July 2012 Moms

~UO Thursday~

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Re: ~UO Thursday~

  • DeniseRN said:

    S/O breastfeeding on FB. I am ready to go off on a few of my friends. Every single day they post something about powerful women BF, BF is best, and get over BF in public and such. All it does is make me feel like a failure. Every single day. I am all for BF but for some it didn't work. I gave everything I could and couldn't make it work. I starved my child. Stop it, stop it, stop it. I don't give a rat's ass if you want to BF in public but stop chanting about it from the mountaintops. You are hurting people out there and you are so blinded by your own issues about being judged that you are unintentionally judging me. I have written a million responses to these posts and deleted every single one to stay switzerland. It's wearing on me.

    I've felt this way too, I have one friend that ever. single. thing she posts is about how she's still breastfeeding and did and those that don't aren't giving their kids the best. I started out feeling crappy about it but the more she puts them there the more I think she's a sanctimommy and overcompensating. Also, my kid is cuter than hers and hers is several months older. Ha!  ;)
    Sorry if that's me :) BUT as a BFing mom, I've heard so many times how its gross, unnecessary, blah blah to BF. Majority of our society still sees FF as "right/normal" at least in my experiences

    It's not you, all the ladies on here at least have baby postings and things in their lives besides BFing. :) The one that does, I'm pretty sure she doesn't have many other thoughts in her head besides BFing, she posts about it literally that much.

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  • s/o BF.....I also dislike those SAHM posts on FB about how wonderful it is to SAH.  My good friend does this all the time, but her recent post about how she's glad she's not missing out on anything in her kids lives rubbed me the wrong way.  I love her but seriously, STFU.   I don't even want to be a SAHM but her posts make me feel like I'm doing a disservice to my children.  I know it's my own guilt and I just have to remind myself we are doing what works for our family. 
  • Fwiw, ff is just as normal as bf. trying to not take offence to that.

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  • SallySunriseSallySunrise member
    edited August 2013
    KarmB said: Fwiw, ff is just as normal as bf. trying to not take offence to that.
    Um yeah, I said that
    BFing needed to be considered more normal!  Meaning that FFing is considered more normal in America than BFing...  I was not at all saying FF isn't normal, I'm saying "normalize BFing..."  It need not be the spectacle that it is.
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  • Why do my quotes look weird sometimes?  I always do it the same way so idk why it doesn't always look the same...
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  • I feel like now it's "cool" to be a nerd. As in liking star trek, superheros or whatever else is out there. So now I see all these meme's about those things and I have no clue what they mean. I attempt to read into them but.I.Just.Cant! I cannot get into those things. So consider me "uncool" and not part of the in crowd.

    It's like bizzaro world, which is the only cool geeky thing I know about from superman.
    >-)
    Yes!! I attempted to watch Dr. Who once to see what the hell @SweetLittleThing and @Ladyofshallot and @Christinemmf are always talking about. I couldnt make it through the hour. It was too confusing and bizarre.
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  • It's amazing we're still talking about this crap lol

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  • KarmB said:

    Fwiw, ff is just as normal as bf. trying to not take offence to that.
    I'm sorry KarmB!  I really should have said it seems more prevalent (not norm) here from my experience. I did not mean it in that way and I know all this is totally my hangup about wanting to BF and being mad at my body. 

    I wasn't referencing you or Sally lol

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  • @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
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  • @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...

    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .

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  • KarmB said:
    It's amazing we're still talking about this crap lol
    Over and Over and Over...fwiw arent most our kids off the boob or bottle anyway?  STFU!
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  • s/o BF.....I also dislike those SAHM posts on FB about how wonderful it is to SAH.  My good friend does this all the time, but her recent post about how she's glad she's not missing out on anything in her kids lives rubbed me the wrong way.  I love her but seriously, STFU.   I don't even want to be a SAHM but her posts make me feel like I'm doing a disservice to my children.  I know it's my own guilt and I just have to remind myself we are doing what works for our family. 
    I doubt her life is that glamorous. She is probably one of those people that plays up a facade in front of others to look great when in reality she probably hates her life. I have yet to meet one SAHM that loves loves loves her life! Most of us are dying for an hour away from these kids. KWIM.

