Oh my gosh! :[ seriously?

blacktammie2013 · July 2013

I have been mainly lurking on this board since I was about 7 weeks preg. Like most. Yes, I make very few posts, comment when I feel it applies. Lately, I have been reading posts and comments and I am seeing more hostility and down grading comments than ever!!

I thought this board was suppose to be about building friendships and giving up most support as possible? "Hasn't your mom ever taught you... If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all??"

Some.. If not most of you are stuck up snobby people that obviously thinks your life is so dam perfect that if no one else fits into your lifestyle.. It's ok to judge them in some way!

I'm sorry! Really but this has been pondering my brain for the past couple of days and maybe someone should "call out" on the majority of this board!

I know I feel judged even to the smallest post I make. Not everyone reads comments.. So not really worried about that but still.

Hope all y'all have happy healthy pregnancies but I don't this is a very healthy thing to waste my time on during the day or evening. Although, I thought a few weeks back I would actually be able to make a friend or 2.. But meh!

Good luck ladies!

forevergraceful · July 2013

Okey dokey.

ETA: Did she delete her other post too?

blue_elle · July 2013

Haven't spent much time on TB (or any associated sites) have you? This board is puppies and rainbows compared to others. Seriously, the women here rock and are super supportive. Yes, some topics bring out passionate opinions, but we're big girls here and take what applies and move on.

katie-lynn3313 · July 2013

there are a few women on here that match your description but there are way more awesome ladies that are here for support and for fun. It is too bad you are leaving.

H & H 9 months.

lolinshag · July 2013

I hate the call outs too. Stupid in my opinion. Every time I read something like that I hear the song "no more drama" playing in the background. Sigh.

cpm1223 · July 2013

Um ok, see ya!

Was this because no one agreed with you about the whole location of the placenta and sex detemination theory? Which you dd'd by the way?

katie-lynn3313 · July 2013

lolinshag:
I hate the call outs too. Stupid in my opinion. Every time I read something like that I hear the song "no more drama" playing in the background. Sigh.

BAHAHHA- that is funny!!!

bellamatson · July 2013

Blah blah blah.

vstevens · July 2013

"Pondering my brain." That is pure gold.

GBCB!

cpm1223 · July 2013

lolinshag:
I hate the call outs too. Stupid in my opinion. Every time I read something like that I hear the song "no more drama" playing in the background. Sigh.

Seriously the one today was probably the first on this board and we've been here for 3 or more months now. This board is so tame compared to many others.

cpm1223 · July 2013

vstevens:
"Pondering my brain." nbsp;That is pure gold.GBCB!

Bahahhahah

aessary03 · July 2013

Sorry, but life is not all "Bambi." Pull up your big girl panties and deal.

IMO, you're no big loss to this board if you're going to make these kind of posts. Buh-bye.

BuckeyeANG · July 2013

Thanks for your dramatic exit (eye roll). See ya.

insertclevername · July 2013

el oh el. See ya!

blacktammie2013 · July 2013

cpm1223:
Um ok, see ya!

Was this because no one agreed with you about the whole location of the placenta and sex detemination theory? Which you dd'd by the way?

No.. This has nothing to do with that! Thanks for asking though. Absolutely not. It's for those girls who "repost" posts about questions or concerns even though it was a 2 or 3 dy old post from someone else. It might be repetitive and "annoying" to some but it's THEIR perception which equals THEIR reality which calls for NO judgement. Also, I've seen a few call outs.. More drama than needed. I have seen support from some ladies, yes but if a passionate post is going to be brought up.. Pay attention to how ou word your response!! The majority of these are 100 b!tchy and all I want to say is "seriously? Augh" [sigh] which I've just said.

cpm1223 · July 2013

NY Mama:
el oh el.nbsp; See ya!

Love this gif!!

blacktammie2013 · July 2013

aessary03:
Sorry, but life is not all "Bambi."nbsp; Pull up your big girl panties and deal.nbsp; IMO, you're no big loss to this board if you're going to make these kind of posts.nbsp; Buhbye.

