Induce or Not to Induce...

golfingdarwinfish · July 2013

JullianasMommy:
Oh well I guess we obviously don't all agree. It my choice! My baby!

Yes, it is your choice, and it's awesome to know that you're putting your selfish desires before your LO's health and safety. Bravo!

bethLenell · July 2013

KateMW:
JullianasMommy:
I really was looking for some nice, noncritical, even helpful advise... Sorry to disappoint you but I don't think wanting my husband and my family to be their for my child to be born as a "Silly Reason". My last DD was delivered a day before her due date if that makes a difference. I actually just made up my mind. I am very glad that my Dr. is a Mother and a Wife to a husband that is also a Dr. that works in different countries on occasion and understands how important it is to have your husband there for the birth of your baby. Also sorry to those of you who think its selfish of my husband for wanting to be here for the birth of our baby. I almost feel selfish now for even considering possibly taking that away from him and our little one. Thanks Ladies.
Your husband should have arranged to be off work if possible, but if not, risking the health of your child is selfish and wrong. It's completely silly/stupid to risk your child's health to make sure they arrived before Christmas and your family. Your doctor is an idiot and should have her medical license looked at. I get inducing for medical reasons, I'm being induced for a RCS, but because you want your child there in time for a family visit? Lord, how dumb can you be?

I can understand you wanting your DH to be there for the delivery. Trust me it is something I think and worry about all the time. My husband is Military and I may not have a choice of having him here or not! Your DH could take some time off work mine can't.

I will never induce unless medically necessary even if it means going 2 weeks past my due date. If the Dr. tries to force an induction and baby and me are healthy I'm just not going to go in for that appointment.

You said you wanted to go into labor naturally and then when we all agreed that you you should you decided to be induced? I don't get it, I really don't. Think about your baby's needs not your wants. Yes it will suck if DH isn't there but sometimes that is life. I know a lot of mommas that didn't get to have their husbands there and some Dads that didn't get to meet their babies until they were 3 months old.

katebusse · July 2013

Cashingn2:
bethLenell:
KateMW:

JullianasMommy:
I really was looking for some nice, noncritical, even helpful advise... Sorry to disappoint you but I don't think wanting my husband and my family to be their for my child to be born as a "Silly Reason". My last DD was delivered a day before her due date if that makes a difference. I actually just made up my mind. I am very glad that my Dr. is a Mother and a Wife to a husband that is also a Dr. that works in different countries on occasion and understands how important it is to have your husband there for the birth of your baby. Also sorry to those of you who think its selfish of my husband for wanting to be here for the birth of our baby. I almost feel selfish now for even considering possibly taking that away from him and our little one. Thanks Ladies.

Your husband should have arranged to be off work if possible, but if not, risking the health of your child is selfish and wrong. It's completely silly/stupid to risk your child's health to make sure they arrived before Christmas and your family. Your doctor is an idiot and should have her medical license looked at. I get inducing for medical reasons, I'm being induced for a RCS, but because you want your child there in time for a family visit? Lord, how dumb can you be?

I can understand you wanting your DH to be there for the delivery. Trust me it is something I think and worry about all the time. My husband is Military and I may not have a choice of having him here or not! Your DH could take some time off work mine can't.

I will never induce unless medically necessary even if it means going 2 weeks past my due date. If the Dr. tries to force an induction and baby and me are healthy I'm just not going to go in for that appointment.

You said you wanted to go into labor naturally and then when we all agreed that you you should you decided to be induced? I don't get it, I really don't. Think about your baby's needs not your wants. Yes it will suck if DH isn't there but sometimes that is life. I know a lot of mommas that didn't get to have their husbands there and some Dads that didn't get to meet their babies until they were 3 months old.

I didn't read any replies before posting mine, but yeah, the post made me angry because I have so many military friends that have to miss the birth of their children.

This is me. My husband is deploying soon and will miss the birth and the first few months of the baby's life. He will get an AMCROSS message via his ship to let him know that I delivered. I can't even contact him to let him know that I'm in labor. I'm VERY sensitive because of it, and while I'm glad OP said that her DR knows the importance of having her husband with her when she delivers, some of us just don't have that luxury.

Laumb11 · July 2013

JullianasMommy:
I don't even know what it means to go into labor and this is my fourth baby..

JullianasMommy:
Oh well I guess we obviously don't all agree. It my choice! My baby! My family and my husband! So good luck to all you ladies but I will defiantly be making my own decision. And BTW this is the 3rd Dr. So if was that big of a deal I'm sure they wouldn't do it.

Anyone else notice she goes from 4th pregnancy to 3rd? I'm calling MUD. Why come on here and ask for advice if you're set in a decision?

