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when to do my baby shower?
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Re: when to do my baby shower?
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
Why does it not surprise me that your grasp on the point is tenuous? Bless your little bratty heart.
When I read your post this is what I envision:
KLASSY, Y'all! I can't even dream or imagine why someone wouldn't want to grace you with the honor of a baby shower given the previous 3 (or 4?) opportunities. Given your exceptional social skills and ability to win people over on the internet, it is no surprise no one is offering to do it this time either. You must be a lot of fun IRL.
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Allowed* YWIA.
No one likes immaturity, but here you are to demonstrate it for us so well. Its hilarious.
Why do you feel the need to defend yourself? You said you didn't see a problem with what you are doing. So, if you are confident and shit, then why bother defending yourself? Is it because you know that its wrong, tacky and rude? Usually people who are blameless don't have to defend themselves, just saying. Its only the guilty that feel the need to defend themselves.
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You can still act like a lady over the internet. It's possible, I promise.
This is pure entertainment for me. You are freaking out.
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Educate me then!
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Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
My mom has told me from day one she won't throw me a baby shower until the baby is here because the point is to see the baby haha. Just thought I would try and give you an answer to your actual question and not criticize you for something you weren't even asking about. Have a happy 9 months
Some of you? Simply disagreeing.
Some of you? Sitting on your high horse spitting out rude comments.
Own it.
My neighbor is due in February and we planning hers for the weekend after Thanksgiving. Mainly because we are in the Northeast U.S. and worry about weather come January and don't want it too close to Christmas.
It has nothing to do with how "laid back" a person is. I'm plenty laid back, but I don't believe in being gift-grabby and throwing a gift-giving event to pan-handle for gifts from my friends n' family. Showers (of any variety) are gifts. End of story. Someone throws one for you. The one and only cardinal rule is don't throw a gift-giving event for yourself.
Etiquette and manners are not about personality preferences. They are about respect for your guests and putting them at the most comfort. It is clear you have never actually been taught manners because if you had you would know this. Bless your heart.
So yeah, making the situation about whether or not the hostess or anyone else is "laid back" is really lame. You can be laid back and follow etiquette just fine. Plenty of truly relaxed, sociable people do it on the regular. Nice try at justification though. Truthfully, I think a mother-to-be throwing her own shower is the opposite of laid back. They are usually control freaks that want their shower to be just so and would be upset if their pretty princess preggo day was not to their standards if anyone tried. Vom.
However, I know from experience that there would be talk later. When I worked for an event coordinator the guests would talk as we were setting up or cleaning up. We watched the guests and heard them talk. Yes, it happens. Friends have opinions and family members definitely do. Just because they don't tell you that they think its tacky/rude to your face doesn't mean that they don't think it and don't express it to others when you are not present.
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Proof for why it's okay to NOT have a baby shower, if nobody offers:
1. Definition of "gift" from webster's: something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation
2. Voluntary means they didn't have to do it - they chose to. Meaning it wasn't not an expectation for them to do so.
3. Someone offering to throw a baby shower is a gift
Conclusion: If someone offered to throw you a baby shower, it wasn't an expectation for them to.
It follows - > It's not an expectation to have one, so it's okay if nobody throws you one.
A proof that a baby shower hosted by MTB is not actually a baby shower but something else entirely:
1. A gift is something transferred or transacted from one person to another (see definition above)
2. You are yourself.
It follows: You cannot be another person
Conclusion: It is impossible to give yourself a gift by definition.
3. A baby shower is a gift.
By substitution: It is impossible to give yourself a baby shower.
Why it's tacky:
1. A baby shower is a gift giving event. From wikipedia: "In some countries, a baby shower is a way to celebrate the pending or recent birth of a child by presenting gifts to the parents at a party."
2. Assume: It's okay to throw your own baby shower
3. You are MTB (that is to say, a member of the referenced "parents" in the above definition)
By definition of 'Baby Shower": You will be receiving gifts.
From proof #1: Gifts are not an expectation.
Deductive reasoning: Therefore, MTB made gifts an expectation by hosting her own baby shower.
BY CONTRADICTION: Saying it's okay to throw your own baby shower has made gifts an expectation, which is against their definition - a contradiction. Therefore, the premise "it's okay to throw your own baby shower" must be false.
QED, bitches.
Married: August 2012
DD: 9/22/2014