someone on FB just announced their pregnancy at SIX WEEKS

germanpickle · July 2013

I waited until the start of the second trimester to share the news on my personal blog and therefore Facebook. Family knew very early (like 6 weeks) because we were facing complications and my mom came to Germany to visit us right when I was puking non-stop. Since I lost twins and my family spreads information and mis-information REALLY quickly and my husband is quite private ... we take our time.

Ajoyd · July 2013

We told our parents right away and our siblings soon after. Our friends that we hang out with most often figured it out pretty early on but we didn't confirm until about 12 weeks and then at the beginning of second tri I started spreading the word among close friends.

I announced at about 22 weeks on Facebook in an AW birthday post, just something along the lines of "Thanks for the birthday wishes, we are looking forward to the year ahead and the arrival of Baby T in October!"

I admit that I side-eye very early announcements.

Inn2 · July 2013

We told our families and I told a good friend at 6 weeks, but then they knew our struggles. We told more people and our good friends gradually along the way, but nothing on FB until 20 weeks. And then it just was my DH changing his picture to our car parked in the expectant mother's spot.

. Since then, we've not spoken of it at all and no one but close family and a friend know about the struggles we are having. Newer friends around here know, but only because I work with them and had to stop working early.

jackiesue586 · July 2013

My brothers girlfriend of 3 months posted her pregnancy at 3 weeks.

...But it wasn't planned

I didn't even know I was pregnant a 3 weeks!

norbert5 · July 2013

Whatever, people do what they do. But if I am close family or friend and I find something bit out via fb I am going to be mad.

kdjudd · July 2013

I don't understand the big deal. If someone wants to share their good news then that's their choice! I didn't do it, but that was because I had bleeding early on and wasn't sure of the outcome. I can understand why someone would be super excited though!

jennlin · July 2013

different people have different preferences on when they announce. no big deal.

sweettwilight16 · July 2013

My philosophy in the beginning was to only tell people that I would tell anyway if I had a loss. We told family and a couple close friends after we heard the heartbeat, which was around 7-8 weeks. We told more friends after our 11 week u/s, and put it on facebook at 13 weeks- I wanted to make sure all of our family found out directly from us, because there have been times when I've felt kind of insulted that I found out via FB post. I also wanted to wait until I had a bump to show off

Granted it was more like a food bump at 13 weeks, but whatevs.

kimbo1216 · July 2013

Eh. To each her own. NMS, but who am I to judge?

Aunt Edna · July 2013

Not a fan of the early announcement. I had to tell my bosses very early at work with my first pregnancy and it sucked. I ended up having a m/c at 8 weeks, even after seeing the HB, and it sucked even more.
I roll my eyes at the early FB announcements, especially if they have a huge friends list. But whatever. I'm 30 weeks now and haven't made one post about being pregnant.

SDMateer · July 2013

I think it's great to announce early. I feel like it's a negative prayer to be fearful of miscarriage and people should take the stigma out of talking about issues such as miscarriage. If the person does have a miscarriage I guess they are supposed to suffer in silence? To each their own, but there is nothing wrong with announcing early!

CousinVicki · July 2013

SDMateer said:

I think it's great to announce early. I feel like it's a negative prayer to be fearful of miscarriage and people should take the stigma out of talking about issues such as miscarriage. If the person does have a miscarriage I guess they are supposed to suffer in silence? To each their own, but there is nothing wrong with announcing early!

omg, i don't think there is a stigma to miscarriage, what are you talking about? i do think it's a personal thing though, and i don't need sorta friends on FB knowing about this. also, i didn't suffer i silence, my immediate family and close friends knew i was pregnant early on. you are all making me roll my eyes AGAIN

palm513 · July 2013

I have a friend who has had three prior losses find out in lab work she was pregnant at THREE AND A HALF WEEKS and announced it that day, on FB. She lost that baby at seven weeks and then about four to five months later she announced she was pregnant again at only six weeks. I almost think she likes the attention she gets when she losses a baby....

