Names that get negative responses?

ChinaDoll87 · August 2013

Madison does not sound boyish to my, but im young and the name has been popular for girls for as long as I remeber. I wouldn't name my daughter Dylan, but I like it.

jkolber10 · August 2013

Scarlett&Gatsby said:

Dylan is NMS for a girl (or a boy, frankly). Even boys' names that have "gone girl" get a bad reception on this board, so take it with a grain of salt.
I love lots of unisex/straight-up boys' names on girls. Dylan just isn't one of them for me, but I wouldn't side-eye it.

This exactly.

lolkat82 · August 2013

I get the whole "it's cute for a little girl to have a boyish name, because...well..it's just cute." thing. Everyone thinks little girls who climb trees and catch frogs are cute, but you know what? That girl will be a woman one day, a woman who has her own life and who has to answer to the name you give her. The "using a boy's name for a girl" trend is just that- a trend. And, no, it's not unisex because it doesn't work the other way around. The name Dylan is dated already, and not in a good way, in that it could be considered retro, it's just a trendy name that, to me, is out of fashion.

DanandVan · August 2013

I would hate to set my kid up for a lifetime of correcting people. A good name is a gift you give your children. Reminds me of two friends of mine who recently married - Dana (boy) and Ryan (girl). When asked if they would choose gender-bender names for their kids they said "hell no!"

Cranang · August 2013

It's a boy's name. And a dated one at that (90210 is still too fresh).

And why is it always parents of girls stealing boys' names? I get the whole Kelly, Ashley, and Shannon argument. But other than those, I never hear of parents of boys naming their sons "Sarah" or "Bess" or "Teresa". It's ALWAYS the other way around. I hate this trend. I hate that parents of boys have to decide whether or not to give their son a good strong name because some idiots decided to use it on their daughter. Oh and God forbid they end up with someone of the same name...their wedding invitation would read "Dylan and Dylan". And if I got an invite to a wedding for "Dylan and Michael", I'd think I was going to a gay wedding.

catahoulatte · August 2013

I don't like it.

IRL, when I hear a girl with a masculine name, my knee jerk response is always "They must have wanted a little boy". I don't care if that's the case or not, but that's always what I think when I see it.

FWIW, I have a masculine sounding nickname and HATED it growing up. Any time anyone used my NN I got stupid comments like "Oh are you really a boy?" har har. Dumb now, sad when I was 12 and shy and easily embarrassed.

AJCagle82 · August 2013

I agree with a pp that there are names, whether traditionally for a boy or girl, that your child might hate. I have a feminine name, but I constantly had to spell it for people along with my last name. I always knew when it was my turn in roll call because there was silence trying to figure it out. Now, my name isn't that uncommon and it isn't a difficult spelling, but I'm 30 and it's taken this long for it to catch on. With that being said, there are some other super feminine names that I would HATE to be saddled with for life just because I can't stand the names. I should also say that I am a fan of traditionally masculine names on girls. I do like it paired with a feminine middle name. We are thinking of using a more masculine name for our DD. It isn't because I wanted a boy. I'm very excited about having her. It has more to do with I like the name and so does my DH.

Pepper6 · August 2013

I'm not a fan of boy names on girls, but I don't necessarily hate it either. However, I had to contact a client a few weeks ago whose name was Shawn, so I addressed my email to Mr. Shawn Smith...turns out it was a woman and she got way pissed at me that I assumed she was a man. That irritated me because Shawn is a man's name, so if she wanted to get pissed at someone, she should be pissed at her parents for giving her that name, not to the people who assume she's a dude. So if you decide to name your daughter a very obvious boy's name, at the very least, you need to stress that she should politely correct people to her gender and not take it out on them that YOU chose to give her a boy's name.

That being said, with Dylan Madison, even if I was in love with the name Dylan for a girl, I'm not a big fan of the double 'n' endings of both names.

nicholssquared · August 2013

There are plenty of beautiful girl names without having to take from the boy names. If you can't find a feminine name you like, you're doing it wrong.

