Do you get out? We go out once a week for dinner with the boys and I've gone out to lunch with a friend once since DS2 was born.
DH thinks I should go out 2 or 3 times a week and leave the boys with his mom. He golfs 3 or 4 times a week, so I'm home a lot with the boys alone. I'm not comfy leaving the boys with her, so I go out when I have other arrangements and honestly I just like spending time with them. I work during the day.
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I go out everyday with DS. I take him grocery shopping, over to my parents and sisters, to the splash part etc.
With DH, we go out once every couple of weeks for supper.
Without DS, I rarely go out unless it's for an appt. I may leave him at my mom's quickly if I am there already and realize I need something quick and don't want to bring him with.
My in-laws take him every now and then for an afternoon because they like to spend time with him and they offer to take him. It seems whenever I need a babysitter they aren't available so this works out nicely.
DH and I went on our first date last Sunday on our anniversary since DS was born in September. My mom has DS at the cabin with her and my dad till tomorrow.
Aside from work, DH and I pretty much bring B with us everywhere we go! We've gone out once together without B since he was born, and that was in May for DH's birthday. Both he and I have had some "me" time without B. DH has gone out with the guys a few times, and I have mainly gone out to Target, etc, or for church meetings (I'm a deacon in my church and also serve on some committees).
I really don't have a huge desire to go out without my child... Although I'm sure that will change as he gets older, lol. I would LOVE to go to the movies with DH sometime soon, though....
He's big on his need to be social. It's gotten worse over the last 2 years. I prefer to be with the boys and they are pretty good on runs to Target, Meijer, and BBB. What's weird is he wants me to go out some without him and gives me a hard time for not having any friends who are available to go out to a bar or the country club. I've been past that for awhile...even before I was KU.
His mom wanted to move in with us. Her babysitting would involve her staying the night since she has cataracts and is legally blind. She is the one who told DH he needs to remain social and connected.
I work full time so that is my out time alone without DD. I do fit in a massage once a month and maybe a movie by myself once every two months. I only do these when I can leave DD with DH. He's a busy busy guy, so I sometimes force them to have alone time (not that he minds, I just want to make sure they are able to have their time too).
We get out with DD a few times a week. We love the dog park, and she's great when we're shopping whether it's the grocery store or the mall.
I understand the wanting to spend time with them since you work during the day. If you don't want to leave them with his mother, he doesn't need to force it. Enjoy that cuddle time. They're only babies once.
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What is this "out" you speak of?
My work = 50+ hours per week plus commuting. M-F, I see DS for 45 minutes in the morning and an hour to an hour and fifteen when I get home if I am lucky. If I have to work late, have a client meeting that runs over or otherwise miss my train, I get less or no time in the evening, and that makes me sad, so I am not inclined to do it on purpose.
Weekends we have to do the grocery and other household shopping, laundry, oversee our ongoing construction project, tidy up and attempt to do things with DS. Throw in a few family obligations, a wedding or other event here and there, and there goes that time, too. We never see our friends anymore, together or separately, as there is just no time. We have been out together without DS twice for dinner in 21 months.
I honestly can't think of when I would do anything by myself on a regular basis if I wanted to. Two weeks ago DH and I went tile shopping on a Saturday and left DS with my parents for 3 hours. Last weekend I went to one day of a 3-day music fesitval with DH and my folks again took DH for a chunk of the day. That's about it. DH is going to his annual Lollapalooza weekend with his friends at my urging, as he loves it and otherwise dedicates his time to the family (he works slightly - very slightly - fewer hours than I do and is so amazing at taking care of us).
I'm hoping to get away next month on a weekend day for a pregnancy massage, as I am a sore old pregnant lady and that sounds like heaven to do before the baby comes. That's about all I can imagine at the moment.
I could not take the golf 3x a week thing at all. But there is no way my DH could do that anyway, so I don't think it will ever be an issue.
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