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ikrystal
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IVF and quitting job???
ikrystal
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in Infertility
I start my first round of IVF this month. DH and I have been trying for almost two years to get pregnant. I have had zero response to meds so far and I think I am going to lose my mind!!!
Anyway - I work two jobs. I work full time as support for extended learning at a University, and my husband and I own a construction company (for which I do all the paperwork, deal with the lawyers, accountant, etc.). Needless to say, it keeps me pretty busy. On top of that, I am pursuing my graduate degree in Theoretical Psychology (two more courses and then my thesis and I'm done!). All of this paired with the multiple labs and doctor appointments for infertility has me going up the wall. My husband and I think that its time for me to quit my full time job at the University (which I can't stand anyway, and which pays pretty poorly). IVF barely costs us anything because we have amazing insurance, and we can afford for me to quit without having to change our lifestyle. But I am racked with guilt! My husband is a FF and does construction on his days off (but is home by 5 pm every night and doesnt work weekends). I feel like if I quit my full time job... I'm going to feel guilty, even though he wants me to quit my job. But I know the stress of IVF is going to catch up to me really soon and I'm not quite sure how to handle everything that is going on PLUS IVF. Has anyone done this before? Has anyone been told that stress may affect the outcome of IVF? My doctor told me that studies do not show significance, but he also added in, "but any doctor will tell you... stress definitely plays a part. Theres no doubt about it." I am thinking that if I cut down on my workload, we may be more successful with trying to conceive. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated!!!
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Re: IVF and quitting job???
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I agree with pp that it depends on the type of person you are.
The only thing I can say is that sometimes, for me, being super busy actually keeps me distracted. Otherwise I sit around and obsess...and that is easy to do with ART.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
At first it was such a relief to be able to go to dr. appts without having to make excuses to leave. Now I almost feel like Its just another thing i've changed for apparently nothing. I like to stay busy and have some days where I'm not, i think these are the times it gets me down that two years later I'm basically a stay at home "mom" with no baby.
The other aspect I would mention is that I feel my circle of friends is smaller now that im not around my friends at work. Going through some tough times I think i definitely miss having a group of buddies i see everyday.
Since you can afford it, your hubby is on board, and you dont love that job anyways- I'd quit. If any of those werent the case, it would be a tougher decision. Best of luck! You are very lucky your insurance is so great!
Me: 32 DH: 34
TTC #1 since June 2011, RE December 2012
HSG: tubes clear SA: Perfect AMH: 0.9 in Jan 2013 0.7 in March 2013
Femara June 2013: No repsonse. Serophene July 2013: No repsonse
Follistim August 2013: 12 follicles, 4 mature, IUI, and a BFN.
April 2014: Lost 30lbs, got my thyroid under control. Started IVF
May: BFP! EDD 1/6/2015 Heatbeat 167!
Now: Canyon James born 12/30/14 at 6:21pm via emergency c section. 9 lbs 19 1/2 inches