Baby shower/sprinkles

caybeh · July 2013

My BIL's girlfriend is pregnant with number three. She has a girl, and they had a boy together, and now she is pregnant with a girl. My ILs were talking this weekend about that the girlfriend is having a baby shower sometime soon. I didn't know her when she had her first, but with her second child, she had a few baby showers. I don't know who is doing her shower, as it isn't MIL or myself. It's probably some of her friends or something. I always thought baby showers were for the first child, but since coming on the bump have learned about "sprinkles". They aren't overly common around here. How common are baby showers/sprinkles where you live for sequential children?

LoveBeingMama · July 2013

Definitely not common here. I don't know anyone who has had a shower or sprinkle for second/third/fourth kids.

pitterpatter129 · July 2013

Here every baby gets a shower. The second + babies are generally diaper showers though. I'm still working my way through the diapers for DS2 over 5 mo in! I've switched to cloth last month, but use the disposables too since we were given so many.

rockyrollgirl · July 2013

I have been to several. Most were sprinkles.

Spin313 · July 2013

It really depends. I had never heard of a second shower or sprinkle until I had a child because I was one of the first of my friends to have kids.

I have two moms groups and we've done a Night Out for all the second babies. We go have dinner somewhere and everyone brings a gift. We didn't call it a sprinkle, just a celebratory dinner.

Mrs.Greg · July 2013

pitterpatter129 said:
Here every baby gets a shower. The second + babies are generally diaper showers though. I'm still working my way through the diapers for DS2 over 5 mo in! I've switched to cloth last month, but use the disposables too since we were given so many.

Yeah, subsequent showers/sprinkles are very common here. A lot of people are of the opinion that every baby should be celebrated.

chardonnay24 · July 2013

It's not really uncommon, but it's not the norm, either. When a friend in my mom's group was expecting her 2nd, we took her out (no kids) for dessert and drinks and gave her some small gifts. I think that's a bit more common.

I was just judging a FB friend from high school last night because her post indicated that she is throwing her own shower for her 3rd boy today.

vettymama · July 2013

I've never been to a shower or sprinkle for second + babies. Uncommon here.

Minipenguin · July 2013

They're not common here.

MountaineerMomma · July 2013

Very uncommon here. Occasionally of the new baby is several years younger than his or her older siblings, the mom will get a shower. Most people still give gifts for baby though - just no formal party or obligation to do so.

kristen714 · July 2013

They are becoming more common here. I had never heard of them until about 4 years ago. I have since been invited to two, but both were for moms expecting a child of the opposite gender than the first born.

eaglesfan700 · July 2013

Pretty much unheard of here.

Allycat11 · July 2013

In my family they absolutely never happen. In circles of friends I occasionally hear of them although I have never been to a shower or a "Sprinkle" for any child other than 1st born.

notkateanymore · July 2013

They're pretty common here, since first showers are much smaller affairs than up north. They're usually in people's homes, not a rented hall, etc. But subsequent showers are usually even smaller. Maybe a ladies lunch or dinner with like 8-10 people? Small gifts like clothes. I have a number of friends that are throwing them one for this baby...there might be as many hosts as guests.

kcisthebombdotcom · July 2013

Pretty much Unheard of here. The few I've heard of I judged hard. Unless there's some extenuating circumstances like a moms second kid but her Dh's first I think it's fairly tacky. Ill never understand the logic that babies should be celebrated-that's not the point of a shower. A shower is a benefit to a first time mother to help with the financial burden of the large amount of stuff an infant needs. If you're celebrating the baby, shouldn't the baby physically be there?

Tally06 · July 2013

Common here. Most people have a big shower for number 1 and a sprinkle for subsequent children.

I will be having a small family only sprinkle for baby number two at my mom, MIL, aunts & sisters insistence. I don't mind them throwing it for family only but I don't mind not having one either. My family is extremely close and everyone is local so it will kind of just be like a random big family Sunday get together sans the guys which is fun.

id012 · July 2013

There no.very common here. I had a spribkle for my sil bc she told me she neeeeeeded to.have another shower. So i made it really really small. Like 4 other girls.
My other. Sil had a shower when she was pregnant with my niece. She never had a shower with my nephew, was was 6 or 7 at the time.

shortstuff15 · July 2013

KC_13 said:
Pretty much Unheard of here. The few I've heard of I judged hard. Unless there's some extenuating circumstances like a moms second kid but her Dh's first I think it's fairly tacky. Ill never understand the logic that babies should be celebrated-that's not the point of a shower. A shower is a benefit to a first time mother to help with the financial burden of the large amount of stuff an infant needs. If you're celebrating the baby, shouldn't the baby physically be there?

