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mrsj0423 · July 2013

Okay ladies, lets hear them!

On Tuesday I was driving and had to pee soooooooo bad it was hurting. We were on the interstate and in between exits. I couldn't take it anymore so I reached into Sunny's diaper bag, pulled out a Luvs, and..... Well, I am sure you can figure out the rest of the story. And you know what? I am not ashamed of it at all, lol. I felt a billion times better instantly and it worked perfectly, not a drop out of place, lol. I actually felt pretty good about my resourcefulness!

lilahbean13 · July 2013

mrsj0423:
Okay ladies, lets hear them!nbsp;On Tuesday I was driving and had to pee soooooooo bad it was hurting. nbsp;We were on the interstate and in between exits. nbsp;I couldn't take it anymore so I reached into Sunny's diaper bag, pulled out a Luvs, and..... Well, I am sure you can figure out the rest of the story. nbsp;And you know what? nbsp;I am not ashamed of it at all, lol. nbsp;I felt a billion times better instantly and it worked perfectly, not a drop out of place, lol. nbsp;I actually felt pretty good about my resourcefulness!nbsp;

I wouldn't be ashamed either!! I ran out of tp once and used Coopers wipes!

mandiek72512 · July 2013

Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.

KarmB · July 2013

mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.

All moms need breaks. Maybe find a local mothers group and swap babysitting.

BransonsBecca · July 2013

mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.

Do it. I could have written this. No matter what we do sometimes I really need a break! DD will start daycare in a couple of weeks. I do go back to school in the fall but she'll start early because I'm about to lose my mind. And since we pay for week no matter how often she goes, she will probably go on days I have no class, just so I can get things done around thehouse! Don't feel bad. Everyone needs a break, even when you wanted to stay at home. You're not alone!

mandiek72512 · July 2013

Thank yall! Im going to start searching for something around here! All the play groups Ive found so far are full but Im still looking!

KarmB · July 2013

mandiek72512:
Thank yall! Im going to start searching for something around here! All the play groups Ive found so far are full but Im still looking!

i found mine through our local hospital

KarmB · July 2013

Im glad the 4th is over because of all the mothers on my FB (not all lol) complaining about the fireworks waking their kids up. Get over it. Their bedtime is right when fireworks happen.

StokedWifey · July 2013

KarmB:
mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.
All moms need breaks. Maybe find a local mothers group and swap babysitting.

I agree with karm. I don't know a single SAHM IRL that doesn't do a mom's day out or babysitting swap. You need time for yourself and it's good for Rylan too. He'll learn from different people and will get time being with other kids, which is so, so important. I'm quitting work next year and am already looking into MDO programs!

StokedWifey · July 2013

KarmB:
Im glad the 4th is over because of all the mothers on my FB (not all lol) complaining about the fireworks waking their kids up. Get over it. Their bedtime is right when fireworks happen.

I saw all those and was glad B had NICU sleep training. The NICU was good for one thing- NOTHING wakes that kid up.

mandiek72512 · July 2013

hibiscus29:
mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.
I am absolutely enrolling Addie in a Mother's Day out program.  I just haven't decided if I want her to start at a year and a half or two years.  They fill up quickly around here, though, so I need to get the ball rolling.  Everyone needs a break now and then, and if you are nowhere near family who can help out, mother's day out is perfect.  The one I am looking at is two days a week from 9 until 1.  It also gives the babies a chance to be around other babies, which is think is really important.  So if you do it, it is not just for you, you know...he will benefit as well.  Do it!

Now that sounds ideal! Who actually does a MDO? Like a church, school or daycare? Thank you for the encouraging words! Ive been struggling with this for sometime and being away from home, its changed things.
Karm I'm going to check with my new pedi office and see what they say! Thanks!

StokedWifey · July 2013

I'm at work for 4 hours and intend to spend the whole time making my 1 year photobook. I made the decision to come back to work until we sell our house and move, but I have no desire to work. I basically do exactly what has to be done and no more. Nothing has to be done today, so nothing will be done.

mandiek72512 · July 2013

MissMusic:
StokedWifey:
I agree with karm.  I don't know a single SAHM IRL that doesn't do a mom's day out or babysitting swap.  You need time for yourself and it's good for Rylan too.  He'll learn from different people and will get time being with other kids, which is so, so important. 
Totally  this.
stephaniefine:
I found something she likes: the Avengers!

