Pregos Everywhere Vent-Pregnancy Mentioned (not mine)

Soon2BMrsHess · July 2013

Ok so I struggle with infertility. But I can handle if your pregnant, don't hide it from me! That's a sure way to get me pissed off. What you don't think the hormonal if girl can handle it?

That's how I feel right now!

Last week I called a good friend, her grandmother picked up the phone and said my friend was at the hospital due to bleeding. Bleeding? She could tell I was confused and she said "ohhhh she must not have told she was pregnant again, due to your situation" PREGNANT AGAIN....that's right I have been lapped 4 times by this chick. I just made the conversation short and sweet and hung up. Immediately I start getting calls from this friend. I really didn't want to hear her say all the reasons why she hadn't told me. I was concerned of course if she was ok, which thankfully she is ok and so is the baby. I ignored her call and texted her, smooth right. She told me she was fine, and understood with my situation that I can talk when ready.

My situation? Ohhhhhhhhhhh that I suffer from infertility? Like no can even say those words??

So this morning I go to my therapist because I am flying this week and, well I needed a pep talk. I hadn't seen her since April which was pre-failed IUI#1 and #2. She opens the door and my eyes are drawn immediately to her big belly. SHE"S PREGNANT TOO! Now she looked to be 5 months, which I later found out she is 8 months. When the session brought us to how my treatments were going, we talked about it. No biggie. Then she said "well I didn't have the heart to tell you since you were struggling so much before with your fertility situation."

So yeah....me and my "situation" are going on vacation to Key Largo on Sat, and I am gonna feed my "situation" with margaritas all week long!

Soon2BMrsHess · July 2013

Oh please note I am truly happy in my heart for everyone who is pregnant, has children, etc. This is just a random rant.

BettyBoop86 · July 2013

I know how you feel. Everywhere I Look I feel that EVERYBODY I see is pregnant. I was at the pool and saw three very pregnant women and just wanted to punch them in the boob, well not really but I just felt like they were flaunting it.

You enjoy those margaritas!!!!

formerwigirl · July 2013

I understand completely. IF sucks!

Natekate · July 2013

I am with ya!!

Jzyla · July 2013

Oh my GOODNESS that's frustrating! I definitely hear ya! Sorry that happened to you. Hopefully that's the only 'situation' you have to deal with!

rox825 · July 2013

Yeah I know what you mean too. The worst for me was about a month ago when I went to the gym to get a good workout in after AF showed, only to find a substitute instructor for the class who was a good 5 months pregnant. It was a kickboxing class and I was definitely mentally directing some punches her way! Enjoy your vacation, I hope it gives you a great break from IF stress!!

MrsN08 · July 2013

Ugh, I'm sorry. How frustrating! I know just how you feel. I hope you enjoy your time away on vacation!

RunCC37 · July 2013

Oh, Hess, I'm so sorry. I'm especially sorry that your therapist made the same stupid comment. I hate it too when people tiptoe around me. It makes me feel even more isolated, sad, confused, alone. I know that IF is a disease... but it really stings to be reminded of it. Big hugs to you, my dear.

mmhopeful · July 2013

I understand. Sometimes, there are just no words to explain how awful people make you feel even when they are intentionally trying NOT to hurt you. It is hard also to see expectant moms everywhere. I ran into 5 yesterday! It can take it's toll on you, depending on the day. Know you are not alone. This is really the hardest thing that's ever been on my plate.

FutureMrsW9 · July 2013

I know exactly how you feel....when you have IF it seems like every-flippin-woman around you is prego! I think the problem is that there's such a stigma behind IF. No one openly talks about it. You never see "IVF #2...wish us luck!" posted as someone's facebook status. It's taboo to talk about. On the flip side, since these women did know, they probably thought they were doing you a favor by not telling you....still not right, but there's no way they can relate to you not having suffered IF. Idk what's worse - not having a close friend/family member tell you because they're afraid of how you'll feel OR having someone go crazy and get excited tell you about all the new people and other family members who are now prego their first try! We just can't win!

happygirl1013 · July 2013

Sorry to hear you are struggling. You aren't alone here. My therapist have me a new tactic... Wear an elastic band on my wrist, and when I start to have a negative thought about my if situation, I snap the band on my arm to help me snap out of it. Not sure if its working yet, but good luck!

STBMrsMiller · July 2013

I'm so sorry! That's rough. I can relate - I think my yoga instructor is pregnant. She thought she recognized me as a fellow school mom, then asked if I had any kids, and then said "but of course you must have fur babies if you don't have kids?!" No, it's cool, my life is meaningless. Let me just go eat my feelings now...

Allison7 · July 2013

That stinks!! Everyone here has certainly been there and had the same thoughts and feelings as you at some point. I forgive friends because they don't know better, but your therapist!?! She definitely should have handled that better!! ((HUGS))

MikiMouse326 · July 2013

I agree! Everyone I know has kids. Or is pregnant. Or just had a baby. And everyone I see at the pool that is KU I just wanna scream. Or every time someone announces it on FB... ugh yes. I understand. I hope we all get BFP soon!! Until then I will drink my wine and margaritas! Cheers!

sparkles2040 · August 2013

The tip toeing is the worst. "I didnt want to hurt your feelings." So you don't think I can put envy aside and be happy/concerned with my friend? So now I have an infertility situation and am a bad friend? Oh ok. That feels great. Being happy for someone doesn't take away my own pain and heartache. The only thing fixing that is a BFP and my social circle can't control that.

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