someone on FB just announced their pregnancy at SIX WEEKS

CousinVicki · July 2013

had their son wearing a 'big brother' shirt. i mean, 6 weeks??? and you even have your child involved, let alone ALL of FB? You aren't exactly in the clear here. dummy.

shelliescove3 · July 2013

A chick I knew from high school posted bump pics from 6 weeks.. Um your baby is the size of a pea.... Your belly isn't baby bump.

4Reels · July 2013

Not everyone waits til they're "in the clear" to announce a pregnancy... It's exciting no matter how far along! With both of mine, we told family as soon as we saw two lines and announced to friends after the first OB appointment.

pinkelephant8 · July 2013

I didn't tell anyone except my boyfriend until after our first appointment and we didn't really tell anyone but close family until I was in my 2nd trimester because we had a miscarriage a year ago. But I guess other people that haven't had a loss really think about it. Like this girl I know told around 6 weeks on Facebook with her daughter holding a sign saying when her mommy was due and then she miscarried and had to tell her daughter the doctor was wrong there wasn't really a baby he made a mistake. Awkward

CousinVicki · July 2013

4Reels said:

Not everyone waits til they're "in the clear" to announce a pregnancy... It's exciting no matter how far along! With both of mine, we told family as soon as we saw two lines and announced to friends after the first OB appointment.

yes my immediate family knew right away,but FB???? do you really want to risk doing a "had a miscarriage' post? uhh not me

CousinVicki · July 2013

shelliescove3 said:

A chick I knew from high school posted bump pics from 6 weeks.. Um your baby is the size of a pea.... Your belly isn't baby bump.

send her the infamous bump chart loll

Skyjewell23 · July 2013

Doesn't bother me. Honestly, we announced really early because I knew that regardless of whether my baby made it to term I would tell the world about him.

I think announcing your pregnancy is a personal preference as to when and how you want to do it.

CousinVicki · July 2013

pinkelephant8 said:

I didn't tell anyone except my boyfriend until after our first appointment and we didn't really tell anyone but close family until I was in my 2nd trimester because we had a miscarriage a year ago. But I guess other people that haven't had a loss really think about it. Like this girl I know told around 6 weeks on Facebook with her daughter holding a sign saying when her mommy was due and then she miscarried and had to tell her daughter the doctor was wrong there wasn't really a baby he made a mistake. Awkward

way to lie to your child?? that is f'd up. i didn't have a loss prior to my first bfp, but i still knew it was a possibility so early on. i don't live life in la-la land!

Mae208 · July 2013

I see this ALL THE TIME. in the last year I had 2 friends have to 'unannounce' their pregnancy at about 7-8 weeks.

Icarriedawatermelon · July 2013

My cousin is 12 weeks pregnant, already knows its a girl, and is finished with the nursery. Posted it all on Facebook. Makes me feel like a slacker at 26 weeks.

CousinVicki · July 2013

Shedna said:

My cousin is 12 weeks pregnant, already knows its a girl, and is finished with the nursery. Posted it all on Facebook. Makes me feel like a slacker at 26 weeks.

MangoMama82 · July 2013

My former neighbor announced she was pregnant on FB at 7 weeks, then announced her miscarriage, then announced they were trying again, re-announced her bfp, and recently did a status update to let us know she was about to pee on a stick, and then let us know it was negative. Some people love to way over share.

sfshorter · July 2013

Shedna said:
My cousin is 12 weeks pregnant, already knows its a girl, and is finished with the nursery. Posted it all on Facebook. Makes me feel like a slacker at 26 weeks.

Wonder if she will come do my nursery? It's an unpainted box with a chair in it at this point.

MissLauraPants · July 2013

I've seen these posts in Facebook and they make me cringe since I know when I experienced my miscarriage I would not have wanted it public when it happened. I don't side eye telling close friends, family or anyone that would feel support if a miscarriage happened but not Facebook. So I agree with you! I think people don't really understand how common miscarriages are in the first tril. I know I didn't.