MrsQueale · July 2013

Cashingn2:
katebusse:

This is me. My husband is deploying soon and will miss the birth and the first few months of the baby's life. He will get an AMCROSS message via his ship to let him know that I delivered. I can't even contact him to let him know that I'm in labor. I'm VERY sensitive because of it, and while I'm glad OP said that her DR knows the importance of having her husband with her when she delivers, some of us just don't have that luxury.

Seriously, this breaks my heart. I am fighting back tears. I only went through one deployment with my DH and just can't imagine going into labor with him overseas and completely out of contact with him. My heart goes out to you!

Same here, my heart goes out to you.

This was posted today and I cried and cried while reading it. So I really have no sympathy for the OP.

https://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php?fbid=598702030174355&set=a.169419956435900.34832.108616812516215&type=1&theater

"Being married to a man who is in the military can be tough at times. We plan to live as normal as possible, but at times its not as easy and normal as we would like it to be. We planned our second child around any possible deployments.

Being that our first still hasn't warmed up to her daddy since his last deployment he continued to tell me how this baby would be all his. He wanted to change her diapers, put her to sleep, soothe her, and any other role that came along since he missed out so much with our first.

Unfortunately, when I was 35 weeks pregnant there was a death in my husbands family and he went back home to be there for his family while I stayed in our house. He returned a week later on a Thursday night and that Friday morning his phone continued to ring non-stop.
...
Then he looks at me with a serious look and says I am deploying, I questioned when? Then his answer made every hair on my body stand as he replied in 3 days. We frantically tried to have everything ready for the baby as possible and gathered all the supplies I need for my planned home birth.

Once the day had come for him to leave all that was on my mind at the moment was this wasn't supposed to happen to me... 37 weeks pregnant and my husband is deploying.

My daughter was born at 41 weeks and 5 days on my bedroom floor while on hands and knees without her daddy next to my side. As the days continue to pass us on the question is now when will he even get to meet his second daughter? Nothing is certain with the military, especially this deployment which was originally set for only 6 months and now they are wanting to extend to a full year.

So the baby that my husband had wished would be all his, a baby that will know her daddy from birth on will no longer be as my daughter is now 9 weeks old and there's no way in telling when these two will finally meet. Heartbroken."

bethLenell · July 2013

Cashingn2:
katebusse:

This is me. My husband is deploying soon and will miss the birth and the first few months of the baby's life. He will get an AMCROSS message via his ship to let him know that I delivered. I can't even contact him to let him know that I'm in labor. I'm VERY sensitive because of it, and while I'm glad OP said that her DR knows the importance of having her husband with her when she delivers, some of us just don't have that luxury.

Seriously, this breaks my heart. I am fighting back tears. I only went through one deployment with my DH and just can't imagine going into labor with him overseas and completely out of contact with him. My heart goes out to you!

You will be in my thoughts and prayers lady! Thank you and your husband for being so strong! Will you be going home when he deploys or do you have a strong support system where you are?

katebusse · July 2013

MrsQueale:
Cashingn2:
katebusse:

This is me. My husband is deploying soon and will miss the birth and the first few months of the baby's life. He will get an AMCROSS message via his ship to let him know that I delivered. I can't even contact him to let him know that I'm in labor. I'm VERY sensitive because of it, and while I'm glad OP said that her DR knows the importance of having her husband with her when she delivers, some of us just don't have that luxury.

Seriously, this breaks my heart. I am fighting back tears. I only went through one deployment with my DH and just can't imagine going into labor with him overseas and completely out of contact with him. My heart goes out to you!
Same here, my heart goes out to you.
This was posted today and I cried and cried while reading it. So I really have no sympathy for the OP.
https://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php?fbid=598702030174355&set=a.169419956435900.34832.108616812516215&type=1&theater
"Being married to a man who is in the military can be tough at times. We plan to live as normal as possible, but at times its not as easy and normal as we would like it to be. We planned our second child around any possible deployments.

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry for that poor woman. Thank you both for your support, it's truly helpful and appreciated. We planned this baby around deployments too, but his ship was called up to replace another one. I'm thankful that we at least had 2 months notice, instead of that woman's 3 days.

katebusse · July 2013

bethLenell:
Cashingn2:
katebusse:

This is me. My husband is deploying soon and will miss the birth and the first few months of the baby's life. He will get an AMCROSS message via his ship to let him know that I delivered. I can't even contact him to let him know that I'm in labor. I'm VERY sensitive because of it, and while I'm glad OP said that her DR knows the importance of having her husband with her when she delivers, some of us just don't have that luxury.

Seriously, this breaks my heart. I am fighting back tears. I only went through one deployment with my DH and just can't imagine going into labor with him overseas and completely out of contact with him. My heart goes out to you!

