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DH cold feet?

Pr@yinforbe@nPr@yinforbe@n member
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Has anyone had problems with their hubby getting cold feet before IVF? We are on day 6 of stims now with retrieval sometime next week and my hubby had a meltdown last night. He said he is terrified and doesn't know if he wants to go through with IVF..!!! I am in shock bc I am thinking this is a little late in the game to change your mind!! I am praying hard that it is just the fear and nerves about the unknown. Just wondering if anyone else has experience this...
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  • lizardknitterlizardknitter member
    This sort of happened with us, except on day 10 of stims the night before trigger.  He is/was worried about "tempting fate" by "engineering a child that we wouldn't have had otherwise."  We had a long, long talk about his feelings and once I acknowledged his fears and we talked through them, he was back on board.  I hope the same happens for you.
    Me - 40, DH 34 Married 11 years, TTC since 7/09 3 rounds of Clomid > Vivienne born 5/28/11
    TTC#2 since 01/13 - 3 rounds of Clomid, 2 IUI w/injectibles, moving to IVF
    IVF #1 - Lupron 20 6/19, Follistim 225 6/21, Menopur 75 6/27, Trigger 6/30
    ER 7/2 (8R, 7M, 5F); ET 7/5 - 2 8 cell, grade 1 and 1 7 cell, grade 1 Stick babies, stick!
    BFP on HPT at 11dp3dt
    Beta #1 13dp3dt 787
    Beta #2 17dp3dt 6,007
    1st u/s 5w2d showing one "good" sac and 2-3 questionable
    2nd u/s 6w2d showing one baby with HR 128bpm
    3rd u/s 7w1d - HR 159bpm - graduated from RE!
    MaternT21 test results: no chromosomal issues, it's a BOY!!!
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  • APRILMWAPRILMW member
    My DH had cold feet for last year! Fortunately, once he was/is on board he's been great! I think for mine it was the large investment money wise, with no guarantee. My input, is let him do his word vomit, be supportive of his feelings and he will be back on board!

    Good luck, it's tough for you and DH!
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  • mfarmer0811mfarmer0811 member
    My DH had a little cold feet, but mainly because he was afraid we would end up with too many embryos. I knew we were in God's hands, and everything would be OK. My DH is the type to get post tramatic symptoms. So, once everything starting getting really real, (stimming, ER date, etc) he started freaking out a bit. He was also concerned about the finances of it. 
    Now that we have had our ET, he is much better! I'm sure he is just nervous. I think a lot of guys get like that! 
    Thoughts and prayers coming your way!
    Me 28 DH 30 Married 08-11-07 TTC since 07/11 HSG 01-21-13 Left FTB Seeing RE 1-28-13 RE 1-28-13 Both tubes blocked LAP surgery 2-15-13 Both tubes removed Started IVF #1 June 2013 Meds: BCP, Lupron, Gonal-F, Ovidrel, Medrol, Doxycycline
    Beta #1-BFP!!! HCG-55 Beta #2--111 Beta #3--2,825 Beta #4 22,031 1st U/S 7-29-13 Saw and heard our little sweet pea's heartbeat!! 109 bpm 


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  • Pr@yinforbe@nPr@yinforbe@n member
    Thanks Ladies! I am praying that he will start feeling peace about it again! The part is how crazy it is that he had no problem paying for it and the expensive meds..by no problem I mean that didn't freak him out but seeing bruises on my butt from the shots was enough to make him freak out. I don't wanna quit this cycle we are too far in so I pray he gets on board fast!! Hearing that your hubs also had similar freak outs makes me feel a little better
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