apart, our age (I will be 31 soon and he will be 35), and if we do have trouble getting pregnant don't want to wait for the perfect time and just try now...plus we want three so we don't have tons of time of good fertility years to have two more. Some days I think "OMG, I cannot handle anything more in my life!" but more often than not lately I am thinking about another baby. LOL, on the rough tantrums days with DS my hubby and I joke around and think "wtf, are we sure we want anymore?!!"
Having a newborn will probably be difficult as it always is, whether you have another child or not. But like you said, you want a playmate for your LO and I think that if you are feeling the excitement of the prospect of getting pregnant, then you are ready. If you think about it, how old would your DD have to be before you felt completely ready and would that age-gap be something that you would be happy with? If not, then now is the time to start trying again.
We have been ttc again since DS was 6 months and unfortunately it hasn't worked out for us. I look back and I do wonder how I would have done it if I had ended up pg earlier but at the same time, the difficulty of it lasts but a little while and then you have your kids close together and going through similar things at the same time. My mom had 4 in 6 years and we are the best of friends and I love the small gap between all of us because it makes it so we can all relate to each other, even the oldest and the youngest.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Caleb Jonathan
Born November 30, 2011
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