You will be in my thoughts and prayers lady! Thank you and your husband for being so strong! Will you be going home when he deploys or do you have a strong support system where you are?

You guys are the best. I'm running home to my folks because I'm alone and on the opposite side of the country from my family. DD is enrolled in the same preschool I went to, and I'll deliver in the same hospital I was born in. Ah, small towns.

MEP923 · July 2013

My heart breaks for all of you with husbands in the military and I think we have 1 or 2 in the military?? You guys sacrifice so much. Thoughts and prayers to you all. It makes me heartbroken that people know not to induce a baby early even when they are deploying but OP does not know better.

Eta: I apparently can't type on a phone.

Crystal England · July 2013

Laumb11:
JullianasMommy:
I don't even know what it means to go into labor and this is my fourth baby..

JullianasMommy:
Oh well I guess we obviously don't all agree. It my choice! My baby! My family and my husband! So good luck to all you ladies but I will defiantly be making my own decision. And BTW this is the 3rd Dr. So if was that big of a deal I'm sure they wouldn't do it.

Anyone else notice she goes from 4th pregnancy to 3rd? I'm calling MUD. Why come on here and ask for advice if you're set in a decision?

I think she meant third Dr. that approves of inducing her early for her reasons. But, who knows for sure?

Mills0309 · July 2013

Laumb11:
JullianasMommy:
I don't even know what it means to go into labor and this is my fourth baby..
 
 
JullianasMommy:
Oh well I guess we obviously don't all agree. It my choice! My baby! My family and my husband! So good luck to all you ladies but I will defiantly be making my own decision.

And BTW this is the 3rd Dr. So if was that big of a deal I'm sure they wouldn't do it.
 
Anyone else notice she goes from 4th pregnancy to 3rd? I'm calling MUD. Why come on here and ask for advice if you're set in a decision? 

She said 3rd dr..unfortunately I don't think this is MUD

MrsQueale · July 2013

Cashingn2:
MrsQueale:

Same here, my heart goes out to you.

This was posted today and I cried and cried while reading it. So I really have no sympathy for the OP.

https://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php?fbid=598702030174355&set=a.169419956435900.34832.108616812516215&type=1&theater

Did you mean to make me cry? 'Cause you did. Thanks for sharing!

Yes, I wanted to be mean and make everyone cry!

But seriously, I bawled like a baby! That's one strong woman!

cherylnicole · July 2013

Everyone else said it all. I just want to reiterate that I think you're incredibly selfish. And shame on your husband. But basically ditto everything everyone said. I hope you put this baby first and not your timeline.

You're ridiculous.

Habrsk87 · July 2013

I hope that your baby is born healthy and doesn't suffer from his/her parents ignorance and selfishness. I am assuming all your other children are healthy and you are very lucky! By the way my husband works 2 weeks away and gets two weeks off. I expect he is taking December off to be here because I will not induce if he doesn't. I care about my baby's health!

bethLenell · July 2013

katebusse:
bethLenell:
Cashingn2:
katebusse:

This is me. My husband is deploying soon and will miss the birth and the first few months of the baby's life. He will get an AMCROSS message via his ship to let him know that I delivered. I can't even contact him to let him know that I'm in labor. I'm VERY sensitive because of it, and while I'm glad OP said that her DR knows the importance of having her husband with her when she delivers, some of us just don't have that luxury.

Seriously, this breaks my heart. I am fighting back tears. I only went through one deployment with my DH and just can't imagine going into labor with him overseas and completely out of contact with him. My heart goes out to you!

You will be in my thoughts and prayers lady! Thank you and your husband for being so strong! Will you be going home when he deploys or do you have a strong support system where you are?

You guys are the best. I'm running home to my folks because I'm alone and on the opposite side of the country from my family. DD is enrolled in the same preschool I went to, and I'll deliver in the same hospital I was born in. Ah, small towns.

That'll be fun! I'm glad that you'll be able to be around people you love and who love you My neighbor went home when her husband deployed because she had just given birth to twins via c-section and really needed some helping hands with 2 other children under 5 years old. 4 kids and a deployed husband...she is a strong woman.

Laumb11 · July 2013

Mills0309:
Laumb11:
JullianasMommy:
I don't even know what it means to go into labor and this is my fourth baby..

JullianasMommy:
Oh well I guess we obviously don't all agree. It my choice! My baby! My family and my husband! So good luck to all you ladies but I will defiantly be making my own decision. And BTW this is the 3rd Dr. So if was that big of a deal I'm sure they wouldn't do it.

Anyone else notice she goes from 4th pregnancy to 3rd? I'm calling MUD. Why come on here and ask for advice if you're set in a decision?
She said 3rd dr..unfortunately I don't think this is MUD

Ooo I got it, I read it too fast..

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