Mae208 · July 2013

MangoMama82 said:
My former neighbor announced she was pregnant on FB at 7 weeks, then announced her miscarriage, then announced they were trying again, re-announced her bfp, and recently did a status update to let us know she was about to pee on a stick, and then let us know it was negative. Some people love to way over share.

LMAO what a nut!!

bionicb · July 2013

I didn't put anything on facebook until 20+ weeks and I haven't suffered any personal losses. My cousin, who has suffered losses didn't post anything until her baby boy was born. It totally worked for them and tjats awesome. Waiting, but still sharing worked for us as well. But 4 weeks? That's really overkill and in my opinion they are subjecting their family and friends to the longest facebook pregnancy ever.

tashad18 · July 2013

I had a loss of twins 2 years after DS so I was very careful about announcing this time around. I told family a few weeks after I found out, my closest friends after my second OB appointment, and facebook at about 13 or 14 weeks.

My cousin just announced via facebook at 5 weeks with an ultrasound picture that was labeled "yolk sack" and I thought this was way too early especially since it is an extremely high risk pregnancy.

Sdeux · July 2013

Shedna said:
My cousin is 12 weeks pregnant, already knows its a girl, and is finished with the nursery. Posted it all on Facebook. Makes me feel like a slacker at 26 weeks.

How would she already know the sex of the baby so early on. At 18 weeks they couldn't guarantee me they would be able to tell me. Watch it be a boy!

SuperTreesa · July 2013

My cousin announced in FB at 4 weeks. And then posted her pee stick. Honestly, I didn't bother me. She was well aware of her risk of m/c. She had a very traumatic m/c previously at 17 weeks. She decided she was gonna celebrate every day that she was pregnant.

blondolphn · July 2013

I told fb I think around 8 weeks being pregnant. To each their own. If they understand that they may have to tell people about a miscarriage then let them do what they want. On a sidenote, I hate the posting of the pee stick trend!!!

alfan004 · July 2013

A friend of mine just announced on FB at 4 weeks... She hasn't even been to the doctor yet. I really understand being excited but I am definitely worried that it was too soon for them. I haven't experienced a loss but I am still hesitant about announcing to FB that early.

KimCousino · July 2013

That is way too early!! We told family only around 8 weeks and wanted to wait longer to tell other people. I didn't wan to put anything on FB, but the next day my aunt had already posted about it!

shellb1978 · July 2013

My SIL and her husband announced at 4 weeks, with a pic of them holding the pee stick.
I know some girls who announce early, since they've never had a miscarriage, and don't think about it.

conradtn · July 2013

I was scared to death to post on FB because of the whatif's. We told parents right away, but they knew we were doing fertility treatments.

Scientist23 · July 2013

I've never had a loss, and never announced on facebook. I mean, if I'm not close enough to you to see you and tell you in person, then I don't think you REALLY need to know... ya know?

knottied2a666e3e38a2a87 · July 2013

awwwpuddin said:

My husband told our church at 8 weeks after the dating u/s. I told Facebook at 13 weeks.

BTW I love the name Hazel.

Weljadraak · July 2013

My mom told facebook.

vvg28 · July 2013

I can beat that.......... I had a Facebook friend who is like a week ahead of me on my pregnancy post she was 4 weeks 2 days pregnant! :-O It has also been interesting to follow a week behind her for all the firsts. You know cravings, feeling the baby, etc. She is magically usually a month ahead. Lol Makes it entertaining because she is a crazy poster.

MrsMommyQ · July 2013

I personally wouldn't do it but it doesn't really bother me when others do. I know a girl who posted early and then had a miscarriage and posted about that too. NMS but some people are like that.

My other friend posted her pee stick at like 6 weeks along. Again, not something I want to do, but hey--it's her life!

