GTKY: Opposites Attract?

themrsJRD · July 2013

The board seems a little slow this afternoon so I thought I'd throw something out there.

Do you think you and your partner are an "opposites attract" couple or more of a "birds of a feather flock together" kind of couple? And why?

My husband and I are definitely "birds of a feather." I sometimes feel like we are extensions of each other lol... we think the same, act the same, and finish each other's sentences. We have incredibly similar tastes in style and sense of humor. There are times we can act differently but it's more of a mood thing, not that our whole personality is different.

ap142193 · July 2013

My husband and I are total opposites! I am a librarian and I love to spend time inside reading a book and cuddling with my dogs (in bed with me if he wouldnt flip out). He is an Engineer and wants to be outside building things all day long and thinks the dogs shouldnt live inside. I see the world in greys and he sees the world in black in white. I live by a calendar and he hates schedules!

janda426 · July 2013

We're a mix of both. He is the calm to my crazy, but other than that we both share the same weird, sometimes twisted sense of humor. He's also a genius. We don't really have that in common.

C0602t · July 2013

I think we are more of the same than opposites. We have the same likes and dislikes, views on things, we are both very laid back. The only difference is he is completely happy staying in every night and friends seem to be a burden, where I love dressing up and going out. I'm quite the busy body!

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

janda426:
We're a mix of both. He is the calm to my crazy, but other than that we both share the same weird, sometimes twisted sense of humor. He's also a genius. We don't really have that in common.

This is pretty much how I would describe us exactly.

tealowl · July 2013

I'd say we are more opposites. He's quiet and not super social, while I'd be down to go out more often, or have parties. I drink and he doesn't. I eat healthy and he eats garbage, lol.

Emotionally though, we are on the same path. He really understands and can process my more feminine emotions well, because he's sensitive. I was so used to dating men who were always 'my way or the highway' and showed no emotion that I was taken aback and it took awhile for me to process that.

Oh and sexually - two peas in a pod!

husker10 · July 2013

We're total opposites. He's loud, I'm quiet. He's opinionated (and vocal about it), I'm not. He'll talk to anyone, I'm shy and will only talk to someone if they initiate. We still have some common ground, but not a lot.

kali55 · July 2013

We are the same in our values but different in other areas. I drive him mental with all of my trying to eat healthy and he works almost non-stop on house projects, I've never seen someone with as much energy to burn as him (except for now my son, who inherited it from his father it seems)

mrs_tacos · July 2013

We're a nice mix of both. Our strength, weaknesses, and skills are very opposites attract. But our senses of humor, activities we enjoy, values, and senses of style are birds of a feather. We work remarkably well.

Twinkie0612 · July 2013

DH and I are definitely opposites. I have two college degrees, work in an office setting, and like to spend free time reading a good book. DH never went to college, works a manual labor job, and would think I was crazy if I suggested he read a book. He's more of a video game/tv/movie kind of guy.

We do have some similar interests. We both like movies (especially comic book/super hero movies), sports, and he recently got me into golf. I think the areas where we differ, we compliment each other. I am a numbers person, so I handle our finances. DH is handy and handles home repairs/remodeling. I also tend to be the worrier perfectionist, while DH is much more laid back. We balance each other out.

TravelingCouple · July 2013

themrsJRD:
The board seems a little slow this afternoon so I thought I'd throw something out there.
Do you think you and your partner are an "opposites attract" couple or more of a "birds of a feather flock together" kind of couple? And why?

My husband and I are definitely "birds of a feather." I sometimes feel like we are extensions of each other lol... we think the same, act the same, and finish each other's sentences. We have incredibly similar tastes in style and sense of humor. There are times we can act differently but it's more of a mood thing, not that our whole personality is different.

I feel the same way about DH and I. We have the same thinking on most things and I can usually tell what he's thinking before he says something. We are definitely more similar than different.

Wildfire2011 · July 2013

I think we share a lot in common including morals, ethics, political views, intelligence, goals in life.

But in other ways we can be opposites. When I want to relax, I actually want to *relax* by watching tv or a movie, reading a book, and other low key activities, whereas he likes to be doing something active or interactive all the time. He's more outgoing and more of a go-getter in general whereas I'm more introverted and tend to take my time waiting for things to happen. He tends to be more optimistic or idealistic whereas I am more realistic. He likes to hang out with family as much as possible whereas I would prefer hanging out with friends/people my own age. I would actually like to acquire more of his positive traits for myself, and I do think being with him helps to bring out the best in me

Mommy2Boys09 · July 2013

We're a good mix of both as well. I'm more quiet and sometimes shy and he's loud and more outgoing. He likes to drink, I do maybe once or twice a month (sometimes not that often) I'm not someone you ever see at a club and he would be thrilled to go. But we have the same sense of humor. We (for the most part) watch the same tv shows, movies, listen to the same music, and enjoy a lot of the same things.

Tink19 · July 2013

I would say we are a mixture of both. I am a social butterfly and DH the complete opposite. He is brave and I am the biggest chicken ever. We share the same values and work incredible as a team.