    On another front. I get really annoyed that people keep asking me when I'm going back to work. Like everyone asks me when I'm going back. Its so bizarre. Mind your business. I feel weird saying I may not go back for 10 years. By then who knows if I'll go back. And people seriously give me judgy eyes for it. I feel it. Like I'm sucking off my husbands tit. My dad is the biggest offender. He says women who SAH become irrelevant. Such a douche!
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  • nesenotes said:



    s/o BF.....I also dislike those SAHM posts on FB about how wonderful it is to SAH.  My good friend does this all the time, but her recent post about how she's glad she's not missing out on anything in her kids lives rubbed me the wrong way.  I love her but seriously, STFU.   I don't even want to be a SAHM but her posts make me feel like I'm doing a disservice to my children.  I know it's my own guilt and I just have to remind myself we are doing what works for our family. 

    I doubt her life is that glamorous. She is probably one of those people that plays up a facade in front of others to look great when in reality she probably hates her life. I have yet to meet one SAHM that loves loves loves her life! Most of us are dying for an hour away from these kids. KWIM.

    On another front. I get really annoyed that people keep asking me when I'm going back to work. Like everyone asks me when I'm going back. Its so bizarre. Mind your business. I feel weird saying I may not go back for 10 years. By then who knows if I'll go back. And people seriously give me judgy eyes for it. I feel it. Like I'm sucking off my husbands tit. My dad is the biggest offender. He says women who SAH become irrelevant. Such a douche!


    Yes yes yes and yes!!!!! Thats all!! :)
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  • KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
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  • nesenotes said:
     

    On another front. I get really annoyed that people keep asking me when I'm going back to work. Like everyone asks me when I'm going back. Its so bizarre. Mind your business. I feel weird saying I may not go back for 10 years. By then who knows if I'll go back. And people seriously give me judgy eyes for it. I feel it. Like I'm sucking off my husbands tit. My dad is the biggest offender. He says women who SAH become irrelevant. Such a douche!
    @nesenotes OMG, I can't believe your dad said that, did you kick him in the knee for it? Tell him to mind his own business, because what is right for families around the world isn't always the same thing? I know he's your dad but I'm really upset he would say that, I'm sorry.  ~X(

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  • cpasley said:
    nesenotes said:
     

    On another front. I get really annoyed that people keep asking me when I'm going back to work. Like everyone asks me when I'm going back. Its so bizarre. Mind your business. I feel weird saying I may not go back for 10 years. By then who knows if I'll go back. And people seriously give me judgy eyes for it. I feel it. Like I'm sucking off my husbands tit. My dad is the biggest offender. He says women who SAH become irrelevant. Such a douche!
    @nesenotes OMG, I can't believe your dad said that, did you kick him in the knee for it? Tell him to mind his own business, because what is right for families around the world isn't always the same thing? I know he's your dad but I'm really upset he would say that, I'm sorry.  ~X(
    Your mind would be blown if you knew half the things that came out of his mouth. I ream him on the reg. He has always been really self absorbed. I'm just used to it. Kind of. I stopped talking to him for a year once because he suggested I order a salad when we were at lunch. Because, you know, I was gaining weight. As an adult I'm able to check him more. I feel sorry for my mom. I cant believe she stayed married to him for 25 years. They both have major major issues. He can be very loving but very horrible all in one person.  However, it has made me the outspoken person I am today. At least it taught me to speak up.
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  • reinedecajunreinedecajun member
    edited August 2013

    KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    I'm sure it's this. It's ok i know what your going through is tough, and im sure your parents will come around :) 

    I think Karm was being Karm..that's just who she is.
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  • KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    You are most def having a sensit
    KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    I'm sure it's this. It's ok i know what your going through is tough, and im sure your parents will come around :) 

    I think Karm was being Karm..that's just who she is.
    I can be ruder if you want. Sensitive day or not, you can be rude too. (is every day a sensitive day lately?)

