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December 2013 Moms
JullianasMommy
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Induce or Not to Induce...
JullianasMommy
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I don't even know what it means to go into labor and this is my fourth baby. I have been induced all 3 previous pregnancies. 1st baby was an emergency induction a month early. 2nd baby I was due Christmas Day and we had a bunch of family in town and they wanted to meet the baby before they left so my Dr was nice enough to induce on the 16th of December ALL my family...brothers, sisters, mother, grandparents etc were all here from across the country. 3rd DD was induced so hubby wouldn't miss the delivery he was a truck driver. I really want to just go into labor this time. I always see on movies how its all dramatic and the water breaks or they wake up in the middle of the night and say "Honey, It's Time!" I wanna do that! My husband said we have to be induced again due to his work truck driver and Dr said that she would, but I really want the experience of going into labor on my own. I mean don't get me wrong knowing and being able to plan for your exact due date is nice and convenient but what about the excitement of not knowing? I tried everything last 2 pregnancies to go into labor on my own so I wouldnt be induced but they did Not wanna come out.
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Re: Induce or Not to Induce...
not to be a jerk, but with your 2nd pregnancy you said you were induced 9 days early. you can do whatever you want to go into labor naturally, but if it's 9 days before the baby wants to come (assuming he/she would've shown up on your due date) there's nothing you could've done short of an actual induction. i don't get it.
also, shame on your husband for pressuring you to have yet ANOTHER baby early for no good reason. i think you should stick up for yourself and your kid and skip the ridiculous early inductions this go around.
ALSO, i'm giving some serious side-eye to your dr. WTF?
Me: 31 | DH: 33
DS1: 12.23.13 | DS2: 05.06.16
BFP: 06.30.19 | EDD: 3.9.20
TTC3: 11.18
BFP: 02.05.19
CP: 03.07.19
*really traumatic recovery*
this. I'd never induce early, unless for medical reasons where I had no other choice.
for round 4, I'd let your labor happen naturally unless medical reasons arise, OP.
ETA: just read the last line again....trying everything to make a baby come early is a little too much IMHO. A baby will come when he/she is supposed to come. I think trying wacky things is silly and not necessary.
I cant believe your doctor would induce you for such silly reasons. The first was an emergency, I get that, but inducing 9 days early so that you could have your baby before Christmas is stupid. Baby's due dates can shift a week or two and babies are meant to come when they are ready. The only time inductions should be done are when they baby is late or in jeopardy. Not for stupid reasons like vacation, or DH being out of town. Ladies whose DHs are in the military give birth without DH all the time. It's not ideal, but not worth risking baby's health. You need to give your baby as much time in your womb as possible.
And BTW I dont think that going in to labor is as dramatic as in movies.
Ditto all of this. It is almost NEVER like the movies. My water got broken by a doctor after being in labor for 10 hours and it was very undramatic. lol.
That said, I do think it's super weird that your doctor induced you early three times. Personally, I would never want to be induced unless I ABSOLUTELY had to. My son came 6 days late, and that was a miserable 6 days, but even so I was dreading the possibility of induction the following week. There are so many additional complications that can arise from an induction, and I'd much rather go naturally if I had the choice...even if it meant my family couldn't meet the baby on time (which was the case for my son...family was in town on July 4th, had to leave July 6th, he was born July 7th. Oh well).
This. I agree with all the other PPs, I've never even heard of a woman being able to "choose" induction because she "prefers" to give birth on a certain day for a certain reason, esp before the due date, this is kinda strange to me that a doctor would even do this, in all honesty. I say skip the induction this time, unless you end up being overdue & your doc actually recommends it for medical reasons. I think it's best to let baby come naturally if you can. Induction is not something I would ever voluntarily do.
I am not trying to make you feel bad about what you have already done with your previous pregnancies, but there is more and more information coming out about the benefits of having your baby cook at least 39 weeks, not the 37 that was the previous minimum. If I were you I would not induce because that is mostly likely not best for your baby, all other reasons be darned.
Here is an article from the March of Dimes that you may want to take a look at before making this decision this time.
https://birthwithoutfearblog.com/2011/10/27/march-of-dimes-why-waiting-at-least-39-weeks-is-best-for-your-baby/
Agree with the PPs about inducing for non-medical reasons. The schedule of any other family members is 2nd priority compared to letting a baby grow until they're ready. Lots of reasons to not induce (unless medically necessary) especially before 39 weeks.
No, I don't think you should induce your labor unless it is medically necessary, like your water breaks and you are not in active labor or you are over 41 weeks or have Pre E. You are putting yourself and baby at risk by getting induced for non-medical reasons. Have you ever heard of the March of Dimes? https://www.marchofdimes.com/pregnancy/why-at-least-39-weeks-is-best-for-your-baby.aspx
I do not believe Dr's should have the ability to induce for non-medical reason, especially before your actual due date.
ETA-Jinx on the March of Dimes link, I didn't see it when I posted.
Sorry to disappoint you but I don't think wanting my husband and my family to be their for my child to be born as a "Silly Reason".