Pintobean39 · July 2013

My husband and are def opposites attract.

I'm an accountant very OCD. He's an. MD with add. I'm good with numbers he's just a nerd lol good with science but can't add.

I tell him all the time the reason we work is because we each make up for each others faults. Even though I swear I have very few. Lol

lookame3639 · July 2013

Oposites attract on some things, birda of a feather on others. Our personalities and likes and dislikes are pretty similar. Hes very upbeat and positive and hardly lets things bother him whereas I can be a debbie downer and things tend to bother me a little more easily. He also likes a very neat and clean living space whereas I dont feel the need to get up and clean right away...

cas889 · July 2013

I think we're a little of both. I'm a math teacher and he's in information technology, so we're both geeks at heart, but he's completely at ease in any social situation, where I'm more of a wallflower. Our senses of humor coincide completely in many aspects, but sometimes he says my funny bone is broken. I love horrible reality TV and he rarely watches anything.

herecomesthesun · July 2013

We are also a good mix of opposites and samesies.

Clarinet35 · July 2013

We are very similar in our beliefs, morals, ideas, thoughts, etc. but I am an extrovert and he is an introvert.

brookeK1990 · July 2013

I like to think he is my best friend. We are super open about everything and we spend all the time we can together. We can joke and play and have a good time with just us two. So I would say "birds of a feather"

owlhead · July 2013

I like this question.

We are a little of both, but now that I think about it more so opposite. Same in that we have the same sense of humor, similar religious beliefs.

We are different in our stability. To clarify, I am an unstable person in a stable state. I have type one bipolar disorder and drug/alcohol addiction (spent a week in intensive psychiatric hospital / 3 months of drug rehab / five years sober in August). He is also a recovering drinker. So there's a similarity. But he keeps me stable. He is constantly reminding me to take my medicine when I forget; he likes to sit down and seriously ask, "How are you feeling? How are we doing?" I am not much of a let's-talk-about-our-feelings-yay kind of person. I struggle with emotions and feelings and even identifying them some days. Some days I don't know what the fluck I'm thinking or feeling, my head gets so spinny and racy. He can be quite the firecracker at work when he gets upset, but he calms me down when I need it. He is my rock, and honestly I don't know where I would be without him. Last summer my doc took me off my lithium without replacing it with something else, and I nearly had to hospitalize myself again, my mania was that bad. But he was there for me.

TeeJ526 · July 2013

There's no doubt that DH and are the same. We think alike, have similar sense of humor and are both major dorks when it comes to video games and Star Wars. We even work in the same career field.

starfishlovesyou · July 2013

We are a mix of both, I think. I've noticed that he brings out the best in me, and I've brought out some good things in him, too. We are different, in a complimentary way.

Luckbeababy · July 2013

Total opposites. He likes to stay home with just me and the kids and I want to throw parties and go out to the bars. Probably the only thing we share in common is hunting. He hunts for animals and I hunt for the best shopping deals. It works for us though and we will be celebrating 8 years of marriage July 30th.

sunlavender · July 2013

Our core values are the same (religion, political, family values, etc) but our personalities are very different. In that way, I think we complement each other well.

candrew05 · July 2013

We are just about 100 different lol. Other than our shared faith we are totally different people and most don't understand how we are even together lol. But crazy enough it works : we really feed off our differences.

dragossoul84 · July 2013

We are definately opposites attract. He is tall and super book smart and kinda shy I am short way more street smart and a very blunt in your face kinda personality. He fills all my weakness

coopsbaby · July 2013

DH and I are definitely birds of a feather. We have the same sense of humor, like the same things on tv, and movies, same food, same values, same politics, etc. We tend to think alike a lot and finish each other's sentences, etc.

Now exH and I were opposites attract, and we fought like crazy, mostly because he thought if I had a different opinion that I would do it on purpose to tick him off. He was the kind of guy that thinks his opinion is the only correct one, not so much fun.

doodiebug18 · July 2013

My husband and I are opposite... I'm always on the go and talking all the time...my husband is very quiet likes to stay home if he has a choice

themrsJRD · July 2013

Thanks to everyone who replied, it was fun reading all the answers!

themrsJRD · July 2013

Luckbeababy:
Total opposites. He likes to stay home with just me and the kids and I want to throw parties and go out to the bars. Probably the only thing we share in common is hunting. He hunts for animals and I hunt for the best shopping deals. It works for us though and we will be celebrating 8 years of marriage July 30th.

LMAO. Happy early anniversary!

themrsJRD · July 2013

owlhead:
five years sober in August

That is really great, congrats

brneyemom2 · July 2013

DH and I are complete opposites. He is an introvert and very antisocial. I'm the social butterfly of thr family. I think I force him out of his comfort zone and he reels me in so I'm not too crazy. We complimemt eachother well.

owlhead · July 2013

themrsJRD:
owlhead:
five years sober in August
That is really great, congrats  

Thanks!

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