Well duh, Joss Whedon...!

I guess I am so worried about what other people will think. I know so many working moms who would love to stay home and I feel like Im not doing this SAH thing very well. Im looking into it today for sure!

mandiek72512 · July 2013

hibiscus29:
mandiek72512:
hibiscus29:
mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.
I am absolutely enrolling Addie in a Mother's Day out program.  I just haven't decided if I want her to start at a year and a half or two years.  They fill up quickly around here, though, so I need to get the ball rolling.  Everyone needs a break now and then, and if you are nowhere near family who can help out, mother's day out is perfect.  The one I am looking at is two days a week from 9 until 1.  It also gives the babies a chance to be around other babies, which is think is really important.  So if you do it, it is not just for you, you know...he will benefit as well.  Do it!

Now that sounds ideal! Who actually does a MDO? Like a church, school or daycare? Thank you for the encouraging words! Ive been struggling with this for sometime and being away from home, its changed things.
Karm I'm going to check with my new pedi office and see what they say! Thanks!
I think most of the programs around here are church based, but I do know of at least one preschool that does it.  I just googled "mother's day out denton" and several options popped up.  See if you can find a few that way.  Also, if your town has a family magazine publication (we pick ours up at the local library) there are usually tons of listings for different activities and programs in those. Good luck!

I just found one at a church that is less than a mile from my house! I just emailed them so hopefully I'll get some information soon!

mandiek72512 · July 2013

MissMusic:
JennMM:
MissMusic:
I hate fireworks.  They are a nuisance: loud, producing a ton of smoke, and dangerous.  They are only amusing for about 10 sec.  If you can't be bothered to stop using the ones that squeal or sound like a cannon after 10pm, I don't care what holiday it is, I'm calling the cops on your discourteous a$$.

This! I really only enjoy fireworks at large events or theme parks. I am not the least bit impressed or amused by people setting them off in my neighborhood until 11 at night. It pisses me off irrationally.
I also love picking up the trash in my yard afterward, don't you?!  People set off the f%^)*g bottle rockets, it makes a LOUD squeal, and of course the rocket ends up in YOUR yard. I have to find them before the dogs do, you know?

Id like to borrow your airhorn and run through my neighborhood at 2am since they were STILL popping fireworks when Rylan woke up. Aholes.

mandiek72512 · July 2013

jfresh:
Mandie I can't wait to get Oliver into a Mother's Day out program. And I'm only home with him 4 and a half days! It's a great opportunity for them to learn to play with others and work on social skills. And they have fun!

Thats my thoughts! I think if we have sometime away from.each other, I'll be a better mom, if that makes sense. At first I was worried about him catching every sickness that came through their doors but now that he eats grass, bugs and God knows what else, my germaphobic ways have calmed down! Ha!

Even if its just one day a week it will be nice. I could focus on cleaning or me time and then the time I spend with Oliver that day is more focused on him, KWIM?

BransonsBecca · July 2013

L was up for THREE hours this morning. I've gotten about 15 of sleep over the past 3 nights. I'm over this 3 months of sleep regression and separation anxiety. I'm so over it, I maybe have said 5 sentences to L this morning. I know it probably isn't her fault but I can't help but feel irritated with her.

nesenotes · July 2013

mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.

Don't feel bad. I get frustrated spending 12 hours a day every day of my life with the critter. As a matter of fact my FFC was going to be my BIL and SIL who both work full time and overtime and go to the gym daily, yet proclaim they need a break from their kids at least one day and night a week. Sometimes they will leave the kids two. I must be a little jealous because MIL won't even offer to keel her for two hours so maybe I could have a second alone. But for her daughter... she needs breaks! Whatever! That's a good idea BTW.

mandiek72512 · July 2013

nesenotes:
mandiek72512:
Im considering looking into sending Rylan to some sort of daycare or play group at least once a week. Im getting frustrated being with him all day everyday. I think he also needs a break from me. He just whines aaaaallllll day long. When DH is home, its better but hes home once sometimes twice a week. I feel like a terrible mother and person because I choose to be a SAHMand here I am wanting a break. It was a little easier when my mom would watch him every couple of weeks plus DH was home a little more. Ugh. I'll probably never do it for the pure fear of being judged.