I also announced my last pregnancy at around six weeks. And horribly regretted it when I had a miscarriage... and I managed to not have to really tell anyone.... But yeah still wish I waited, just couldn't hold in the excitement me and my DH got pregnant on our first cycle TTC.

msronzio · July 2013

I don't like attention, and I don't like FB. My mom posted something when we found out he was a boy, around 22 weeks. Then my half sister who I am not very close with messaged me "is there something you want to tell me?" LOL. Awkward turtle.

I think I finally made a post about it at 28 weeks but it wasn't a "I'M PREGNANT LOL" it was about how amazing it was to feel the hiccups and to know I'll soon have a son and be uniting our families together. And haven't posted about it since lol

I was afraid I was going to miscarry. I was underweight. DH works in health care. Since our LO wasn't planned every now and then it would come up in conversation and he'd say "maybe you'll miscarry." Not in a mean way, just in a health care provider matter-of-factly way.. And I'd burst into heartbroken sobs every time. He'd feel horrible and apologize. But he could have been right, I was only 92 lbs at conception. Now I'm about 32 wks and I've gained tons of weight

The nutritionist is pleased and I didn't think I could do it. Here's praying for a fat little baby!!!!

CousinVicki · July 2013

msronzio said:

I don't like attention, and I don't like FB. My mom posted something when we found out he was a boy, around 22 weeks. Then my half sister who I am not very close with messaged me "is there something you want to tell me?" LOL. Awkward turtle.

I think I finally made a post about it at 28 weeks but it wasn't a "I'M PREGNANT LOL" it was about how amazing it was to feel the hiccups and to know I'll soon have a son and be uniting our families together. And haven't posted about it since lol

I was afraid I was going to miscarry. I was underweight. DH works in health care. Since our LO wasn't planned every now and then it would come up in conversation and he'd say "maybe you'll miscarry." Not in a mean way, just in a health care provider matter-of-factly way.. And I'd burst into heartbroken sobs every time. He'd feel horrible and apologize. But he could have been right, I was only 92 lbs at conception. Now I'm about 32 wks and I've gained tons of weight The nutritionist is pleased and I didn't think I could do it. Here's praying for a fat little baby!!!!

92 lbs and how tall? also, why were you so underweight exactly?

msronzio · July 2013

@CousinVicki honestly I've always been really small. I didn't work out and wasn't really petite but my boobs are small and stuff like that, 5'1". When I saw my OB they immediately referred me to the nutritionist and put me on a 2200 calorie diet. I was getting 1500 or around there, but I dont know, just never really put on weight. 17 BMI. I should stand to gain another 10-15 lbs but I've gained 29 lbs and am seriously so proud of myself. Sometimes it hurts when people see my belly and comment "wow you're 7 months and still so small!" but I know I'm being oversensitive and they mean well.

Mtilton · July 2013

Hate to put this out there but judgemental much. Allow the girl to be happy and hope for the best for her. We told people at 8 weeks only to find out we were ectopic (told because we mentioned it to family member who then mentioned it to friends). Not only is it embarrassing but having someone call you a dummy because of it is worse. We decided to announce the ectopic pregnancy and wrote about it at length. You would be surprised at how many people thanked me for being honest.

Also a close friend of mine had to also announce her miscarriage at 20 weeks.

No one is immune and it's really disheartening to have other women "talk" about you like that when so many people go through loss. It's society that keeps it taboo but 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss.

Shame on you

Wino0920 · July 2013

I can't believe there are actual debates about this subject. Who the hell cares when someone announces their news. This has to be the dumbest debate ever.