CeCe8579 · August 2013

g8trkim said:
Dylan or Madison by themselves are unisex to me but when you put them together it seems to be an obvious boy. I think that's why you're getting negative responses. I feel like if you use Dylan you should really have a feminine name to balance it out.

I agree. For example, my DD is Ryann Olivia and if we ever have another girl, she will be Shelby Sophia or Shae Sophia.

abirdd9 · August 2013

Marsee said:

hippiechick21 said:

. . . we get negative responses such as "that's a boys name". . .

That is not an example of a negative response. It's just a fact. Dylan is a boy's name. Nothing negative about it.

An example of a negative response would be "That's a boy name and you're an idiot for even bringing it up".

So many people here think people on this board are mean or negative. 95% of the time they are stating facts and not being negative at all. Not sure why people are confused by that.

ETA: OP, I've heard horror stories about 18 year-old women having to go to court to prove they're not males when the government hounds them to make them sign up for Selective Service. Just something to keep in mind when putting a boy name on your girl.

This.

apc1929 · August 2013

First of all I think the boy name on girls is a trend that I bet will be dated in a not so distant future. Just like most naming trends ie. old lady names, aiden variants, last names first etc. I don't think anyone is changing the course of the female gender by using them. I also don't think anyone that gets wedding invitations (this has been mentioned several times before) really wouldn't know who is inviting them to their wedding! lol Just saying I think this too shall pass...

That said I'm not a huge fan of Dylan but wouldn't side-eye it (I actually know more female Dylans than male) but would never want to pair it with another masculine name. That just seems to compound the issue and I think giving her the option of using a more feminine name later on is a good idea.

michelle7482 · August 2013

Yeah I'm gonna say boy name. Dylan is def boy and Madison, a very common girl name and my DD name, can go either way.

Fluffycakes · August 2013

sweetTea42 said:

I love boys names for girl, especially when paired with a super girly name like Madison as a MN
I may try to "girl up" Dylan just a bit maybe with 2 N's like a PP had Dylann

Madison is totally a girl name, but I wouldn't go as far as calling it "super girly."

capulet · August 2013

sweetTea42 said:

I love boys names for girl, especially when paired with a super girly name like Madison as a MN
I may try to "girl up" Dylan just a bit maybe with 2 N's like a PP had Dylann

I...I hope you're kidding? Because I genuinely love your son's name. Victor and John are wonderful, classic names for boys - Dylann and Madison aren't even in the same league for girls.

kbm2009 · August 2013

I love boy names on girls. We are having another LO and if a girl, we will name her Cameron Marie. I say go for it! It is your baby!

Cara1024 · August 2013

For what its worth I have a good friend who named her daughter Dillon. I don't love that spelling of it at all, but now I do see the name Dylan as a gender neutral name.

Also I didn't read all the other comments so someone else might have mentioned this, but Ralph Lauren's daughter's name is Dylan.

ap142193 · August 2013

I'm also not a fan of male names on girls...I always imagine mail addressed to Mr. Dylan Lastname, and a wedding invitation that says "Dylan and Steve along with their families cordially invite you..."

I went to college with a male stripper named Dylan, so that is all boy to me, but I've never met a boy named Madison. If you agree on these names, how about Madison Dylan Lastname?

I get mail addressed to Mr. Ashley .... And Ashley is generally perceived as a feminine name these days.

ap142193 · August 2013

Cranang said:

It's a boy's name. And a dated one at that (90210 is still too fresh).

And why is it always parents of girls stealing boys' names? I get the whole Kelly, Ashley, and Shannon argument. But other than those, I never hear of parents of boys naming their sons "Sarah" or "Bess" or "Teresa". It's ALWAYS the other way around. I hate this trend. I hate that parents of boys have to decide whether or not to give their son a good strong name because some idiots decided to use it on their daughter. Oh and God forbid they end up with someone of the same name...their wedding invitation would read "Dylan and Dylan". And if I got an invite to a wedding for "Dylan and Michael", I'd think I was going to a gay wedding.

At one point in my life I knew a Jo.die /Jo.die heterosexual couple. It was very confusing.

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