Everyone Concerned About Weight!

Mytaras · July 2013

I know it is hard to see that number go up on the scale. Regardless if you were underweight, normal weight or overweight prior to getting pregnant. BUT you're pregnant and gaining a certain amount is healthy and necessary. I don't want those who are fretting about it to look back and regret how much thought and anxiety they wasted on their weight gain instead of their LO. If your doctor isn't worried. Then please don't worry about it. Easier said than done I know!

Maybe it would help you if you saw some stats on other people periodically, (I know we've done this before). Then you can see the range of how different everyone gains. Ill start and even post my weight. I understand if people don't want to go that far and just put the amount they've gained

24 w 1d
5' 9
pre pregnancy weight 153
Now weigh 169

Total weight gain 16 pounds

preid06 · July 2013

I will play, mostly bc I've gained more than I thought I would at this point BUT I feel great and my doctor hasn't said anything. I eat healthy and try to exercise a few times a week. A number is a number, period, and I don't weigh myself except for when I am at the doctor. If she isn't concerned, then neither am I. I figure my body is doing what it needs to nourish and protect my little girl.

25 weeks, 4 days
5'6"
Pre-pregnancy weight: 125
Now weigh: 150
Total weight gain: 25 pounds

MsCrispy · July 2013

I keep track of my weight gain, but I don't worry or really do anything about it. I try to eat healthy and exercise regardless of what the scale says.

I have gained more weight than my last pregnancy, which doesn't make me happy, but I also started about 10 pounds lower, so I just tell myself that my body needed to catch up first. My doctor hasn't mentioned anything about the weight gain, so I don't see a reason to worry or bring it up.

alexisjo88 · July 2013

Can't we make this an announcement so that it doesn't get buried?

23w5d

5'3"

Pre-pregnancy = 148

1st tri weight = 131 ( loss of 17, doc says 65% was water weight, had an issue with hydration)

current = 153

total gain = 5 (+6 non water weight)

molly0169 · July 2013

5'6"

23 weeks 1 day

Pre pregnancy= 135

Current= 146

Total weight gain- 11 lbs

kris10bishop · July 2013

I'm copying and pasting a section from a comment I made on a separate thread about an hour ago. Please stop this. It's getting ridiculous. What you're doing is so not helpful.

"First, let me explain why I hate these so much. (Full disclosure: I have previously participated in the weight-gain posts and have since realized how dangerous they are. Please forgive me.) The majority of people who post about this issue seem to have struggled or still be struggling with an unhealthy preoccupation with weight at the least, and possibly even a serious eating disorder. Generally, these threads quickly evolve into a place where people begin posting how much weight they've gained, and regardless of their intentions, this is seriously problematic for someone whose natural tendency is to compare herself to others and obsess over the scale. Group therapy is actually a controversial technique in the treatment of eating disorders for this very reason, and I would assume that would apply to online forums that are unmediated by a professional in the mental health field. But even for those who are not suffering from an actual disorder, it's still not helpful to read about how much other women have gained because, like many PPs have pointed out, every woman's body is different and will react differently to pregnancy. For that reason, our doctors are the only ones who can really say whether or not our weight gain is healthy. Even the charts and sites found online are meant to serve as general guidelines and cannot take the place of the individualized care you receive from your doctor."

Here's a link to the original thread:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12010299/weight-gain-at-24-weeks#latest

rspalding001 · July 2013

5' 3"
26 weeks this Friday
Pre pregnancy weight 121 lbs
Weight now 147 lbs
Total gain 26 lbs... Looking like a pound a week on average!

Mytaras · July 2013

kris10bishop said:
I'm copying and pasting a section from a comment I made on a separate thread about an hour ago. Please stop this. It's getting ridiculous. What you're doing is so not helpful.

"First, let me explain why I hate these so much. (Full disclosure: I have previously participated in the weight-gain posts and have since realized how dangerous they are. Please forgive me.) The majority of people who post about this issue seem to have struggled or still be struggling with an unhealthy preoccupation with weight at the least, and possibly even a serious eating disorder. Generally, these threads quickly evolve into a place where people begin posting how much weight they've gained, and regardless of their intentions, this is seriously problematic for someone whose natural tendency is to compare herself to others and obsess over the scale. Group therapy is actually a controversial technique in the treatment of eating disorders for this very reason, and I would assume that would apply to online forums that are unmediated by a professional in the mental health field. But even for those who are not suffering from an actual disorder, it's still not helpful to read about how much other women have gained because, like many PPs have pointed out, every woman's body is different and will react differently to pregnancy. For that reason, our doctors are the only ones who can really say whether or not our weight gain is healthy. Even the charts and sites found online are meant to serve as general guidelines and cannot take the place of the individualized care you receive from your doctor."