Don't feel bad. I get frustrated spending 12 hours a day every day of my life with the critter. As a matter of fact my FFC was going to be my BIL and SIL who both work full time and overtime and go to the gym daily, yet proclaim they need a break from their kids at least one day and night a week. Sometimes they will leave the kids two. I must be a little jealous because MIL won't even offer to keel her for two hours so maybe I could have a second alone. But for her daughter... she needs breaks! Whatever! That's a good idea BTW.

My SIL is the same way. As a matter of fact, MIL keeps her kid just so she can run to town. Her kids are NEVER with her but she is always so tired and exhausted because shes a mom. As a matter of fact, her oldest was with MIL all last weekend.. now she is with her other grandmother.. since Monday!! Her bday party is tomorrow and they are just going to bring her back then. Insane!

JustcallmeGG2 · July 2013

It wasn't even 10 am and Sydney fell off the bed in the hotel and threw a tic tac container down an elevator shaft. She was holding it in the stroller and threw it when the doors opened.

Poor girl is definitely gonna have s bruise on her leg, but she's ok.

I miss my child friendly home.

Mother of the year today.

nesenotes · July 2013

andreab7412:
zpanjwani:
andreab7412:
I also hate fireworks always have. I am so glad I no longer work trauma ortho and have to deal with people blowinblowing off. If we don't start to get more sleep or I don't start to get more help we will be divorced by years end. I will be looking into mom's day out. I stay home 5 days a week, work 2 12 hour shifts the other two days and do all the cleaning, bills, laundry, shopping, and cooking alone. On top of it all I have a '' high needs baby'' H needs to step it up. He is a great dad but a shitty partner. He wonders why we don't have sexy time? Because you don't help at all and I resent you!
I'm so sorry about what you're going through.  Have you had a 'come to Jesus' talk with H about it all?  I'm sure you have, but he may not realize how tough he is until you go on a girl's weekend and he has to watch LO for a few days.  Have you tried that?  Hugs, I hope he sees the light.

Thanks. H is married to work and work always comes first. If I plan anything I have to have a babysitter because he is always on call. I can't even make a massage appointment because he usually will end up working and I will have to cancel. He said he will '' try'' which means he will change for two weeks.

I have no advice just commiseration. This is my H as well. It gets old quick.

Boing214 · July 2013

I guess this sounds like it's more of an UO, but I love fireworks. Embarrassed

I love watching the shows, I love shooting them off, but my parents were always very strict about it. We would always have the hose right by us, along with a bucket of water, shoot them off in the middle of the street so they were away from everyone, we stopped by 10, and got as much of it cleaned up that night as possible and came out the next morning to get everything else. Along with anyone else's that ended up on our lawn. Right now the town we live in doesn't allow fireworks (Although some still do it since there's a fireworks shop just down the highway), so I miss doing this and try to go visit my parents on July 4th. We didn't this year because my cousin was sick and is visiting my family.

cwm11985 · July 2013

hi jinx:
kimmer1412:
Yesterday I took Shayne swimming, he had his UV protective shirt on but it was short sleeve, we were only going in for about 15 minutes and I didn't think I needed to apply sunscreen....of course I noticed last night while giving him a bath that his little arms got a little burnt....womp womp....MOTY right here.
I'll raise you. I've been applying sunscreen to Liam when we go outdoors, but apparently I haven't been doing that great of a job. I just realized last week that his legs are tan. Tan! My baby has tan legs. Gah, that's terrible. Also terrible, I'm a little jealous because I do not tan anywhere near that easily.