My last DD was delivered a day before her due date if that makes a difference.
I actually just made up my mind. I am very glad that my Dr. is a Mother and a Wife to a husband that is also a Dr. that works in different countries on occasion and understands how important it is to have your husband there for the birth of your baby.
Also sorry to those of you who think its selfish of my husband for wanting to be here for the birth of our baby. I almost feel selfish now for even considering possibly taking that away from him and our little one.
Thanks Ladies.
now i'm really annoyed.
plain and simple, it's selfish to risk the health of your child for you and your husband's convenience. SELFISH.
how don't you get that?
Your husband should have arranged to be off work if possible, but if not, risking the health of your child is selfish and wrong. It's completely silly/stupid to risk your child's health to make sure they arrived before Christmas and your family. Your doctor is an idiot and should have her medical license looked at. I get inducing for medical reasons, I'm being induced for a RCS, but because you want your child there in time for a family visit? Lord, how dumb can you be?
It is selfish. There is really no good reason to induce other than a medical one. Avoiding Christmas, tax breaks, family in town... those are all ridiculous.
Gr I didn't read this when I answered. It is the silliest reason I have ever heard. Inducing for any reason other than a medical reason is wrong. You need to wait until your baby is ready. Argh. I'm done.
ETA: Your Dh will be with you but your baby may not be healthy. Wonderful priorities. Ok. Really I'm done. For some reason this post seems like one of the most selfish I've ever seen.
And BTW this is the 3rd Dr. So if was that big of a deal I'm sure they wouldn't do it.
Seriously....YOU posted this question. You've posted here often enough and know that by enlarge people here are fairly conservative when it comes to medical treatments. It's been said before, if you can't put your big girl panties and deal with criticism, don't post your questions because you'll get answers that you probably won't agree with.
Don't come on for advice, if you don't want it. You can never make me see how it would be okay to risk my baby's life and health. Guess that's just me. At least research the risks before making such a big decision that could seriously harm your child.
So, why did you ask, exactly? Oh, I know. To stir shiit up.
My first child was 13 days late. I fought an induction tooth and nail. Why? Because due dates can be wrong and if labor starts spontaneously after 39 weeks, you know that baby has a very good chance of being healthy enough to enter the world without medical intervention. What if my son's due date was really something like December 20th instead of December 9th? What would have inducing a few weeks before the 9th have done to him, temporarily or permanently? God forbid anything like that happen to your children, but if it did, would you and your husband feel responsible for all those years? Somehow, that experience of being there for the birth of the baby isn't that important when one thinks about that.
Do what you're going to do, but I think we're all giving you and your doctor a major side-eye.
I don't get this attitude! You said you didn't want to be induced, we all agree, we gave you reasons why not to induce and now you act like you wanted to be induced the whole time and we are attacking you.... What gives?
I don't understand why you asked for advice if you clearly didn't want it. People were giving you answers that actually AGREED with your original post that you'd rather go into labor naturally. I don't think you can get offended by that.
It is totally your choice, but you did ask what people thought ...
Um, yeah...everyone else has already said it, but the SELFISH thing is to make your baby come out before he/she is ready. Being a parent is about putting your needs to the side when it's for the good of your child...this is one of those times.
Just because someone has a medical license doesn't mean they are a good Dr. I would not want to be treated by a Dr. thay would induce early for non medical reasons. That is seriously crazy.
There were doctors at my mom's hospital that have had their licenses revoked for inducing large numbers of patients early for patient's convenience. Good doctors do not do this. So yes, all 3 of your doctors are getting a major side eye from me..
She wants to go into natural labor for the drama of it, you know, like in the movies. We all had sound medically researched reasons she should not be induced early. So you see the issue now...
Blah, blah, blah! I'm reading a bunch of excuses and justifications for how this benefits every Tom, D!ck and Harry but you forgot to consider the one important person... your innocent baby.
Your main goal should be making sure you child has the best start in life. It's sad that you and your Dr are concerned about momentary convenience over the health benefits of letting your child come when ready. Shame on you, and your Dr should be investigated.
I agree with this. Also I DO think it's selfish to choose to induce labor early for your YOUR/YOUR DH's CONVENIENCE...that is not considering what is best for baby.
All of this. Plus, my Dr. has 4 children and is a family man as well, however he doesn't allow for non medical inductions for convenience. You have 9 months to plan for baby's arrival. Please, just do yourself a favor and stop replying.
That's the kind of cray cray logic going on. The whole family in town for Christmas induction bothers the fluck out of me. Who says the OP wouldn't have gone into labor that week and the fam would've still been there. If if she didn't....who cares. Family can suck it because its about what's best for the baby!!! UGH....annoyed
Yeah, who cares about what's convenient for the baby, all that matters is the convenience if relatives coming for the holiday that want to meet LO. Forget whether or not LO is ready to come out... FFS you were induced to make other people happy; that's insane!
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Ditto this FGS! Unfortunately OP doesn't seem to "get it" since her babies have been fine being born early :[ maybe this one will be the opposite.