For your info. Thi is NO dramatic exit!! This is pointing out how I SEE IT!! Don't like don't read or respond.

aessary03 · July 2013

blacktammie2013:
aessary03:
Sorry, but life is not all "Bambi."nbsp; Pull up your big girl panties and deal.nbsp; IMO, you're no big loss to this board if you're going to make these kind of posts.nbsp; Buhbye.
For your info. Thi is NO dramatic exit!! This is pointing out how I SEE IT!! Don't like don't read or respond.

Darn, I was wishful thinking then. And not dramatic? I'd say it's rather dramatic.

aessary03 · July 2013

blacktammie2013:
cpm1223:
Um ok, see ya! Was this because no one agreed with you about the whole location of the placenta and sex detemination theory? Which you dd'd by the way?
No.. This has nothing to do with that! Thanks for asking though. Absolutely not. It's for those girls who "repost" posts about questions or concerns even though it was a 2 or 3 dy old post from someone else. It might be repetitive and "annoying" to some but it's THEIR perception which equals THEIR reality which calls for NO judgement. Also, I've seen a few call outs.. More drama than needed. I have seen support from some ladies, yes but if a passionate post is going to be brought up.. Pay attention to how ou word your response!! The majority of these are 100 b!tchy and all I want to say is "seriously? Augh" [sigh] which I've just said.

You can't dictate how people respond/think/feel/judge on the Internet. Get over yourself.

cpm1223 · July 2013

blacktammie2013:
aessary03:
Sorry, but life is not all "Bambi."nbsp; Pull up your big girl panties and deal.nbsp; IMO, you're no big loss to this board if you're going to make these kind of posts.nbsp; Buhbye.

For your info. Thi is NO dramatic exit!! This is pointing out how I SEE IT!! Don't like don't read or respond.

So you're not leaving? Or this post wasn't dramatic?

forevergraceful · July 2013

blacktammie2013:
No.. This has nothing to do with that! Thanks for asking though. Absolutely not. It's for those girls who "repost" posts about questions or concerns even though it was a 2 or 3 dy old post from someone else. It might be repetitive and "annoying" to some but it's THEIR perception which equals THEIR reality which calls for NO judgement. Also, I've seen a few call outs.. More drama than needed. I have seen support from some ladies, yes but if a passionate post is going to be brought up.. Pay attention to how ou word your response!! The majority of these are 100 b!tchy and all I want to say is "seriously? Augh" [sigh] which I've just said.

Actually, your post is the most dramatic thing I have seen on this board.

aessary03 · July 2013

Bookshelves:
aessary03:
blacktammie2013:
aessary03:
Sorry, but life is not all "Bambi."nbsp; Pull up your big girl panties and deal.nbsp; IMO, you're no big loss to this board if you're going to make these kind of posts.nbsp; Buhbye.
For your info. Thi is NO dramatic exit!! This is pointing out how I SEE IT!! Don't like don't read or respond.
Darn, I was wishful thinking then. And not dramatic? I'd say it's rather dramatic.

L-O-V-E!!!!!

OSUWifey09 · July 2013

Then stop "wasting" your time on this board and just peace out. Yeesh.

vstevens · July 2013

blacktammie2013:
For your info. Thi is NO dramatic exit!! This is pointing out how I SEE IT!! Don't like don't read or respond.

For your info, this is the very definition of a dramatic exit. Allow me to point out how I see it: if you don't like this board, don't read or respond.

Bye!

Shayliz · July 2013

Hard to take someone seriously who says if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.. and then continues on to call people here snobby, stuck up, and biitchy.

Bye.

holly142 · July 2013

You said yourself, "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all". Then why are you posting such a nasty post?

peanutmuse · July 2013

Meh, whatev. No loss.

By the way, smarty pants, we can see that you're still online.

katie-lynn3313 · July 2013

how can you tell if someone if online or not?

peanutmuse · July 2013

katie-lynn3313:
how can you tell if someone if online or not?