We are in the same boat. I apply spf50 to him religiously and he is tan! TAN! I'm not even tan.!! argh!

nesenotes · July 2013

Even though it was absolutely awful when Emery was throwing up two days ago, it was the first time she ever really wanted ME. It was so nice holding and cuddling and stroking her hair for an hour. The second she felt better she bolted out of my arms. I wish I got more cuddles. She is way nicer to my sister than me :[

StokedWifey · July 2013

mandiek72512:
MissMusic:
StokedWifey:
I agree with karm. I don't know a single SAHM IRL that doesn't do a mom's day out or babysitting swap. You need time for yourself and it's good for Rylan too. He'll learn from different people and will get time being with other kids, which is so, so important.
Totally this.
stephaniefine:
I found something she likes: the Avengers!

Well duh, Joss Whedon...!
I guess I am so worried about what other people will think. I know so many working moms who would love to stay home and I feel like Im not doing this SAH thing very well. Im looking into it today for sure!

I'm a working mom and still feel like I need a break, so I can imagine it's multiplied for SAHMs.

nesenotes · July 2013

cpasley:
I guess this sounds like it's more of an UO, but I love fireworks. [:]nbsp;I love watching the shows, I love shooting them off, but my parents were always very strict about it. We would always have the hose right by us, along with a bucket of water, shoot them off in the middle of the street so they were away from everyone, we stopped by 10, and got as much of it cleaned up that night as possible and came out the next morning to get everything else. Along with anyone else's that ended up on our lawn. Right now the town we live in doesn't allow fireworks Although some still do it since there's a fireworks shop just down the highway, so I miss doing this and try to go visit my parents on July 4th. We didn't this year because my cousin was sick and is visiting my family.

You would love my hood. I kid you not, every neighbor had the mega illegal Disneyland style ones. It was actually kind of nice just sitting outside with my H and watching the show. Surprisingly emery didn't wake up at all. Some were so effing loud you could feel the vibration and car alarms were going off left and right. But it was still fun. I love fireworks.

StokedWifey · July 2013

andreab7412:
I also hate fireworks always have. I am so glad I no longer work trauma ortho and have to deal with people blowinblowing off. If we don't start to get more sleep or I don't start to get more help we will be divorced by years end. I will be looking into mom's day out. I stay home 5 days a week, work 2 12 hour shifts the other two days and do all the cleaning, bills, laundry, shopping, and cooking alone. On top of it all I have a '' high needs baby'' H needs to step it up. He is a great dad but a shitty partner. He wonders why we don't have sexy time? Because you don't help at all and I resent you!

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I was there a few months ago and after blowing up at MH, finally sat him down to talk about it. We sat together and made a check list of the things that HAVE to be done each day and the things that are done weekly. He didn't realize how much I was doing until he saw it in writing. They're little things like washing bottles and taking the dogs out, but little things add up. We went through and chose the tasks we wanted and I made a pretty little sheet to post in our 31 organizer. Each night, we checked off our tasks. If something wasn't done, we couldn't go to bed. It made my life so much easier.

MH used to be so bad that once, when I tested him, a NASTY bowl sat on the counter for ELEVEN DAYS until I finally threatened to kill him if it wasn't taken care of. Now he goes through the house and does a clutter check every night!

elizdg · July 2013

Trixi282:

My FFFC... I'm sitting in the living room with J right now on my iPad bumping while she plays by herself. She's having a fine time and I've barricaded her from leaving the living room with a big box so I don't have to worry about her wandering into the kitchen, bathroom, or our bedroom. She's been so fussy this morning and it's driving me nuts.

this is flame worthy? I do it often! Why mess with a good thing if they're playing well independently?

My husband resealed our marble floors in the kitchen/ dining area. He's been working on it almost every night after work for the past few weeks and sanding the stone by hand with sandpaper. I feel bad because I cannot tell one bit of difference, but he's so proud of it I've just been acting like it looks amazing.

Also, he woke me up in the middle of the night last night and I couldn't go back to sleep for three hours (of course he could). So he got up with Graham, I slept til 10, and now I'm lying on the couch eating a cookie for brunch and he's been playing with Graham all morning.

RTaylor12 · July 2013

This is more of a UO, but whatever.

