Family/Rent vent...

notkateanymore · July 2013

OK, I have to vent before I go over to my old house and punch my BIL. This is the second month they've lived in our other house and the second time the rent is late. First month they were in town the weekend the rent was due, but for some reason decided to go home and then mail it...so it was like 3 days late. No problem. This month he was out of checks, so ordered some, but it took forever apparently and then it took forever to transfer money to his wife to pay it out of her account. But apparently neither of those things happened and it's not 7 days late with no communication since last weekend when we were told it was going to be late. Now, I get the fact that he ran out of checks. I actually ran out of checks this month and went to get a certified check to pay my rent! Or I would have paid it in cash had that not been an option for some reason. They're already paying under what we wanted and could get from somebody else. They also owe us for getting our yard guy over there because BIL was in CA for work. Not to mention I'm still paying the utilities because they haven't signed an actual lease, so that they can go get them turned back on. Arrrrrrggggghhhhhhhhhh.

Now, let me just say that if they had come to us and said "We can't afford to pay you this month or ever really, we would have let them live there until we sold it" But no, they negotiated this crazy rent, so I expected them to be able to pay it. They have two HUGE dogs that I'm sure are going to *** up the floors, but do they have to pay a deposit? No. Basically they have the best deal ever...could you just pay for crap on time? That's all I ask.

beyla1 · July 2013

Do you have a formal lease agreement? Just be direct with them and let them know what is irritating you.

notkateanymore · July 2013

beyla1:
Do you have a formal lease agreement? Just be direct with them and let them know what is irritating you.

We will as soon as we can all be in one place for them to sign it. But, yes this is a formal lease agreement. We were going to rent it to strangers before they asked to rent it because they were moving back into town.

notkateanymore · July 2013

nowababy:
That's really frustrating and especially tough since they're family. Maybe your DH needs to have a sit down with them and see what the deal is?

I know. He hates to be the mean big brother. They're 10 years apart, so he worries about him just as much as a dad was. BIL is a lawyer as is his new wife, but they both took jobs for enjoyment vs. actual resources to live by it seems. LOL But that's his brother, he's a good time guy. It's fine when it's not inconveniencing me, he is a fun guy.

beyla1 · July 2013

That's good. That way when you kick them out or change them a fee for being late, it's in writing. I know it's difficult mixing financials/family, but if I were you, I'd be very firm and also very direct with them regarding any issues with rent.

ASullivan1231 · July 2013

Hav=Fath:
Do you need the money they're paying in rent to be able to pay your bills? If not then I can't see why you'd care if it's late or not, I mean if it's just money in the bank then why would it matter as long as it's paid? And as far as the amount they're paying, you didn't have to give them a great deal so you can't hardly begrudge them that... same with the dogs, as long as they had them before they moved in and you knew about them, that shouldn't be a big deal either.nbsp;I'm just surprised, I wouldn't care at all if my sister was renting a place off of us and was late with rent, especially if she had a good reason.nbsp;

Personally, I don't think whether Kate needs the money or not, is important. If they set up an agreement it should be paid on time. Also, he doesn't seem to have a good reason or he at least hasn't been direct and responsible in addressing the situation.

bumpuser8448316 · July 2013

Hav=Fath:
Do you need the money they're paying in rent to be able to pay your bills? If not then I can't see why you'd care if it's late or not, I mean if it's just money in the bank then why would it matter as long as it's paid? And as far as the amount they're paying, you didn't have to give them a great deal so you can't hardly begrudge them that... same with the dogs, as long as they had them before they moved in and you knew about them, that shouldn't be a big deal either.
I'm just surprised, I wouldn't care at all if my sister was renting a place off of us and was late with rent, especially if she had a good reason.

yeah, it doesn't work like that. You have to pay your rent on time regardless of who your landlord is

notkateanymore · July 2013

QueSyrah:
Hav=Fath:
Do you need the money they're paying in rent to be able to pay your bills? If not then I can't see why you'd care if it's late or not, I mean if it's just money in the bank then why would it matter as long as it's paid? And as far as the amount they're paying, you didn't have to give them a great deal so you can't hardly begrudge them that... same with the dogs, as long as they had them before they moved in and you knew about them, that shouldn't be a big deal either.
I'm just surprised, I wouldn't care at all if my sister was renting a place off of us and was late with rent, especially if she had a good reason.
yeah, it doesn't work like that. You have to pay your rent on time regardless of who your landlord is

Yeah, this. I'm not going to bother with the rest of it, Hav. This is a business deal, so I expect it to be paid on time. No matter if I need the money or not.

lexusolsen · July 2013

KateMW:
QueSyrah:
Hav=Fath:
Do you need the money they're paying in rent to be able to pay your bills? If not then I can't see why you'd care if it's late or not, I mean if it's just money in the bank then why would it matter as long as it's paid? And as far as the amount they're paying, you didn't have to give them a great deal so you can't hardly begrudge them that... same with the dogs, as long as they had them before they moved in and you knew about them, that shouldn't be a big deal either. 
I'm just surprised, I wouldn't care at all if my sister was renting a place off of us and was late with rent, especially if she had a good reason. 
yeah, it doesn't work like that. You have to pay your rent on time regardless of who your landlord is 
Yeah, this. I'm not going to bother with the rest of it, Hav. This is a business deal, so I expect it to be paid on time. No matter if I need the money or not.  

Honestly, you have to be a hard from the beginning or it won't work out. I would tell him that. We don't want this to influence our relationship with you. We are going to treat you as tenants when appropriate and as my brother when appropriate. Then it's on him if things go south. Good luck!

ASullivan1231 · July 2013

"Honestly, you have to be a hard from the beginning or it won't work out. I would tell him that. We don't want this to influence our relationship with you. We are going to treat you as tenants when appropriate and as my brother when appropriate. Then it's on him if things go south. Good luck!"

Yes, completely agree with this above. When I was single 2 of my girlfriends and I rented an apartment from my aunt and uncle. The apartment was all business between my aunt and me. Family time, was family time and we never crossed them over. Actually because it was my aunt I wanted to do the right thing even more. I felt TERRIBLE the couple of times we had small issues and I put her in an awkward situation.

You or DH need to have a talk with BIL, ASAP. Not heated but clearly state the guidelines. Rent paid by a certain time, etc. If both know what to expect that should hopefully help the issues. Good luck!

P.S. I'd be annoyed as F*CCK too

Court0026 · July 2013

That is just effing annoying! Really pitiful excuses. Sorry..hope it works out in the end!

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