See and here showers aren't ever held until after baby is here so it a celebration of the baby. That said, here a group of friends will likely throw you a shower for every baby. And our church throws a shower for your first baby born while you attend the church. So a lot of ladies actually get showers for an after the first child.

rockyrollgirl · July 2013

Diapers&Wipes said:

I don't know if they are common, but they aren't frowned upon in my family and friend circle. I have a friend that had two girls two years apart and had two huge showers. No one batted an eye about it. My family threw a fit when I said I didn't want a second shower, sprinkle or any such thing. They ended up throwing a small surprise family shower anyways. It was very nice. Everyone that came said they just wanted to celebrate the new baby and were happy to bring a small gift.

Yep, nobody here really cares.

kcisthebombdotcom · July 2013

dhviel said:

Pretty much Unheard of here. The few I've heard of I judged hard. Unless there's some extenuating circumstances like a moms second kid but her Dh's first I think it's fairly tacky. Ill never understand the logic that babies should be celebrated-that's not the point of a shower. A shower is a benefit to a first time mother to help with the financial burden of the large amount of stuff an infant needs. If you're celebrating the baby, shouldn't the baby physically be there?
See and here showers aren't ever held until after baby is here so it a celebration of the baby. That said, here a group of friends will likely throw you a shower for every baby. And our church throws a shower for your first baby born while you attend the church. So a lot of ladies actually get showers for an after the first child.

See I don't judge a party held after the baby is Born to let friends and family members meet the baby and don't consider that a baby shower at all. Around here baby showers are an event where a mom registers for big ticket items like strollers and carseats. It's not like you bring an outfit and you're good. People usually spend a decent amount of money. I would feel awful after people were incredibly generous to ask them to come to another event and spend more money because I need a pink pack and play now, Kwim? (I really know someone who did that less than two years after her son was Born and I judged hard)

rockyrollgirl · July 2013

KC_13 said:

dhviel said:

Pretty much Unheard of here. The few I've heard of I judged hard. Unless there's some extenuating circumstances like a moms second kid but her Dh's first I think it's fairly tacky. Ill never understand the logic that babies should be celebrated-that's not the point of a shower. A shower is a benefit to a first time mother to help with the financial burden of the large amount of stuff an infant needs. If you're celebrating the baby, shouldn't the baby physically be there?
See and here showers aren't ever held until after baby is here so it a celebration of the baby. That said, here a group of friends will likely throw you a shower for every baby. And our church throws a shower for your first baby born while you attend the church. So a lot of ladies actually get showers for an after the first child.

See I don't judge a party held after the baby is Born to let friends and family members meet the baby and don't consider that a baby shower at all. Around here baby showers are an event where a mom registers for big ticket items like strollers and carseats. It's not like you bring an outfit and you're good. People usually spend a decent amount of money. I would feel awful after people were incredibly generous to ask them to come to another event and spend more money because I need a pink pack and play now, Kwim? (I really know someone who did that less than two years after her son was Born and I judged hard)

Ah, see I didn't register for big ticket items. The only people that usually buy those things are close family members or the parents themselves.

WinsyWade · July 2013

Spin313 said:

It really depends. I had never heard of a second shower or sprinkle until I had a child because I was one of the first of my friends to have kids. I have two moms groups and we've done a Night Out for all the second babies. We go have dinner somewhere and everyone brings a gift. We didn't call it a sprinkle, just a celebratory dinner.