I get annoyed when I see hard core Bible thumping Christians on my fb news feed using "edited" common phrases with curse words in them. I had a girl last week venting about some company and said they were on her "poop list". Really? Poop list? Either say sh!t list or use a different phrase entirely, because you sound dumb.

mandiek72512 · July 2013

Jessie11LU:
I never put sunscreen on Kendall. I never put it on myself so I really don't even think about putting it on her, luckily, she has my skin and never burns, seriously, I never burn or tan, I just stay white. My FFFC: I feel super bad for all the moms around here that don't get time away from their family. I mean, I love my H and K but I have to get away in order to not kill them JK FBI, I'm not a danger to my family. I sign up for classes all the time and tell H about it after I pay for them so he really can't say no to me going. Plus he plays softball 3 nights per week and goes to the gym on the nights he doesn't play softball, soooooo....it's only fair.

Im jealous!

KarmB · July 2013

MissMusic:
stephaniefine:
JennMM:
MissMusic:
I am going to buy an airhorn this weekend. I will use it when I answer the phone for telemarketers. On Monday we got 11 calls between 1-7pm and we are on the DNC list. They all asked for James, and there is no one here by that name, and the same jerks keep calling.

I may or may not have done this before but with one of those loud safety whistles. It worked wonders.
Tell them James died. Or find the number for a prison. Tell them he murdered someone and lives getting phone calls in prison and give them the forwarding number
Love it!

'''

once I told one that i was having a homebirth and proceeded to fake a contraction

RTaylor12 · July 2013

JodieLyn10:
I'm going to a friend's baby shower this weekend. The host asked on the invitation to bring an unwrapped book in lieu of a card. I wasn't offended. It didn't make me want to RSVP no. I happily bought a book for my friend and her daughter.

I don't see why people have a problem with this. I get that etiquette dictates you can't tell people what to buy you, but I feel like this is an exception. Rarely will you see a baby shower gift without a card, (which to me are a stupid waste of money,) and if people are going to buy a card for $2.99 anyway, it's just as easy to grab a small kid's book. You can get them for even cheaper than that at a used bookstore.

RTaylor12 · July 2013

JodieLyn10:
I'm going to a friend's baby shower this weekend. The host asked on the invitation to bring an unwrapped book in lieu of a card. I wasn't offended. It didn't make me want to RSVP no. I happily bought a book for my friend and her daughter.

I don't see why people have a problem with this. I get that etiquette dictates you can't tell people what to buy you, but I feel like this is an exception. Rarely will you see a baby shower gift without a card, (which to me are a stupid waste of money,) and if people are going to buy a card for $2.99 anyway, it's just as easy to grab a small kid's book. You can get them for even cheaper than that at a used bookstore.

mandiek72512 · July 2013

RTaylor12:
JodieLyn10:
I'm going to a friend's baby shower this weekend.  The host asked on the invitation to bring an unwrapped book in lieu of a card.  I wasn't offended.  It didn't make me want to RSVP no.  I happily bought a book for my friend and her daughter.
I don't see why people have a problem with this. I get that etiquette dictates you can't tell people what to buy you, but I feel like this is an exception. Rarely will you see a baby shower gift without a card, (which to me are a stupid waste of money,) and if people are going to buy a card for $2.99 anyway, it's just as easy to grab a small kid's book. You can get them for even cheaper than that at a used bookstore. 

I had the book instead of a card thing with my shower. Do people find that rude?? I never even thought that!

RTaylor12 · July 2013

mandiek72512:
RTaylor12:
JodieLyn10:
I'm going to a friend's baby shower this weekend. The host asked on the invitation to bring an unwrapped book in lieu of a card. I wasn't offended. It didn't make me want to RSVP no. I happily bought a book for my friend and her daughter.
I don't see why people have a problem with this. I get that etiquette dictates you can't tell people what to buy you, but I feel like this is an exception. Rarely will you see a baby shower gift without a card, (which to me are a stupid waste of money,) and if people are going to buy a card for $2.99 anyway, it's just as easy to grab a small kid's book. You can get them for even cheaper than that at a used bookstore.
I had the book instead of a card thing with my shower. Do people find that rude?? I never even thought that!