JuneBug86 · July 2013

One of my SIL's announced on FB the same day she got her BFP. This was with her first. At least I got a phone call first to let me know. That was with their first one. Their second one, I found out because I saw their post on FB. They didn't tell anyone in the family first. Everyone found out over FB.

slh6363 · July 2013

I actually have seen a lot of people do this....I def would not! Telling close family or friends early on is one thing but I def wouldn't want to have to "unannounce" to the whole FB world!

allymp13 · July 2013

We didn't tell our families until 12 weeks and we announced on facebook around the same time I think. I know this is going to sound completely crazy, but my trainer at my gym was the first person I told at 8 weeks. I am (well was) very big into working out and I wanted to keep working out through out my pregnancy so I had to let him know to come up with a plan to scale back a little. I only made it 12 weeks dong the intense workouts and had to stop.

Anyway, in retrospect I think announcing at 12 weeks was even a little bit early. It just makes me cringe when I see people announcing so early and then having to tell the whole world about their loss. I've seen people go through it and it's a tough thing especially when people don't ever get the message about the loss and ask you how the baby is...yeah not good.

ksimo6 · July 2013

Wow. We didn't even tell our families until closer to 10 weeks - we let our friends in on the news at 14 weeks with a specific request that NOTHING went on FB. Now, at almost 29 weeks someone posted on my wall about the babe and it's a slow FB leak, which is fine... but 6 weeks?! I would be terrified of having a loss and the repercussions.

kelle017 · July 2013

I had a cousin who did that with both her pregnancies. I guess it doesn't bother me that much. The fact that she shared a status one day that said 'oops we may have just given dd a sibling" (when she was only a month old) made me cringe though.

Icarriedawatermelon · July 2013

Sdeux said:

Shedna said:
My cousin is 12 weeks pregnant, already knows its a girl, and is finished with the nursery. Posted it all on Facebook. Makes me feel like a slacker at 26 weeks.
How would she already know the sex of the baby so early on. At 18 weeks they couldn't guarantee me they would be able to tell me. Watch it be a boy!

I said the same thing!!! She said her doctor was "pretty sure" it's a girl. How do you go all out and complete the nursery (painting, wall decals, bedding, etc.) based on a "pretty sure" at 12 weeks?!?

ohkay · July 2013

Sdeux said:

Shedna said:
My cousin is 12 weeks pregnant, already knows its a girl, and is finished with the nursery. Posted it all on Facebook. Makes me feel like a slacker at 26 weeks.
How would she already know the sex of the baby so early on. At 18 weeks they couldn't guarantee me they would be able to tell me. Watch it be a boy!

My thoughts exactly! I had an ultrasound at 13 weeks, and the tech told us it appeared to be a girl, but a lot could change in a month or so. Turns out LO is a girl, but there was no guarantee. No way would I do a nursery based on an ultrasound that early!

HFrizzle · July 2013

We called our immediate family at around 11 weeks and told them, then announced to FB. We have no family here in Idaho, so everyone usually communicates through FB. I watched several of my friends early on in my own pregnancy announce they were pregnant (like 4-5 weeks along)and then several weeks later announce a miscarriage. I guess if that's how you want to handle it when the time comes, but its not something I would do.

reganvaughnable · July 2013

We waited until 11 weeks to announce to family and even longer before Facebook. I didn't want to chance having to unannounce. We have friends who told us yesterday that they're 7 weeks....and she's high risk anywa and has lost one before. I know that everyone has their own preference....but I still worry.

Ajoyd · July 2013

kelle017 said:

The fact that she shared a status one day that said 'oops we may have just given dd a sibling" (when she was only a month old) made me cringe though.

That's horrible! She may as well have posted "DH and I just had unprotected sex!"

shelley1002 · July 2013

To each their own. If they want to risk having to announce a miscarriage that's up to them. I get the excitement and wanting to share a BFP asap.

I told DH (obviously), my sister, and my parents as soon as I got a BFP. We told DH's immediate family after the first u/s (around 8w). After the NT Scan (11w) we told extended family (cousins, aunts, uncles, etc). I announced on FB after the A/S (20w). And have not posted a single pregnancy related thing since.

With my first pregnancy we told my parents right away and DH's family after the first u/s (which was at 11w). We announced on FB around 13 or 14 weeks. We wanted to tell family first.

I have had a few very early losses so I didn't want to put anything out there until we knew things were good.