Starting to think I can't do 2 under 2

Sigir · July 2013

I am so frustrated tonight. My dh left me alone to take care of the baby who is one, and my older dc who is 8. The baby would not go to sleep and I had to help my older dc with something so the house is in chaos, no one is asleep and I am exhausted and about to cry after working all day.

I feel so upset bc tonight makes me think, how am I going to manage two under two without losing my mind, my job or my marriage? I feel like I may have made a big mistake. Hopefully this is only exhaustion speaking but I am so upset and feel like I can't do this anymore. I guess I just have to take it minute by minute but I am feeling so overwhelmed.

Mobile sad face.

BellaElla79 · July 2013

I have a one year old and I have days where I think "wtf have I done". It sounds like a pretty rough day for you. It also sounds like something chocolate is in order. Feel better. It won't be like this forever. Remember it's a marathon. Hugs.

MurMom1028 · July 2013

It is an exhausting thought and I have had the same doubts as you. You are not crazy! I try, even with just one now, to remember to take it one day at a time. As long as the kids are fed and alive, everything else can wait for another day! Plus it will be easier hen you are not pregnant too! Hang in there

KFiori1 · July 2013

There are days where my 4 and 2 year old drive me absolutely nuts and I just think "How am I going to handle 3??" I think many of us feel that way. Hang in there, hope you get some sleep tonight and feel better in the morning.

mestills · July 2013

Just take it one day at a time. Remember that it won't always be like this, it will get better.

MsCat19 · July 2013

You need to get your 8 year old to help a bit - trust me. I have my 9 year old help all the time. I don't know what I would do with out her sometimes. I don't overload her or give her anything that is outside her skill set, but sometimes just playing with the baby while I do something is all I need. We'll get through! ((hugs))

watercolor5 · July 2013

I'm right there with you when it comes to feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of 2u2. DD is going to be 15 months when this baby is born, and she is not an easy baby, esp when it comes to sleeping. I know I'll get exhausted and be at the end of my rope and feel like I'm dropping the ball, but I also know I'll have good days and I'll do a good job raising my kids because they're my kids and I don't really have a choice but to do well by them. I think all we can do is our best, and search out any help we can get, esp from other moms and our husbands. But yeah, I'm already overwhelmed at the thought.

jmb527 · July 2013

I am so sorry you're having a rough night! Just know it won't always be like this, and we all have days where everything seems to just suck. I have just one child and she'll be 3 when LO is born, and I think the same thing, how will I be able to do it?

Hang in there, they will sleep eventually and housework can wait. Kick your feet up and relax when you can. ::hugs::

leahraewku · July 2013

I totally had one of these days today too! Hang in there! I hope tomorrow is better for you.

aundrea1225 · July 2013

I had a crazy day too. So I had a big bowl of ice cream

brownie2181 · July 2013

I'm sorry your having a rough night. I hope you get some rest tonight and that tomorrow is a better day.

Joy+BabyNumber3 · July 2013

Honestly, everything went so much smoother than I thought it would. I was so scared, too, but in the end, we were making it day by day, just barely, but getting there. My first was just that little bit older by the time the baby arrived, and then more understanding. It all worked out. She was a very hard baby, so in many ways, it ended up being EASIER with my textbook second baby and my toddler who was independent and involved.

Plus babies sleep a lot, so that's the time you spend with the toddler. It totally works out, and you just ramp up the time together/split as the baby gets older. It really was okay, much to my surprise.

KFED103 · July 2013

Sorry your having a rough night. You must be exhausted. Hopefully a decent night sleep is in your future and tomorrow will be better...it usually is :]

okate0213 · July 2013

I'm sorry you are having a rough day, it's so much worse adding pregnancy and being exhausted from the day together.

2U2 is pretty hard at times, but those moments don't last long, I found having a baby and a toddler much easier than being pregnant with a toddler. Hang in there, it will be fine. Guess it wasn't too bad, since I'm doing it again!

Sigir · July 2013

Thanks for your support everyone... And you were right ice cream and tv time did help. I guess one day at a time will be my motto for a while. Thanks for all the good ideas and thoughts!!!

erin3215 · July 2013

When I was 7 months pregnant with my 3rd child, my twin boys were 20 months old. They had just begun climbing out of their cribs and getting into *everything* in their room; spreading vaseline all over the furniture and walls, pushing their cribs up against the door, tearing all of their clothes out of their drawers and throwing them around the room, it was crazy! On top of this, they had just "discovered" how to undress, and loved to do so, even taking their diapers off. It was not pretty! I took to duct-taping their diapers on. At first we started with just little pieces on the tabs, but they soon took to helping each other get them off! I ended up having to actually wrap duct tape around their waists to keep them on. Needless to say I was freaking out a bit about adding another to the mix! Honestly, though, they got over that phase in a hurry (thank God!) and once the baby came, it wasn't nearly as bad. Hang in there. There will be rough days, but you will get through!

zou bisou · July 2013

Feeling better today? Nights like that are very long. Hope you got loves from your little one today.

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