    Cajun, but out you whore.

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  • Not to keep harping on the issue, but it seems that I have a few personal UO's.

    I have tons of hippie dippy obnoxious crunchy types sharing BFing support articles daily. Many of these are accompanied by insensitive douchey commentary. But, as a mom who gave up BF after 4 months when my supply tanked, I just don't get my panties in a wad over it. Maybe I have a thicker skin, but when I see that crap, it doesn't bother me because I know that in most cases they don't intend to come across insensitive, and even if they are, they're stupid and not worthy of my emotions.

    Also, I don't get offended at seeing boobs. Period. I just don't. Nudity doesn't bug me. I mean sure, if I saw someone whipping out their boob to NIP it would catch me off guard, like, "Oh, wow, there's a boob!" But then I would look away and go about my day. I don't understand the perspective of people who crusade against it. Not saying that it should or should not be allowed, just saying I truly don't understand it. Do people think they're going to hell because they saw a tit? Like for real, I don't get it.
  • KarmB said:
    KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    You are most def having a sensit
    KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    I'm sure it's this. It's ok i know what your going through is tough, and im sure your parents will come around :) 

    I think Karm was being Karm..that's just who she is.
    I can be ruder if you want. Sensitive day or not, you can be rude too. (is every day a sensitive day lately?)

    Cajun, but out you whore.
    You want to Whore my butt? what? Ok :)
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  • KarmB said:
    KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    You are most def having a sensit
    KarmB said:
    @karmB maybe you should quote or tag who you're referencing when you make that kind of comment then, so we don't all have to apologize to you for something you weren't even offended by...
    Thank you for teaching me etiquette. Ill inform mobile bump to work 100% of the time to lessen the confusion. .
    Fine, the functions aren't working.  You could still type the person's name, or at least give a hint as to what you're talking about, instead of just LOLing at the people who are apologizing to you.  Just thought you were being kind of rude.  And I'm pretty sure that's the first time I've ever said that to someone on here, so maybe it's just me having a sensitive day.  Both my parents hate me now, so that's probably it.  Carry on then.
    I'm sure it's this. It's ok i know what your going through is tough, and im sure your parents will come around :) 

    I think Karm was being Karm..that's just who she is.
    I can be ruder if you want. Sensitive day or not, you can be rude too. (is every day a sensitive day lately?)

    Cajun, but out you whore.
    You want to Whore my butt? what? Ok :)
    I do. I love your butt.

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  • Twerks for Karm
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  • nesenotes said:
    cpasley said:
    nesenotes said:
     

    On another front. I get really annoyed that people keep asking me when I'm going back to work. Like everyone asks me when I'm going back. Its so bizarre. Mind your business. I feel weird saying I may not go back for 10 years. By then who knows if I'll go back. And people seriously give me judgy eyes for it. I feel it. Like I'm sucking off my husbands tit. My dad is the biggest offender. He says women who SAH become irrelevant. Such a douche!
    @nesenotes OMG, I can't believe your dad said that, did you kick him in the knee for it? Tell him to mind his own business, because what is right for families around the world isn't always the same thing? I know he's your dad but I'm really upset he would say that, I'm sorry.  ~X(
    Your mind would be blown if you knew half the things that came out of his mouth. I ream him on the reg. He has always been really self absorbed. I'm just used to it. Kind of. I stopped talking to him for a year once because he suggested I order a salad when we were at lunch. Because, you know, I was gaining weight. As an adult I'm able to check him more. I feel sorry for my mom. I cant believe she stayed married to him for 25 years. They both have major major issues. He can be very loving but very horrible all in one person.  However, it has made me the outspoken person I am today. At least it taught me to speak up.
    That's awesome, and I'm in awe of how strong a woman it made you.  :)

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  • KarmB said:
    I can be ruder if you want. Sensitive day or not, you can be rude too. (is every day a sensitive day lately?)