Quick, somebody go make an AE and ask the baby shower board if it's ok to do this. Wait for the mass flaming to commence.

nesenotes · July 2013

nellrose:
My child has started refusing all foods this week with the exception of toast and ...yup just toast. Sometimes I can get him to eat a tomato. What a weird kid.

I swear they all must have ESP and communicate with each other. Mine just started this crap. She used to be a human garbage disposal. Would eat everything. Now she is spitting everything out except fruit and crackers. BTW the spitting food out thing is really cute when you are at a restaurant. Its driving me nutz!

Boing214 · July 2013

nesenotes:
nellrose:
My child has started refusing all foods this week with the exception of toast and ...yup just toast. Sometimes I can get him to eat a tomato. What a weird kid.
I swear they all must have ESP and communicate with each other. Mine just started this crap. She used to be a human garbage disposal. Would eat everything. Now she is spitting everything out except fruit and crackers. BTW the spitting food out thing is really cute when you are at a restaurant. Its driving me nutz!

Yup, I think they're all conspiring at this point. We have her putting it in her mouth, chewing a bit, then spitting it out and dropping it on the floor. Right now she'll eat apple sauce and maybe bread with peanut butter. Kids, they're so weird!

ETA: fixed my spelling, ick.

RTaylor12 · July 2013

MissMusic:
kimmer1412:
nesenotes:
nellrose:
My child has started refusing all foods this week with the exception of toast and ...yup just toast. Sometimes I can get him to eat a tomato. What a weird kid.
I swear they all must have ESP and communicate with each other. Mine just started this crap. She used to be a human garbage disposal. Would eat everything. Now she is spitting everything out except fruit and crackers. BTW the spitting food out thing is really cute when you are at a restaurant. Its driving me nutz!
Yup, us too! He used to eating everything, now pretty much nothing. Sigh...these monsters need a manual!
Oh thank god we're not the only ones. She eats a lot of bread & beans, and thats about it. The rest ends up in her hair or on the floor!

Taylor has learned how to "share" and likes to feed the dog. I love that she's so generous but damn it kid, groceries cost money and the dog is already fat!

RTaylor12 · July 2013

Jessie11LU:
I dont think its awful to point out someone is fat or has poor eating habits. I think its worse when someones friends justify poor eating habits and obesity by saying its mean when someone points it out. Nobody wants to be told theyre fat, i get that, but at the same time, for friends to say its ok someone is unhealthy is worse. Thats a shittttty friend if you ask me, but alas, nobody did.

I think this should be true for people who aren't necessarily obese but have "let themselves go" so to speak. For example, I wish someone would have told me when I was pg that my weight wasn't all in my belly. Seriously, why couldn't someone have told me that my face, arms and thighs were ginormous? Maybe I would have put down the soda and not gained 50 lbs. I thought I looked pretty good. smh.

nesenotes · July 2013

Jessie11LU:
I dont think its awful to point out someone is fat or has poor eating habits. I think its worse when someones friends justify poor eating habits and obesity by saying its mean when someone points it out. Nobody wants to be told theyre fat, i get that, but at the same time, for friends to say its ok someone is unhealthy is worse. Thats a shittttty friend if you ask me, but alas, nobody did.

I dont know if you are referring to last week or not, because I dont have a crystal ball, but I have to respectfully disagree. I dont think calling someone out on a sensitive topic and possibly publicly humiliating them is the way to go. Unless they have made a choice to change their habits its no one's business but their own what they do to themselves. We can voice concern and decide if we would like to stay in their lives, but public humiliation isnt very friendly either. And how do you know concerns havent been voiced? Just because its not on a forum doesnt mean it hasnt happened.

KarmB · July 2013

Jessie11LU:
I dont think its awful to point out someone is fat or has poor eating habits. I think its worse when someones friends justify poor eating habits and obesity by saying its mean when someone points it out. Nobody wants to be told theyre fat, i get that, but at the same time, for friends to say its ok someone is unhealthy is worse. Thats a shittttty friend if you ask me, but alas, nobody did.

Ill be sure to tread around my bulimic friend carefully and get them help. I think it'd be worse on them to out right say they have issues to their face. Be a little for gentle would be nicer.

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