- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Secondary IF
JalepenoPepper
member
Newbie and I'm scared...
JalepenoPepper
member
in Secondary IF
newbie here...hope you're all doing well! I'm 36, blessed with a wonderful 4 year old boy, but desperately want another angel, but after almost 10 months, no luck. The whole battery of blood tests and u/s and whatnot have started, and so far, all it has produced is massive amounts of confusion. For example, day 3 blood test last cycle produced a great FSH. Day 3 blood test this cycle was through the roof. I think I stumped my ob/gyn as well. So off I go to an RE this week for the first time.
I'm nervous and scared. I'm petrified that of hearing the words "I'm so sorry..." come out of the RE's mouth.
Advice on how to stay calm through this whole process? I'm hoping to find some sort of support on this board, as this whole thing is overwhelming and heartbreaking.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Newbie and I'm scared...
Me: 42. DH: 46.
1st Pregnancy: MC, 11/19/00.
2nd Pregnancy: DS born 04/10/06.
3rd Pregnancy: CP, 03/11.
4th Pregnancy: MMC, D&C 11/30/11, Genetic testing revealed Trisomy 4.
5th Pregnancy: Ectopic, 2 doses of Methotrexate unsuccessful, surgery 4/10/12, right tube removed.
Tried Letrozole January 2013-July 2013 (including 2 IUIs), all BFN. After 2 1/2 years of trying for child #2, decided to "give up" after July cycle, based on AMA.
August 16, 2013: BFP our first month of "not trying!" Still in shock. Beta #1 (14dpo): 183. Beta #2 (17dpo): 611. Ultrasound 8/30/13: baby measured 6 weeks, 1 day, heart rate of 118 bpm!
Ultrasound 9/13/13: 8 weeks, heart rate of 176!
Baby is due 4/26/14
It took 4 years for us to conceive DS and I just hold onto to the hope that if I did it once I can do it again. I know that's not much help.
the other thing I do and this is a double edged sword because it can backfire on me sometimes is I research. I feel like knowledge is power so I read like every IF book, study, article, etc I can get my hands on. sometimes I have to cool it bc I overwhelm myself with information
anyway, I've found a lot of support here so far, so hang in there!
babydust to you
Me: 27 DH: 33
Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI
TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
No longer benched per New RE/OB!
Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic
Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
March 2, 2014 First AF
Thank you for the babydust!
Holding onto hope is getting harder and harder. Today, I was told that my HSG showed that both tubes were either blocked, or spasmed. The RE specialist will be able to tell me more info at my first appointment.
This just completely sucks.
Just wanted to say welcome, and you're right, it completely sucks. IF can be so emotionally (and financially!) draining . Some days it's really hard to see anything positively, especially when you venture out of your house and see tons of pregos.
Don't let anyone, especially a doctor, tell you that they are sorry... have you read Inconceivable/Fertile Female. I thought it was pretty empowering and highly recommend it, at least for helping on a mental/emotional level.
The thing I found to suck most about infertility is the lack of control over my body. I can do everything right and have (seemingly) nothing wrong with me, but I still might not get pregnant. It's so frustrating! But it helps me to focus on the things I can control - eating, exercise, mental outlook/stress (acupuncture has helped for me), and above all else, enjoying these fleeting moments of childhood with my 3 year old. Good luck to you and you are not alone! This board is very supportive!
TTC #1 4/2009 - DD 2/5/10
TTC #2 since October 2011
2IF issues
I hope that your RE has some encouraging news for you. When I had my HSG a few months ago, in some ways I was kind of hoping my remaining tube was blocked so they would know where the problem was, and then be able to fix it. Sometimes they are able to clear a blockage by forcing in the dye a little harder. Maybe your RE will tell you that you are a candidate for this, or that it can be cleared (or made not to spasm if that is the problem) in some other way. I hope so. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
Me: 42. DH: 46.
1st Pregnancy: MC, 11/19/00.
2nd Pregnancy: DS born 04/10/06.
3rd Pregnancy: CP, 03/11.
4th Pregnancy: MMC, D&C 11/30/11, Genetic testing revealed Trisomy 4.
5th Pregnancy: Ectopic, 2 doses of Methotrexate unsuccessful, surgery 4/10/12, right tube removed.
Tried Letrozole January 2013-July 2013 (including 2 IUIs), all BFN. After 2 1/2 years of trying for child #2, decided to "give up" after July cycle, based on AMA.
August 16, 2013: BFP our first month of "not trying!" Still in shock. Beta #1 (14dpo): 183. Beta #2 (17dpo): 611. Ultrasound 8/30/13: baby measured 6 weeks, 1 day, heart rate of 118 bpm!
Ultrasound 9/13/13: 8 weeks, heart rate of 176!
Baby is due 4/26/14
Thanks everyone! So supportive and sweet...I really appreciate it.
What should I expect at my first RE appt? A ton of questions? Is she just going to say, wait until your cycle starts, see you later? Not sure what to expect, so of course, I'm expecting the worst case scenario of "I'm so sorry but..." However, like the previous poster said, I won't accept that as an answer.
I'm doing acupuncture as well, been doing it for about 2 months now, and I find it very relaxing. Whether or not it's helping me, I don't know. Only time will tell.
I'd LOVE to be able to get through a day without crying about this though