    Alright, I get it.  I'm sorry.
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  • Meow84 said:
    I dislike small dogs. My parents have a Yorkie mix and he is such a little bitch. I'm also always afraid that I'm going to step on him and squish him.
    @meow84... Uh oh.

    Tomaykoland may not be the happiest place on earth for you...
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  • For bubba, not only is em wearing socks today but they don't even match her outfit...annnnd she was out in public like this. To my credit her socks usually match her outfit but I was in a hurry and they did match the apple/carrot purée that was still on her face(I seriously wiped her face twice, go out and still find some wtf?).... ;)
    @ladyofshallott86, I will bypass the socks and tell you that I completely agree with the food thing. How are they ALWAYS dirty?!!? I'm going to send her through a carwash before we do our errands, clearly I missed something fundamental in the "clean up your kid" class.
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  • BubbaJug said:
    Meow84 said:
    I dislike small dogs. My parents have a Yorkie mix and he is such a little bitch. I'm also always afraid that I'm going to step on him and squish him.
    @meow84... Uh oh.

    Tomaykoland may not be the happiest place on earth for you...
    I hate chihuahuas. If you want a tiny dog get a fucking cat. If you want a dog get a real dog. :P
    My chiweenie is heartbroken to hear you guys say this.
  • BubbaJug said:
    Meow84 said:
    I dislike small dogs. My parents have a Yorkie mix and he is such a little bitch. I'm also always afraid that I'm going to step on him and squish him.
    @meow84... Uh oh.

    Tomaykoland may not be the happiest place on earth for you...
    I hate chihuahuas. If you want a tiny dog get a fucking cat. If you want a dog get a real dog. :P
    My chiweenie is heartbroken to hear you guys say this.

    A chiweenie sounds delicious. Oh wait..that's a dog breed? Now I want a mexican hotdog :)
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  • @Meow84 Aunt Sharon just asked me to tell you to go f yourself.  
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  • sarasansh said:
    jfresh said:
    I think events and things like that are awesome because they help make it more normal. And it helps with awareness. Maybe if more businesses and public places were aware of how big the problem is they would add nursing areas. Smokers get their own spot FFS. I do think nurse ins are kind of lame and dont shed positive light on BF but stuff like Latch On helps the cause.
    This. I participated in The Big Latch On this year and it was really awesome. BF/FF seems to be one of those mommy wars that will never go away, but I hate that assumption that pro-BF means anti-FF. I'm very pro-BFing. It is something that is personally important for me and I get excited and happy when I see other people who feel the same way as me. That being said, it doesn't mean I'm anti-FF at all.

    As far as the NIP thing: boobs are multi-purpose body parts. What drives me nuts is when people can't seem to remember that. I had a male friend tell me, when discussing NIP, that "he wouldn't just whip his junk out at the mall." He couldn't process the difference--that pulling your boob out to feed a baby, while not modest, isn't sexual at all. That's what burns my biscuits!
    Ok these two things are totally unrelated but i'll say it anyway.

    Im passionate about legalizing weed and smoking it, but that doesn't mean I go around blowing it in everyones face. KWIM?
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  • jfresh said:
    You're right ragin, they are unrelated. Smoking weed in public is illegal, NIP is protected by law.
    Yeah I know..that's why I said that. I just get irritated when I see people get all rilled up on a internet board about a opinion they cant change.
    :)>-
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  • megs52881 said:
    I don't really think that @JFresh is getting too riled up.  
    Leave @JFresh alone.
    Well that is some bullshiit I thought new bump let you copy and paste pics.  ugh give me a minute
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