We do something similar in my moms group for expecting mom. We have a "sprinkle" for each mom (or groups of moms due the same month) where those members that want to can pitch in on a gift card for the expectant moms. We've had gift totals range from $30 to over $100 depending on how well the expectant mom was known in the group. We've had them at others' homes as playdates or as Mom's Night Out. They are a little celebration. We all (mostly) didn't know each other for our first children either.

kcisthebombdotcom · July 2013

rockyrollgirl said:

KC_13 said:

dhviel said:

Pretty much Unheard of here. The few I've heard of I judged hard. Unless there's some extenuating circumstances like a moms second kid but her Dh's first I think it's fairly tacky. Ill never understand the logic that babies should be celebrated-that's not the point of a shower. A shower is a benefit to a first time mother to help with the financial burden of the large amount of stuff an infant needs. If you're celebrating the baby, shouldn't the baby physically be there?
See and here showers aren't ever held until after baby is here so it a celebration of the baby. That said, here a group of friends will likely throw you a shower for every baby. And our church throws a shower for your first baby born while you attend the church. So a lot of ladies actually get showers for an after the first child.

See I don't judge a party held after the baby is Born to let friends and family members meet the baby and don't consider that a baby shower at all. Around here baby showers are an event where a mom registers for big ticket items like strollers and carseats. It's not like you bring an outfit and you're good. People usually spend a decent amount of money. I would feel awful after people were incredibly generous to ask them to come to another event and spend more money because I need a pink pack and play now, Kwim? (I really know someone who did that less than two years after her son was Born and I judged hard)

Ah, see I didn't register for big ticket items. The only people that usually buy those things are close family members or the parents themselves.

I put everything on my registry that i needed to stay organized and for the completion coupon. Even my not so close family members bought big stuff like an uncle bought my stroller. My 3 closest friends spent over $100 a piece - one of them sent over $200. I'd never think to spend less than $50 for a shower gift even if the person wasn't that close.

shortstuff15 · July 2013

KC_13 said:

dhviel said:

Pretty much Unheard of here. The few I've heard of I judged hard. Unless there's some extenuating circumstances like a moms second kid but her Dh's first I think it's fairly tacky. Ill never understand the logic that babies should be celebrated-that's not the point of a shower. A shower is a benefit to a first time mother to help with the financial burden of the large amount of stuff an infant needs. If you're celebrating the baby, shouldn't the baby physically be there?
See and here showers aren't ever held until after baby is here so it a celebration of the baby. That said, here a group of friends will likely throw you a shower for every baby. And our church throws a shower for your first baby born while you attend the church. So a lot of ladies actually get showers for an after the first child.

See I don't judge a party held after the baby is Born to let friends and family members meet the baby and don't consider that a baby shower at all. Around here baby showers are an event where a mom registers for big ticket items like strollers and carseats. It's not like you bring an outfit and you're good. People usually spend a decent amount of money. I would feel awful after people were incredibly generous to ask them to come to another event and spend more money because I need a pink pack and play now, Kwim? (I really know someone who did that less than two years after her son was Born and I judged hard)

See here parents don't register for babies. The big ticket items (even for first baby) are bought by the parents and sometimes the grandparents. The showers (not a meet the baby party) are held after baby is born. My one and only shower was held 3 weeks post-partum. I was born and raised in the church I currently attend so about 50/60 ladies were at my shower. Most of what I received were clothes or other small baby items. So to me a shower doesn't include the big ticket items. I was not the host of my shower, a friend was. All I had to do was show up with baby and open gifts. That's a shower in my opinion!

rockyrollgirl · July 2013

@gwapes small get together. There is usually no registry. No gifts but diapers and wipes are fine. Guests usually just bring gifts anyway.

WinsyWade · July 2013

gwapes said:

discobelle said:

gwapes said:

I've never even heard of a sprinkle

I never heard that term until The Bump. It sounds silly to me.

What is it?

When we started doing Sprinkles in my moms group, we gave the expecting moms freezer meals and a correlating recipe card. It was a great idea and I loved all the meals I received, but it got hard to prepare for each family with food allergies and restrictions, as well as preference. We switched to a single gift card from the group, after hosting about 3 freezer meal Sprinkles, so the moms could buy any baby items needed.

We have a little party to go along with the giving of the gift with a pot-luck style buffet. If it's at someone's home, in the day time, all the kids come along and it's a playdate. If its at night, or a non- kid friendly location, we treat it as a MNO usually at a restaurant. It's just chatting/mingling... no registry, no games, etc.

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