What's the hardest part for you?

J&NL · August 2013

I know we aren't very far along but what has been the hardest part of pregnancy for you, so far?

For me it has been keeping the secret. I already have a hard time keeping a secret as it is, especially when it's such exciting news but we are trying to keep it a secret a little bit longer since our last pg didn't last. I'm visiting family next week so we will see how well I can keep a secret then.

snmetz7 · August 2013

2 am heart burn. its pretty much on a schedule.

NicoleAnne416 · August 2013

Keeping it a secret especially when I am so exhausted and in a daze half of the time in front of family! To my luck, they don't suspect we'd have any more kids, we thought we were done years ago, so it may take more than that for anyone to suspect anything!

MamaFantastic · August 2013

believing i'm really going to be holding a baby 33-34 weeks from now.

this is my 5th pregnancy: one preschooler, 3 losses, and now this little bean. i just refuse to fully let my guard down yet, though seeing the heartbeat this week went a long way toward reassuring me that this might really be it for us.

with my first pregnancy i was just so carefree, innocent, assuming all was fine (and it was, thankfully!)

this time around, the confidence and trust aren't coming as quickly. i'm still thrilled, and i talk to my belly daily (hourly, probably) but there's this little pragmatic voice that keeps whispering "it could all go away at the drop of a hat" and that's the biggest challenge for me right now.

mandacann · August 2013

The hardest part for me so far is just how tired I am all the time. I feel like I'm constantly walking around in a sleep deprived fog.

J&NL · August 2013

spasticfantastic said:

believing i'm really going to be holding a baby 33-34 weeks from now.

Ugh I know how you feel. I remember how it felt like forever to have DD last time.

leighbball · August 2013

Tired tired tired. And ds doesn't nap anymore for me

and the secret. That's hard too! I'm going away with my parents for a week...that should be interesting!

J&NL · August 2013

I guess I forgot to mention the reason it's so hard to keep it a secret is because at every family or friend function we have everyone drinks, including myself. I don't drink much, just a beer or two but it definitely raises some questions

littlesocks · August 2013

Being tired all the time!

Not telling anyone has been pretty easy. We already know when we'll tell family and it's a weekend between 11-12 weeks. I actually would like to keep it a secret longer. I'm not looking forward to the extra attention and questions.

leighbball · August 2013

The secret is so hard for me because I want to tell everyone

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

The anxiety is so hard for me. I'm a FTM and I just can't fully believe there is a baby in there. My symptoms come and go and I guess this is common but it just makes me so worried. I knew I wanted to be pregnant but I had no idea how invested I would become this quickly. It's terrifying.

snharring · August 2013

I agree with halfcaffeinated. Being a ftm, I the anxiety is brutal!

sarajean5682 · August 2013

This time it's just remembering I'm pregnant. I have a mosquito bite that is driving me mad so I was going to put anti-itch cream on and then I remembered oh hey I'm KU maybe I shouldn't use this stuff? Or my H bought one of my favorite import beers and I was going to grab one, oh hey ... With my son my pregnancy was all consuming. Sometimes so is this one but other times I completely forget.

The other hardest part is waiting for my first appt and u/s. I want to see the heartbeat so bad!

PaddysGirl8 · August 2013

Getting the MC fear out of my head. I am a few days away from the 6 week mark where i MCed in June

Manda+panda · August 2013

Hardest part: knowing I could lose this baby. Knowing hearing the heartbeat won't do a thing for me. Not being able to keep it a secret, because of my morning sickness. Hell, my boss asked if I was pregnant 3 days before I got a positive test. Knowing that everyone I work with knows about this baby, and my loss makes it hard. I'm hopeful, and terrified. There's nothing I can do, so I take it day by day. On the bright side, I'll see this little Goober in 5 days.

Drgn30 · August 2013

The exhaustion. My work is demanding and it's a "boy's club." They're not exactly sensitive to the needs of a pregnant woman. oh how I miss coffee and other "uppers".

Maymac18 · August 2013

I drink and people know it! I have a family beach trip coming up. Should I fake drink or just be somewhat honesty and say we are trying so I'm not drinking? What would you guys do?

Drgn30 · August 2013

Maymac18 said:

I drink and people know it! I have a family beach trip coming up. Should I fake drink or just be somewhat honesty and say we are trying so I'm not drinking? What would you guys do?

Fake drink. Buy some O'douls and pour it into a glass. Or have your husband secretly drink your drinks

AcaAwkward · August 2013

sarajean5682 said:
This time it's just remembering I'm pregnant. I have a mosquito bite that is driving me mad so I was going to put anti-itch cream on and then I remembered oh hey I'm KU maybe I shouldn't use this stuff? Or my H bought one of my favorite import beers and I was going to grab one, oh hey ... With my son my pregnancy was all consuming. Sometimes so is this one but other times I completely forget.

The other hardest part is waiting for my first appt and u/s. I want to see the heartbeat so bad!

All of this.

J&NL · August 2013

Drgn30 said:

The exhaustion. My work is demanding and it's a "boy's club." They're not exactly sensitive to the needs of a pregnant woman. oh how I miss coffee and other "uppers".

Me too. Meeeee too. *sigh*

homediva · August 2013

Fear of repeat miscarriage for sure. So scary.

cmargolius · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:

The anxiety is so hard for me. I'm a FTM and I just can't fully believe there is a baby in there. My symptoms come and go and I guess this is common but it just makes me so worried. I knew I wanted to be pregnant but I had no idea how invested I would become this quickly. It's terrifying.

