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August 2013 Moms
mochalattemama
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Can it still be Bitchfest Monday?
mochalattemama
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I just want to b*tch and whine about my mother.
She is the least supportive, most self-centered person but I don't have the energy to argue right now so I am biting my tongue.
When I told her I might have to be induced due to health concerns, she gave me a list of days that would work best for her. Today she called to tell me that inductions are painful and can be unhealthy. She suggested that I should just have a c-section (because that is up to me) and she said her sister's daughter has cerebral palsy resulting from induction, etc... ?
Thanks, mom. I've done my research, but thank you for your support.
Bitch about your family with me, please.
She is the least supportive, most self-centered person but I don't have the energy to argue right now so I am biting my tongue.
When I told her I might have to be induced due to health concerns, she gave me a list of days that would work best for her. Today she called to tell me that inductions are painful and can be unhealthy. She suggested that I should just have a c-section (because that is up to me) and she said her sister's daughter has cerebral palsy resulting from induction, etc... ?
Thanks, mom. I've done my research, but thank you for your support.
Bitch about your family with me, please.
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Re: Can it still be Bitchfest Monday?
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
Some of my family has been "less than supportive" about my choice to do a natural birth. Saying there's no way I can do it, etc. It pisses me off.
Sorry your in laws suck.
She is the least supportive, most self-centered person but I don't have the energy to argue right now so I am biting my tongue.
My mom is also not at all supposortive, and I typically just bite my tongue because I'm over trying to deal with her. She is completely narcissistic, and our relationship is basically out-of-sight, out-of-mind. The only time she set foot in the city where I went to college (4 hours away) was at my graduation, yet she sent my sister care packages when she was living in a dorm 20 miles from home. She calls me maybe once a year, but she doesn't ask about me or my family, she just goes on and on about her church groups and how many responsibilities she has with them. She came to Atlanta to visit me twice in the 10 years that I lived there, and one of those times was after DD was born. She didn't come to help with DD, she just sat on my couch and read her bible study out loud and asked DH for refills on her drink (I can't lie though, she did wash my laundry that week, but didn't do anything else). She takes several vacations a year and is retired, so it's not like she doesn't have to time or money to travel, we just aren't a priority. She lives in the same city as my sister, but still doesn't go to my niece's b-day parties because they always fall on the same weekend as the church retreat- her excuse is the retreat only happens once a year....
D*mn. You ladies have some gems for family members. My ILs drive me crazy but nothing overly offensive.
I will cheer you all up by making you laugh with my two b*tch stories about the day in the life of having a 2 year old wild child. While loading the dishwasher this morning, my son chewed through the string we have tied on the wood stove to keep him out of the soot. He then proceed to paint his blonde hair black with soot and I have tiny sooty handprints on my couch now.
I got him all cleaned up and in new clothing and while I was on the phone with the hospital updating my insurance info, he reached into his diaper and pulled out a surprise for me, and then wiped his hands clean all over his clothing.
Is it time for DH to come home yet?
Anyways i got an email last night saying she heard i had my bastard and that she was praying for my abomination that he would grow up to be a better person then me.
My responce, im sorry arent all three of your sons felons, meth addicts, alcaholics, and arent they women beaters. Isnt your grandson all these things except a felon for now? Maybe you should check on the plank in your eye before trying to remove the splinter in mine. Now can you kindly not contact me again.
I hate that woman it was nice to not have to smile and take her bs
No, thank goodness
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
I do give bentleys bio dad credit for this he did step in the one time xh walked through his restraining order
For me it's my IL'S. I've posted quite a few times about them. At the moment FIL is staying here because he has gotten a job closer to us then where they live. I'm completely not happy with it especially since its getting closer and closer to the due date and there's no sign of him moving. Well, last night he said to me that I can't so everything myself and I will need help. I've heard this once feom MIL already and twice now from FIL. He was talking about how his IL'S were around everyday to help out. I don't quite understand why H's family keep saying this to me. First off I've never implied I want no ones help. We already have an almost 3 year old and they were living in England up until 5 months ago and we did just fine. Secondly, I'm one of those people that CAN'T be around people 24/7 or at least have people over in my own home alllllllll the time. It drives me nuts, I need space.
