I wore my big girl panties just for this post.
I really wanted to honor my father if we were having a boy by naming him Jack, my dads FN. My H isn't 100% sold on the name as a FN , but he's open to the idea if we have the middle name be HIS fathers; (his father is living, mine is not. Not really that it matters I guess.)
But... This would mean our son would be Jack Daniel.
Yeah.
So, think about it and be honest. Is this just absurd and an idea I need to toss out completely?
Re: Dilemma with boy name.
Well, I don't think it's a tit for tat thing. If he only wants to honor his father because you want to honor yours, that seems a little petty. Jack Daniel doesn't bother me that much, bc he's not going to go by his full name that much. If it really bothers you, maybe use his father's middle name for his mn?
I love Jack and I would use it in a heartbeat for your reasons and just cause it's a good name.
Do you plan to use the middle name? If you envision calling your child by his first and middle name, embroidering it on pillows (well maybe not that but you get the idea) etc. then I would probably not use that name. However, DH and I were just having a conversation recently about how for some people middle names are completely invisible - no one uses them or knows them except the person and maybe their mother. If you think you will fall into the latter category then I think the name is probably okay.
Jack is a very nice name and a nice way to honor your father. I am sorry for your loss.
Sorry for the edit- had a grammatical issue that was bugging me
Actually, his fathers middle name is my H's first name, Michael. I hadn't even thought of that. I will run this by H tonight and see how he feels. Not as crazy with how it sounds together, but it's a great option.
And, yes Kate, I sort of feel it's petty of him, too.
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Jack Daniel does flow. Just be prepared to deal with stupid, "Like the whiskey?" comments. The good news is you don't use the MN too often. The only time DS's MN is used is when I'm filing out paperwork. If you don't want to deal with the stupid questions I would go to FIL's MN. I'm sure he would understand why you didn't use his first and hopefully just be honored the baby is named after him.
I wouldn't change Jack. That is a great name.
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Sorry... I see Jack Daniel and I just can think about whiskey!
People can be mean for little reason.... to give a child a name that will be a bullying reason for sure I am not in favor... sorry!
Can't his dad be honored enough by caring his last name already? FN your dad, LN his dad's last name.
Side note: Somehow I've always ended up with guys with 3 names. My DH is Joshua Philip Scot. Also family names. I wouldn't have an issue with using 3 names if our last name wasn't four syllables long.
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I love the name Jackson, and would use it if we didn't already have two cousins in the family with that name.
Jackson Daniel sounds nice to me.
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I agree about swapping the names and making it Daniel Jack and then you can call it Jack if you want
If you do go with Jack Daniel I wouldn't worry too much. I have seen some names on this board that make that look amazing.
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I agree. I mean I do like to come up with a first and middle name that "go well", but in reality, most people don't go by their first and middle. One of the names we like for girls is realllly long with the middle name, but again, not one is going to be putting the full names together.
Yes, I think of whiskey when I hear Jack Daniel, but I like the names and think it would be fine.
To be fair, once he reaches a certain age, he'll probably think it's pretty awesome to have a name like Jack Daniel.
I agree, I don't think that just because you honor your father, you have to honor your husband's father. But I'm also Ashkenazi Jewish, and we do not name children after people who are still alive.
Jack's a great name, btw, so is Daniel.
I like Jackson Daniel as well.
I also think your H is being petty. If we have a girl we will use my deceased MIL's name as the middle name. I don't then expect us to use my mother or grandmother's name as well.
Also, I really like Jack Michael. That might be a nice compromise.
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2. Of the things listed here, my favorite option is Jack Michael. I like that it honors you FIL and you DH. I love Jackson, but, considering the situation, I think sticking to the original name is important.
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Hey Jack Michael isn't bad
and then it even getting your DH's name in there too, all 3 dads covered!
My H always jokes that he wants to name a boy this if we had one. His fave whiskey is JD, among others lol.
That said I wouldn't choose it because it has no significance to us. Could you use Jackson with nn Jack?
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Jack is a nickname of John, traditionally. John F. Kennedy's family called him Jack.