Here's a link to the original thread:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12010299/weight-gain-at-24-weeks#latest

Might be helpful to some to see how different everyone is. And regardless of the charts everyone varies.

aboyle44 · July 2013

This is a great idea! Here are my stats. I was really sick the first tri (lost about 7-8 lbs). This is my second pregnancy. I'm about 3 lbs lighter at this stage now than last time, I think it's due to the rough first tri I had.

25w1d

5'9"

Pre - 155

Now - 169

Total Gain - 14 lbs (7 of which just happened the last month! Which my doctor didn't even blink an eye about).

kris10bishop · July 2013

Mytaras said:

I'm copying and pasting a section from a comment I made on a separate thread about an hour ago. Please stop this. It's getting ridiculous. What you're doing is so not helpful.

"First, let me explain why I hate these so much. (Full disclosure: I have previously participated in the weight-gain posts and have since realized how dangerous they are. Please forgive me.) The majority of people who post about this issue seem to have struggled or still be struggling with an unhealthy preoccupation with weight at the least, and possibly even a serious eating disorder. Generally, these threads quickly evolve into a place where people begin posting how much weight they've gained, and regardless of their intentions, this is seriously problematic for someone whose natural tendency is to compare herself to others and obsess over the scale. Group therapy is actually a controversial technique in the treatment of eating disorders for this very reason, and I would assume that would apply to online forums that are unmediated by a professional in the mental health field. But even for those who are not suffering from an actual disorder, it's still not helpful to read about how much other women have gained because, like many PPs have pointed out, every woman's body is different and will react differently to pregnancy. For that reason, our doctors are the only ones who can really say whether or not our weight gain is healthy. Even the charts and sites found online are meant to serve as general guidelines and cannot take the place of the individualized care you receive from your doctor."

Here's a link to the original thread:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12010299/weight-gain-at-24-weeks#latest

Might be helpful to some to see how different everyone is. And regardless of the charts everyone varies.

Yes, this does show how different everyone is, but that's a fact we all know without actually having to look at everyone's numbers. And what exactly is the purpose of adding our heights and pre-pregnancy weights? So we can say, "Oh, look! This person is my height and weighed the same, so we should probably gain about the same!" No, it doesn't work that way. Talking to your doctor is the only helpful option here.

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · July 2013

kris10bishop said:

I'm copying and pasting a section from a comment I made on a separate thread about an hour ago. Please stop this. It's getting ridiculous. What you're doing is so not helpful.

"First, let me explain why I hate these so much. (Full disclosure: I have previously participated in the weight-gain posts and have since realized how dangerous they are. Please forgive me.) The majority of people who post about this issue seem to have struggled or still be struggling with an unhealthy preoccupation with weight at the least, and possibly even a serious eating disorder. Generally, these threads quickly evolve into a place where people begin posting how much weight they've gained, and regardless of their intentions, this is seriously problematic for someone whose natural tendency is to compare herself to others and obsess over the scale. Group therapy is actually a controversial technique in the treatment of eating disorders for this very reason, and I would assume that would apply to online forums that are unmediated by a professional in the mental health field. But even for those who are not suffering from an actual disorder, it's still not helpful to read about how much other women have gained because, like many PPs have pointed out, every woman's body is different and will react differently to pregnancy. For that reason, our doctors are the only ones who can really say whether or not our weight gain is healthy. Even the charts and sites found online are meant to serve as general guidelines and cannot take the place of the individualized care you receive from your doctor."

Here's a link to the original thread:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12010299/weight-gain-at-24-weeks#latest

This. So much this. So tired of the weight posts.

lamo1210 · July 2013

I could care less about the weight I am gaining or not gaining. I AM overweight, "obese" if you will. I'll admit I was always worried that about weight before getting pregnant. And it wasn't completely about gaining a ton more weight than I should, but about how I would look pregnant. It STILL drives me nuts looking and seeing little to no bump, as if I just gained the 20lbs I lost before getting pregnant back.

