Anyone else completely insecure?

MercierGirl · July 2013

This is our third child. My last one I just celebrated his 1 year bday July 13th. So, I had them pretty close together. (Yes, planned) I have a disease when I am pregnant called Hyperemesis Gravidarum, where I get severely sick and do NOT gain weight, I actually lose weight. Well, with this one, I have gained weight. While I am COMPLETELY happy that this pregnancy has gone far more better than my others, I am so insecure with my body

I HATE the way I look in anything. It is actually starting to make me depressed. Anyone else feel this way?

ajbook · July 2013

I've had more than a few of those days. Talking about it with DH helped. He didn't realize I was so down about it. Now he does little things to make me feel pretty. At first it felt a little forced because I had told him I felt gross. Now it seems natural and helps sooo much!

imakeeff0rts · July 2013

Yes and no.

I'm "plus sized" pre pregnancy, but I haven't gained any weight, either (not for lack of trying). I've actually lost weight. When I see pictures of myself, I get all "Oh God...I'm a house. My clothes aren't flattering. Why do maternity pants sag so bad?"

...and then I remember. I'm pregnant. I'm supposed to be giant. If someone wants to criticize or judge me because I look like I'm waddling around with a beach ball in my shirt, that's their problem. I'm growing a baby, it's not fun, it's not easy, and I'm uncomfortable and I don't care.

I go back and forth between those two a lot. You're not alone.

thedash · July 2013

This is my second and yes I feel the same way sometimes. I actually made a huge effort to get cuter clothes this time and thought I would feel much better about myself. It does help a little but there are many days that I struggle with my appearance.

MercierGirl · July 2013

Thanks ladies! I know it is what we are supposed to do and how we are supposed to look, I am just not used to it. DH was WONDERFUL when I had my first melt down a few weeks ago. I also know I can lose this weight after but it is just driving me nuts. I am not this insecure person usually. Not that I feel amazing about myself all the time but I usually don't feel like sh*t 24-7. Blah, anyways, thanks for letting me vent!

magicalbride2bee · July 2013

I think it is completely normal to be a little uneasy with your changing body. I am a FTM to be and before I got pregnant, I weighed a whopping 118 lbs haha! I'm 28 weeks 4 days pregnant now, and have gained a total of 19 lbs so far. It's all belly, but still... I just try to remember that gaining weight is healthy and necessary for baby. Good luck!

inthelost · July 2013

It might be shallow and superficial, but I'm very insecure. I have gained a lot of weight. Fitness and being in shape was the one thing I took great pride in before I got pregnant, I was at the gym every day. I was a beast. Since getting pregnant, I have been slacking majorly. And it depresses me further. I hate looking in a mirror, I avoid it. People try to tell me I look really small for how far along I am, but I think they're just trying to be nice...anyway, I find it sad that I'm sad over it, but it's necesarry to make sure my baby girl is healthy and that it's all worth it for her...she's worth it all and so much more.

kcox123 · July 2013

I have never had HG... My sympathies. Instead, I am a pre-preg size 2 (and have gone back to that easily after each preg!) who gains about 40lbs each time! It's just what my body does. And although I know it's for a great cause - I am pretty much miserable the entire pregnancy. I feel completely unattractive - mostly to my husband but also around friends, coworkers and strangers. Everyone says I look great. I force a smile and say thanks - but I don't believe them. Pregnancy has definitely helped me realize just how much my thinness is a part of my own sense of self. I don't starve myself or have any eating disorders. I am just a thin person and I cannot WAIT to get back to ME in terms of my body. I am sure DH would appreciate me feeling comfortable having sex too. Despite him saying how hot I am - I have felt like a beached whale since about 20 weeks.

MegStark · July 2013

kcox123:
I have never had HG... My sympathies. Instead, I am a pre-preg size 2 (and have gone back to that easily after each preg!) who gains about 40lbs each time! It's just what my body does. And although I know it's for a great cause - I am pretty much miserable the entire pregnancy. I feel completely unattractive - mostly to my husband but also around friends, coworkers and strangers. Everyone says I look great. I force a smile and say thanks - but I don't believe them. Pregnancy has definitely helped me realize just how much my thinness is a part of my own sense of self. I don't starve myself or have any eating disorders. I am just a thin person and I cannot WAIT to get back to ME in terms of my body. I am sure DH would appreciate me feeling comfortable having sex too. Despite him saying how hot I am - I have felt like a beached whale since about 20 weeks.

This is how I feel. This is my first pregnancy though, so I'm encouraged to hear that you go back to "normal" fairly well. I know it will take some work, but I'm just really not one of those "I think I'm totally cute while preg"... I see pics of myself and want to hide. Oh well.

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