FTM's VS. STM's (and beyond)

jmk5287 · July 2013

BabyCodd2014:
Great idea! I could use all the help I can get! Lol

FTM here btw; Wondering how all you STMs dealt with the stress that comes with the financial aspects of a baby?

It sounds crazy but it just works out. Sometimes you look back and wonder what you were spending all your money on before baby stuff. You will also get over the thought that everything has to be new. You will buy used and the baby will not know the difference. Love, food,, clothes, car seat and sleep is all they need! The rest will come with time!

calimama2007 · July 2013

My advice to FTMs is to learn what to expect during labor, and not be freaked out by the pain. I literally did no research beyond the in hospital course over several weeks, which was a JOKE! They basically tell you how to lie still and take meds-- not helpful if you want to experience your birth. This has nothing to do with pain meds (I took them), more about empowering yourself.

Also, always keep extra clothes in your car, always. For you and baby. At every age. You will never regret this!

Nickiechan · July 2013

FarmBoysWife:
My advice: Have a birthing guide- not a plan. Your birth will only be as good as how educated you are on how a woman body gives birth. Nothing in life goes to plan, so ditch the rom-com births from your mind.

Not everyone likes the tub- I hated it. Maybe I'm the only one that it made everything worse. I stood for all 21 hours of labor with DS

Don't constantly tell your husband or the baby's father that he cant do something, that he's doing it wrong, that he's wrong in general. You'll never get a day off until your child can feed themselves. Ensure DH/SO knows the basics, and then let him figure it out for himself, because you have to figure it out for your self in the first to weeks to. You'll call a girl friend, mom or somebody- he's going to call you. The EARLIER you let your DH be a parent- the happier you'll be in the long run. You're not better than him because you get more practice.. but he needs some too!

Also- don't forget, even though he doesn't have a oven to bake the bun in- don't let him stand in the shadow of your limelight. He would like some too.

We had a birth guild/plan and it helped, but I really trusted my midwife and I also researched a lot. But everything you say here is true. Yes