Anyways people, my point is that we need to stop dwelling on this crap, weight gain, weight loss, bump, no bump and focus on the fact that we are bringing a healthy baby into the world.

DebateThis · July 2013

It doesn't do anyone here a damn bit of good to know what someone else is gaining.

Mytaras · July 2013

Clearly my intentions were not evil. Sorry if this has offended everyone.

rbtrumpet · July 2013

Mytaras said:

*snip*

Might be helpful to some to see how different everyone is. And regardless of the charts everyone varies.

I strongly disagree.

Coming from someone who has borderlined eating disorders in the past**, I would look through this thread, and see 1 person who has only gained 1 lb and think "well, if they only gained 1 lb, then it must also be healthy for me to only gain 1 lb" - where they started, how sick they were, no matter how under-weight I started this pregnancy - none of that would have made a difference in my mind. All I would have seen was "so-and-so gained 1 lb so I should only gain 1 lb, and if I've gained more, then I'm doing something wrong"

**this was the distant past for me. I've come a long way, learned to truly love my body, even when I am grossly overweight (as I tend to be more often than not). I love my body, treat it with respect, know how to eat healthy, know how to exercise now. (even though I induldge a little too ofen lately ).

DebateThis · July 2013

Mytaras said:

Clearly my intentions were not evil. Sorry if this has offended everyone.

"I'm sorry if you're offended" is not an apology, but you don't need to be a martyr about it. It's been discussed ad nauseam already that this topic is ridiculous to rehash and is incredibly individualized.

rbtrumpet · July 2013

Mytaras said:

Clearly my intentions were not evil. Sorry if this has offended everyone.

I hope my previous post didn't come across too strong - I'm not offended, and can see how people are interested in this sort of thing. I just want to pose an alternate viewpoint on how this comes across.

A lot of the people who are posting lately about weight issues are people who have said that they have eating disorders. It really does change how you view things - even innocent things

keljackson · July 2013

Good morning! This topic sure go intense quickly.

For me, and only me, this post was helpful. It was nice seeing how different we all are. So please don't speak for everyone and say " What we did say was that this isn't helpful, so no matter what the intentions were behind it, it isn't appropriate."

I don't find it inappropriate. If you are sick of reading weight post, don't read post titled Weight!

If you have an issue with weight or eating disorder and you are going to compare yourself to others you probably are going to do that no matter what anyone post. If you need help with your weight issues please ask your doctor, family or friends for help.

Mytaras, I don't mean to speak for her, but was taking about a PREGNANCY topic that had to do with weight. NOT a eating issue or disorder issue. This is an EXPECTING board and weigh is part of it. People are going to talk about weight 100 times just like their nursery, names, TMI post, registry questions, MIL problems and boobs.

Don't like it- don't read it

and leave Mytaras alone it was just a post, she didn't call your kid ugly LOL

Chelli78 · July 2013

Currently 24wk1day

Ht 5'6"

7wks pg- 154lb

Current weight: 172

Weight gain: 18lb

Joaniebaldwin · July 2013

I agree that although I don't think the original intention was anything other than to help these posts aren't helpful. I am overweight and have struggled ALOT since high school with always comparing myself to others. I read these posts thinking oh yeah others have gained as much as me I'm sure and then it means I'm ok but then when they enevitably haven't I feel even worse about myself! I've already gained 30 pounds and was only supposed to gain 20 the entire pregnancy. But, I know myself and if I'm eating right and exercising properly not the people on here so I need to stop comparing myself to others!

amandasvids · July 2013

Amen! Love this post!

elroda · July 2013

I agree with so much of what has already been said! Just wanted to add that yes, healthy weight is good for the baby and because of the weight gain I now have an AWESOME RACK!! Yayyy boobies that I've never had before!! \:D/

justmepreggo2020 · July 2013

23 weeks 4 days

5'5
Pre = 125
Current = 138
Total gain so far = 13 pounds

Elreid · July 2013

ashleyross said:

Mytaras said:
Clearly my intentions were not evil. Sorry if this has offended everyone.
No one said you were trying to be intentionally malicious. What we did say was that this isn't helpful, so no matter what the intentions were behind it, it isn't appropriate.
There's no need to get dramatic about it, just take it as a learning experience. The weight posts are getting old and making a new one to try and *help* alleviate the stress in other ones in nothing short of ridiculous.