CousinVicki · July 2013

Mtilton said:

Hate to put this out there but judgemental much. Allow the girl to be happy and hope for the best for her. We told people at 8 weeks only to find out we were ectopic (told because we mentioned it to family member who then mentioned it to friends). Not only is it embarrassing but having someone call you a dummy because of it is worse. We decided to announce the ectopic pregnancy and wrote about it at length. You would be surprised at how many people thanked me for being honest. Also a close friend of mine had to also announce her miscarriage at 20 weeks. No one is immune and it's really disheartening to have other women "talk" about you like that when so many people go through loss. It's society that keeps it taboo but 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss. Shame on you

wrote about it at length? Why?

Mmhodges07 · July 2013

I've had two people do this in the last few months, and they were only 5-7 weeks. DH and I waited until we were 16 weeks, just to be in the clear. I don't judge them for announcing early, but I would be devastated for them if anything happened.

MiaGirl0815 · July 2013

Since when is there a stigma to m/c or talking about it taboo? I don't get where those statements are coming from. I just think the possibility of loss is greater early on and to announce early opens you up to having to deal with the loss publicly. Announcing to close friends and family is one thing, but to your 300+ FB friends early seems AWish to me. JMO

MissJackieMeri · July 2013

Unfortunately I had a friend do this! And plastered it everywhere on fb and Instagram. Her bf told her to wait till they went to their first appt but she didn't! Luckily she is 17 weeks pregnant now but I don't understand it. And every 5 mins on fb it's about her pregnancy.

Aunt Edna · July 2013

SDMateer said:
I think it's great to announce early. I feel like it's a negative prayer to be fearful of miscarriage and people should take the stigma out of talking about issues such as miscarriage. If the person does have a miscarriage I guess they are supposed to suffer in silence? To each their own, but there is nothing wrong with announcing early!

Suffer in silence....stigma.... Huh? Huge eye roll. No one is saying mc is taboo or a stigma or that you should suffer in silence. I just didn't need to grieve about my mc with some chick from my HS math class. I had family and close friends for that. That is different than doing an AW post of FB.

Being fearful of mc isn't a negative prayer, it is a reality for many ladies, including myself. Insert another fucking eye roll here...

Anicole2137 · July 2013

We told our parents at 5 weeks, we weren't going to go Facebook official with it until I was at 12 weeks but the inlaws decided that they were going to post on Facebook not even 5 minutes of us telling them. So I didn't have an option of actually coming out with it... Now that I think about it, it still kind of pisses me off that they did that without asking first...

Fetish · July 2013

Being a FTM, I told everyone at 4 weeks pregnant LOOOOL even on FB! hahaha I didn't know that you shouldn't tell anyone until MUCH further along lmao Live and learn I guess!

Mtilton · July 2013

Because I knew I was not the only one that suffered a miscarriage. And I wasn't. I still have people who tell me that it was nice to know that they knew someone who went through the same thing. Society is so hush hush about it so when it happens you to, you feel alone.

My point of the post was everyone should be supportive and reach out to each other. So what if she announced what you considered early? The flaw in the sentence is that she is her own person and you are your own person, two separate things.

smjmlove · July 2013

I would never say anything that early last November the Saturday after thanksgiving I found out I was pregnant then that followingThursday I miscarried I was only 4 weeks my due date would have been next week!

SDMateer · July 2013

I said it shouldn't be stigmatized or taboo. And never said miscarriage wasn't an awful thing to go through.

MiaGirl0815 · July 2013

SDMateer said:

I said it shouldn't be stigmatized or taboo. And never said miscarriage wasn't an awful thing to go through.

No, you said people should "take the stigma out" of talking about m/c....implying there IS a stigma. I just don't see it. Telling someone their m/c fears were a "negative prayer" isn't exactly supportive of trying to get women to talk more about m/c, no?

agrobins1 · July 2013

This crazy girl at work announced here two days after peeing on a stick, waited two more days to announce on FB, that was at FOUR WEEKS!!! I mean really?!?

chicsahm · July 2013

Some people might want the support if something happens, everyone handles it differently... why knock it, not that big of a deal in my book.

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