It's like they think I can't parent my own children and I don't want anything to do with them? I've never said anything close to that. I would love help sometimes, but not when it's just convenient for them.. Ugh
@KatieR2310 you are a saint for putting up with that. If that were my FIL, I would tell DH "its not my fault he took a job closer to our house than his, why does he need to live here?" I would try to put an end date on that arrangement, quick.
They are probably mentioning how much help you will need as a passive aggressive way of asking to be around all the time. Sounds like your DH needs to put up some boundaries for them ASAP. You deserve an award.
My ILs are another story. They are sure that they are perfect and yet they have more issues than most they just don't ever acknowledge it. They just sweep everything under the rug. It drives me bonkers because my DH is so used to their dysfunction/his moms extremely passive aggressive behavior he doesn't even see it unless I stop him at that moment and point it out to him. Even then he is like, no, she didn't mean it like that, and yet he readily admits I am much better at reading people than he is by a long shot.
ETA: it isn't showing that I quoted this? My response to Kristin030
DH wants to make everyone happy but he doesn't understand that he can't. I'm almost positive he's scared of his mothers reaction in some situations. I get he wants to help them out, but a line needs to be drawn sometimes. They are a close family I get that, but so am I with mine but I don't need to invade others space! If I only had the ability to ship them back to England. If FIL is here when they baby is born shit will seriously hit the fan. I've been patient up till now..
I agree. I blame his mother for alot and how they've grown up. She's sort of like the ring leader ad if her kids don't listen then she turns into the exorcist... Literally. DH has a sister who is 21 this year and still lives at home and has everything done for her and paid for, she doesn't even do her laundry. It's beyond rediculous. DH is the only one who has earned his own money from a young age and bought his own vehicles etc. also resulted in him lending a lot of money though. I personally feel like they are taking advantage of him. They are suppose to be looking for a house to rent down closer to where FIL works, but it's now 4 weeks into his job and no budge yet.
Sigh..
My family is crazy, but we're all pretty close anyway, and they also all live about six hours away, which ensures they don't have a chance to drive me nuts! My parents have been divorced for about ten years now, but they still live together (my dad took over my old bedroom when they split up) and are great friends, which is nice. And I live far enough away that when they get on each others' nerves I don't have to hear about it! lol My biggest family drama was my little sister, who is an alcoholic, but she's been sober for over a year now and is like a whole new person - it's amazing!!
I get along mostly fine with DH's family. I get along fabulously with his siblings, and his dad and dad's family are all pretty easy-going, but my relationship with his mom is... challenging. We have some pretty serious ideological disagreements (religion, politics, etc), which we mostly just try not to talk about. More challenging for me is that she's just an incredible energy drain. She sucks all of the energy out of the room. She's one of those people who just talks and talks non-stop; you can't even have a conversation with her, because you can't ever get a response in edgewise. It's exhausting. And she talks at length about things she knows absolutely nothing about; she repeats anything she hears/reads on the internet like it's gospel, forwards incredibly offensive/inflammatory e-mails, and is constantly trying to get DH to enroll in pyramid schemes, even when we tell her that they're scams. She really wants to come up for a couple of weeks (!!) after the baby comes and "help out"; she plans to bring her RV and just park it in front of my house so she isn't "imposing" on me, but just the idea of having her up for a couple of days is exhausting, especially if DH's sisters can't come to help with buffering her! Not to mention I live in a suburban neighborhood and I don't think my neighbors would appreciate the RV...
She's not a bad person at all, and she really means well, but I don't foresee us ever being close. I also really worry because with DH's nephews, she had a major hand in raising them; they all lived with her at some point in their lives, and they all live in the same city as her and she often babysits/visits/etc, but she will definitely not be as involved with the raising of this LO due to the aforementioned ideological differences, and I anticipate some future struggles with that. Fortunately, she lives about a three hour drive away from us, and she isn't very mobile (she has chronic health issues), so I don't have to worry about her "popping" by!
O was born Aug 13!
B.B.F.L
I cant imagine saying such horrible things about a baby. But she said them. I told my mom about this and she was appalled. As is her right.
And im christian, i know many frown upon the fact ds was had out of wedlock. But my family still loves him dearly.