If you don't like it then don't participate and don't read it. It may be helpful for some people. I don't find it offensive, and if it offends you then stop reading it. No need to make someone who was just trying to help feel worse about a situation.

s_cloeter · July 2013

Good idea Mytaras. Not that I care about weight, but I find it interesting. And it's a free, community board where you can post what you like, what interests you, and what you want to say, so don't worry about the people who don't like your post. They don't have to read it if they don't want to. Free will. For example, I am so tired of MIL vent posts, therefore I don't read them.....

5'8"

26 weeks with twins

124 lbs before, 140 now

sands42 · July 2013

I'll play.... everyone's different and it's just a topic of interest.

26 weeks with baby #2
5'6"
118lbs before
128lbs currently

I weighed 138 lbs when I delivered my first, so I expect to gain a little bit more with this one.

lamo1210 · July 2013

JoeLies said:

shortiejkh333 · July 2013

5'9"
24wks
Pre-pregnancy weight=140
Weight now=164
Total weight gained=24

Hollywogg · July 2013

Almost anything we talk about on here could be a trigger subject for somebody about something. The idea that Pregnancy brings up body issues is a nobrainer. Jumping on to a post to tell someone not to post that kind of post just seems silly.

amberrrjade · July 2013

24 weeks

5'2

Pre-pregnancy- 104

23 week check in- 124

Total weight gain- 20 pounds

AngeliaG8 · July 2013

So did all the tall people just decide not to post or am I really the tallest one here at 5'10"? Not saying that 5'9" is short. This is what I'm insecure about.

mcgowanp1 · July 2013

26 weeks 1 day

5'6"

Pre Preg:134 Ibs

Weight Now: 163 Lbs

Total Gain: 29 lbs

Jodiefoffel · July 2013

25 weeks 5 days

5' 6.5"

Pre-pregnancy wt 130

Present wt 150

Gain of 20 lbs. all that matters is you feel good and baby is growing. If dr isn't worried, then you shouldn't be either.

katie.725 · July 2013

ashleyross said:

Here's the deal @keljackson, It's not "just a post", it's a trigger subject for those have that struggled with weight in the past. I don't believe @Mytaras had ill intentions, but that doesn't mean it isn't going to negatively effect people who have these struggles and have had them their entire life.
This post was made because another bumpie had posted concerns about her weight gain. This woman had admitted to emotional struggles with her weight in the past and probably needs some counseling (nothing wrong with that!!). It wasn't directed at women who are just fine with where they are. Mytaras meant it as a way to help others who were struggling (which you would see if you read her original post instead of just jumping to white knight her.)
This isn't a "don't like, don't read" issue. I have personal experience with emotional weight issues. I struggled with an ED and exercise addiction. I weighed 100 pounds, did intense cardio everyday and still counted calories. It wasn't healthy. Weight gain isn't easy for me, and I'm a loss momma who knows that it's best for my child, who I worked really freaking hard to get! I'm getting to be ok with it, but it isn't easy.
Can you say the same? Because if you can and you are still finding this encouraging, then we'll talk. But for *most* women who have struggled with weight (myself included) it isn't helpful to see. And while I may think I want to see those things, in reality it's only going to be damaging and make me start to judge myself.

I come from a similar background of ED and borderline anorexia... I was on every diet in the book and hated my body... I am having a difficult time with the weight gain and am very blessed to have a support system reassuring me that everything will be just fine.

I know what my goals are and that is to

1) Eat healthy - easier said than done

2) Exercise regularly - very easy for me

I can see why some would be offended and upset by this post, just by reading a few I began to feel down on my self for gaining more than I should have... but I also have thyroid issues that play into all of this... do I feel like I've gained as much as I have, honestly no I don't...

I see a therapist and nutritionist to help me deal and they keep track of my weight... I only see it at the doctors and even then it weighs me down...

I completely agree with ashleyross... I have prayed and wanted this little boy miracle inside me and I'm not about to start up old bad habits (laxatives, 3+hours of exercise/daily, 500 calories/day) just to lose what the Lord has blessed me with. So I gain weight, I'm pregnant, it happens...

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