NTTGPR- bachelorette party help

hahnycakes · July 2013

Hey all. So, my sister is getting married in September so I'm throwing her bachelorette party in August. There will be about 10 people and my sister is very shy so she just wants to go to the Melting Pot then to a comedy show. Her wedding is a small destination-ish event so they're not registering.

Anyway I was thinking that instead of people just guessing a gift to bring or bringing lingerie (she would hate that), I could put something on the invite for them to bring that would give her a small collection. Something like cute mugs, picture frames for a gallery wall, etc. nothing super expensive of course. Any ideas? Thanks!

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine.

DemoDoll · July 2013

Rocknroll64:
Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine. nbsp;

That is a super cute and logical idea!

mmb248 · July 2013

Rocknroll64:
Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine.

This is good. We had a stock the bar shower. We got alcohol, glasses, and barware. It was awesome!

Valie18 · July 2013

Rocknroll64:
Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine.

This.

modernfairytale8709 · July 2013

DemoDoll:
Rocknroll64:
Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine. nbsp;
That is a super cute and logical idea!

I third this. Fantastic idea.

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

mmb248:
Rocknroll64:
Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine.
This is good. We had a stock the bar shower. We got alcohol, glasses, and barware. It was awesome!

That is a great idea too!

ap142193 · July 2013

I went to a lingerie shower once where we played this game. It was fun! Also, it combines low cost gifts and a game. I tried to play it at my shower, but only 2 people followed the invite instructions and brought a pair.

Bridal Shower Game: Panty/Underwear Game

The Idea: How well does the bride know what her friends wear as underoos

What you Need:

Ask each guest to bring underwear or lingerie for the bride that matches their personality.

Sarah52Beth · July 2013

A monogram theme would be cute if she is into that.

janda426 · July 2013

Since when did bachelorette parties become gift giving events? Between a shower and the wedding I'd think she'd get enough presents. I thought the bachelorette party was just a night on the town. ETA just saw she wasn't registering so I'm assuming she's not having a shower.

mmb248 · July 2013

janda426:
Since when did bachelorette parties become gift giving events? Between a shower and the wedding I'd think she'd get enough presents. I thought the bachelorette party was just a night on the town.

Good point. I forgot it was a bachelorette not a shower. It's late. I've had drinks.

OP - I loved my stock the bar shower, but I've never brought a gift to a bachelorette. My presence is gift enough - Wink

bumpuser9343355 · July 2013

I've never brought a gift to a bachelorette party, and the only person who brought me something at mine was a friend who had missed my bridal shower. I don't think you need to put anything on the invite. Maybe it's one of those regional things though?

ap142193 · July 2013

Ive been to combo bachelorette/lingerie parties before. Also, If she isnt having a bridal shower, why not roll the three together? As long as the invite is clear on the events of the evening, I think the guests will be fine with it.

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

BeesTimesThree:
I've never brought a gift to a bachelorette party, and the only person who brought me something at mine was a friend who had missed my bridal shower. I don't think you need to put anything on the invite. Maybe it's one of those regional things though?

I think sometimes the bride will combine both into one party so it's kinda like a shower/stagette, and in those cases it has always been a small gift theme idea.

hahnycakes · July 2013

Yeah, sorry. She's not having a shower so I'm sort of combining them. There are only 14 people at the wedding (all family) so I just figured it'd be fun to do something small for her... It's kind of a weird setup she's going with. I thought they were going to have a bigger reception when they got back from the honeymoon but her fianc? just took a construction job in Alaska for 2 yrs so its looking like no...

thanks for the ideas. She isn't super into wine but a few bottles and stuff wouldn't hurt to have around! I also like the monogram idea,

bumpuser9343355 · July 2013

If she's not super into wine, you could do the same idea with other stuff, books, baking supplies, whatever it is she likes.

oneblessedmess · July 2013

Question: Will there be people at the shower/bachelorette that are not invited to the wedding?

hahnycakes · July 2013

shaylovessly:
Question: Will there be people at the shower/bachelorette that are not invited to the wedding?

That's what's so weird! No one that is potentially coming to the shower is going to the wedding, because it's technically a destination wedding (6 hrs away in a resort town). I thought she'd be doing a reception back here but with how disorganized she is with this wedding I doubt it'll happen.

i guess my first question should be, what's the proper etiquette in this situation??

oneblessedmess · July 2013

AFAIK, it is actually against etiquette to invite anyone to any prewedding events if they aren't actually invited to the wedding. Are they not invited at all, or are they invited but you/the bride know they just can't make it?

As others have said, bachelorette parties typically aren't giftgiving events, so you technically shouldn't ask people to bring gifts at all. But since you say it's a combination shower/bachelorette I'm honestly not sure! I know if it was me I'd have no problem bringing a cute themed gift, but maybe some might find it rude? Honestly not sure. It might help to ask on The Knot's etiquette board, they helped me a lot when I was planning my wedding!

Good luck!! You gals will have fun no matter what!

STBMrsMiller · July 2013

shaylovessly:
AFAIK, it is actually against etiquette to invite anyone to any prewedding events if they aren't actually invited to the wedding. Are they not invited at all, or are they invited but you/the bride know they just can't make it?

As others have said, bachelorette parties typically aren't giftgiving events, so you technically shouldn't ask people to bring gifts at all. But since you say it's a combination shower/bachelorette I'm honestly not sure! I know if it was me I'd have no problem bringing a cute themed gift, but maybe some might find it rude? Honestly not sure. It might help to ask on The Knot's etiquette board, they helped me a lot when I was planning my wedding!

Good luck!! You gals will have fun no matter what!

I agree with this advice from a pure etiquette standpoint, but I was a snooty Knottie on P and E back in the day.

Practically, I would throw a non gift oriented low key bachelorette party for her friends. If people want to bring a gift, they will ask you for ideas.

mileswithmyles · July 2013

Rocknroll64:
Does she drink wine? You could do a fill the wine cabinet thing where everyone brings their favourite bottle of wine.

This! You can also write on it when they should drink it ( First fight, 1 month of marriage, etc.).

Want a personalized experience?

NTTGPR- bachelorette party help

Re: NTTGPR- bachelorette party help

Choose Another Board

Search Boards