Amen, Sista!

MrsWiseone · August 2013

sarajean5682 said:

This time it's just remembering I'm pregnant. I have a mosquito bite that is driving me mad so I was going to put anti-itch cream on and then I remembered oh hey I'm KU maybe I shouldn't use this stuff? Or my H bought one of my favorite import beers and I was going to grab one, oh hey ... With my son my pregnancy was all consuming. Sometimes so is this one but other times I completely forget.

The other hardest part is waiting for my first appt and u/s. I want to see the heartbeat so bad!

I saw on Pinterest "life hacks" to take a warm spoon and press it on the mosquito bite. I haven't tried it, but it couldn't hurt, right?

For me keeping a secret is hard. Today was my first day back with faculty at a new school and there is a teacher that is pregnant and apparently no one knew before school let out and they were all so excited. I can't wait until I am able to tell them that I am KU too! We are telling my IL's this weekend and then my parents next weekend. I am sure my mom knows there is something up because I haven't called her in a over a week and I normally talk to her a couple times a week. Also, I have not gotten any morning sickness yet and that actually makes me nervous to not have that.

lajohnso1982 · August 2013

Drgn30 said:

Maymac18 said:

I drink and people know it! I have a family beach trip coming up. Should I fake drink or just be somewhat honesty and say we are trying so I'm not drinking? What would you guys do?

Fake drink. Buy some O'douls and pour it into a glass. Or have your husband secretly drink your drinks

I am going to fake drink this weekend. Bought some O'Douls, but checked with my doctor first. It turns out there is %0.5 alcohol in 1 bottle. The nurse advised against it, especially in during the early stages. She recommended drinking tonic water and sprite and claiming it was a vodka tonic or gin and tonic (whatever you fancy).

I don't know what I'll do. I do have sprite and tonic water packed in my bag, just in case.

TallaB · August 2013

Incredible fear of miscarriage and keeping the secret! We aren't going to tell our family until after our first appointment...and then wait the 12 weeks for friends. I just want to tell everyone! And of course have a healthy pregnancy!

That and I ate choc. chip pancakes this morning and they aren't sitting great. Thats the hardest part at this exact moment in time.
:-&

ETA- I am currently eating more pancakes.

LesleyH11 · August 2013

For me its not worrying about what could happen, it really sucks

Drgn30 · August 2013

I have to add one: it's really hard not to be a complete bitch to my coworkers. everything they do is annoying me to no end - banging utensils on their plates, sniffling, talking with food in their mouths, eating tuna in the break room, incessantly calling me, everything!!

maelic · August 2013

I haven't been able to believe, even for a second, that I'll actually have a baby come April. My brain is just not letting me go there. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Stasi · August 2013

Trying to figure out

1) how we are going to find the time to raise 2u2
2) Where the new baby and all the crap is going to go
3) worrying about how this will affect my relationship with DD and DH, will there be enough of me to go around?

thomas930 · August 2013

I can't get excited right now...every time I start to feel a little bit excited I make myself stop because of what happened last time.

snmetz7 · August 2013

Drgn30 said:

I have to add one: it's really hard not to be a complete bitch to my coworkers. everything they do is annoying me to no end - banging utensils on their plates, sniffling, talking with food in their mouths, eating tuna in the break room, incessantly calling me, everything!!

THIS! i have been so irritable that EVERYTHING is getting to me. i have to remind myself not to snap

halfcaffeinated · August 2013

maelic said:

I haven't been able to believe, even for a second, that I'll actually have a baby come April. My brain is just not letting me go there. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I am there with you my friend. I am trying to stay positive and convince myself it's true because I already want it to be true so badly.

Marusika · August 2013

The anxiety

katiedidthat · August 2013

For me it has been adjusting to the idea that in 9 months- I'm going to have a newborn and an 18 month old. And I'm afraid of my DS not getting the same attention he does now. He's definitely spoiled (napping across my lap as I type) and I'm worried that he'll resent the baby when he has to share me. Being pregnant itself is easy for me, it's the adjustment after that worries me.

smashton14th · August 2013

I have been exhausted but cannot lay down for a second beause i have a 1 year old.

Maymac18 · August 2013

Thanks for the feedback to mine ladies. Fake drinks it is!! <:-P

cstory316 · August 2013

Definitely keeping a secret which is nearly impossible. I am a drinker and we are out on the water every weekend. If I am not drinking it will be a dead giveaway!

Barihoop · August 2013

halfcaffeinated said:
The anxiety is so hard for me. I'm a FTM and I just can't fully believe there is a baby in there. My symptoms come and go and I guess this is common but it just makes me so worried. I knew I wanted to be pregnant but I had no idea how invested I would become this quickly. It's terrifying.

This, exactly.

sambrownmac10 · August 2013

The insomnia mixed with complete exhaustion is horrible. And the sore breasts

Barihoop · August 2013

Drgn30 said:
I have to add one: it's really hard not to be a complete bitch to my coworkers. everything they do is annoying me to no end - banging utensils on their plates, sniffling, talking with food in their mouths, eating tuna in the break room, incessantly calling me, everything!!

Yes! It's WHISTLING for me. One day I'm just going to lose it on this one guy, ugh. It was already annoying before I was hormonal. Now I literally cannot deal.

korycir · August 2013

The hardest part for me is seeing so many people on these boards having losses. My heart goes out to them, but it is starting to freak me out and make me worry the same thing will happen to me. I want to tell people, but I have stopped myself every time because I worry I may eventually MC....

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