Speech bubble.

baby2ra · July 2013

Good riddance!

FSUNole31 · July 2013

peanut+muse:
katie-lynn3313:
how can you tell if someone if online or not?
Speech bubble.

Well look at that...you learn something new every day. Thanks for the info! Oh and OP I feel as if you have stirred up this exact same nonsense before.

hurricane1212 · July 2013

Today was a little much for me too, but a post like this will only get you flamed by the exact people you don't like. Hormones? Maybe. Some people are just mean spirited and pregnancy doesn't help that. You have to make the choice to deal with it or not. I'm hoping to stick around for a while. I made some great friends on the June 11 board and go to them for advice/feedback daily.

jldubb0626 · July 2013

Man - I'm gone for a day and all hell breaks loose. I always miss the good stuff. *pouts*

Anyway OP - Don't you think it's a little "pot meet kettle" that you're calling people out about how they say mean things, when you're doing exactly the same thing?

If you don't like the dynamic of the board, then leave. But don't roll up in here on your high horse and call people out. This board is WONDERFUL compared to most and have some of the most supportive and caring women on TB. Any one of these ladies would go out of their way to offer comfort and support during the highs and lows of pregnancy, but hey, no one ever starts a post to THANK those who do.

But I guess lurkers and newbs like you just post when it's convienent for you right? So you wouldn't notice the amount of good that goes on around here or you would think twice before running your mouth.

tesskerr · July 2013

I've actually been disappointed by the lack of drama. Just kidding, but Op what are you talking about?

cnctf · July 2013

blacktammie2013:

It's for those girls who "repost" posts about questions or concerns even though it was a 2 or 3 dy old post from someone else. It might be repetitive and "annoying" to some but it's THEIR perception which equals THEIR reality which calls for NO judgement. Also, I've seen a few call outs.. More drama than needed. I have seen support from some ladies, yes but if a passionate post is going to be brought up.. Pay attention to how ou word your response!! The majority of these are 100 b!tchy and all I want to say is "seriously? Augh" [sigh] which I've just said.

I haven't been on TB for very long and I really don't have much helpful knowledge like most of these ladies do but I do know that you're the one being dramatic! You say that there's more drama here than needed and I have to laugh and wonder what world you live in? Maybe if you spent more time here you would know that we rarely have b!tchy people/comments.

litzo27 · July 2013

Awwwwwww is this our first GBCB post? Now we are a real board!

sparrowmomma24 · July 2013

Okay, I am typically not the one who responds to posts like this but I have to say something. I think one of the biggest lessons you learn as an adult is that you never truly leave high school. There will always be the "popular" people, the "jocks", the "geeks". And there will *ALWAYS* be (who I like to call) the Pot-stirrers. People who like to start and mix up drama just to see what happens. That's life.

Here, we are all in some kind of situation, and none of us are alike. But we can all lean on each other for joy, support, venting, and celebrating! We all have different opinions, and yes sometimes people will get snippy or rude. But throwing out a big post like this and leaving is just drama for drama's sake. Just don't respond! Or if you really feel the need to leave, just do so without the fanfare.

I know that as a woman who is about to be a single mom, the support I find on this site is so welcome. And if you don't feel the same then this isn't where you should be. Do as you must and don't cause drama on your way out. That's just making yourself out to be as bad as those you blame.

MissMandyD · July 2013

It seems you never spent any time on TTC...this board is so tame by comparison!

Dishylo · July 2013

We had one previous GBCB but can't remember her name, was several weeks ago already.

I love how when they leave, they have to make a fuss. If you don't enjoy it, just delete your account and go, don't stick around and post about how cruel everybody is. I'm pretty sure you're no angel?!

Im not even sure which post(s) she's referring to. At first I thought it might have been Jen's post about the dogs but reading it a second time, I don't think so.

Ho-hum. Much better things to do with my time. Buh bye now.