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• nesenotes member

  July 2013

  PaddyB:

  Jessie11LU:

  KarmB:

  Jessie11LU:

  I dont think its awful to point out someone is fat or has poor eating habits. I think its worse when someones friends justify poor eating habits and obesity by saying its mean when someone points it out. Nobody wants to be told theyre fat, i get that, but at the same time, for friends to say its ok someone is unhealthy is worse. Thats a shittttty friend if you ask me, but alas, nobody did.

  Ill be sure to tread around my bulimic friend carefully and get them help. I think it'd be worse on them to out right say they have issues to their face. Be a little for gentle would be nicer.

  Actually, my best friend telling me i either need to get help, stop or she was going to tell my family helped me immensly with my eating disorder. Tough love sucks but sometimes its necessary.

  I think that it really depends on the person- for some people having someone be extremely blunt with them makes them shut down and ignore what is being said to them- for others it is motivating.   

  Exactly! I was trying to figure out how to put that in words, but you nailed it beautifully. 
  

  
  
  
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• DeniseRN member

  July 2013

  I have to tell people they're fat for a living. I tactfully say "a normal BMI is less than 25, yours is 31. Here is some information on healthy eating for heart patients" It's the worst part of my job and I hate it bc most people who are obese know they are obese.

  
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• DeniseRN member

  July 2013

  mrsmckinky:

  DeniseRN:

  I have to tell people they're fat for a living. I tactfully say "a normal BMI is less than 25, yours is 31. Here is some information on healthy eating for heart patients" It's the worst part of my job and I hate it bc most people who are obese know they are obese.

  This exactly.  If you are overweight, you are damn well aware of it.  I am fully aware of being overweight every time I go clothes shopping or when I'm around several of my friends (who are beautiful, but skinny, biitches...at least they have fat hearts haha).  Having someone else tell me I'm overweight would do nothing but hurt my feelings and make me feel pretty shiitty about myself.
  

  Honestly, if I like the person, I say "here is the BMI chart. Lets talk about your diet" and don't even mention their BMI/overweight status.  

  
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