With the bellies getting bigger every day have you ladies found any positions that are more comfortable than others? Or have things just come to a complete stop?
We've found other positions that work well for MH still, but haven't had too much luck on my part. I would, however, highly recommend a kama sutra book for inspiration. Got ours on amazon and LOVE it. Plus it's cartoons, so if LO comes across it, it's not like their finding a porno.
On top or from behind, mostly. Although (TMI here) honestly, half the time I'm not really in the mood and would rather just give him a BJ, which he doesn't mind at ALL.
We actually dtd last night for the first time in like EVER and it hurt me to even open legs thanks to my wonderful SPD. I have a feeling anything else until LO gets here will be doggie. I wouldn't dare try to get on top.
Okay maybe TMI but I like sitting on the edge of the bed and him kneeling in front of me. That's been the most enjoyable position when we DO get around to having sex. Lately its been hard to get in the mood because LO's kicking and I'm worried about going into labor probably won't happen but I still worry.
Sadly haven't had sex in over 2 months. He claims its different and weird. Imagine how one would feel hearing that. Also he is never home bc his mom has turned him into her chauffeur.
I am curious about any other ladies...when im on top, I end up overusing my ab muscles and getting crampy. I guess I automatically use my lower abs on top and cant seem to break myself of the habit?? Other than that, mostly from behind.. sometimes him on top if a pilllows under my back but hes gotta be quick! Haha I actually always hope hes quick now which I hate!
We've only had sex like 2 or 3 times this pregnancy. 1st tri I felt way too crappy. We tried doggy, but it felt like we were preforming a chore, neither of us were that into it b.c baby's presence just creeped us out.
wow, sounds like i'm the odd one out...our sex life has actually increased - (tmi - last week 8 times in 4 days!!!) And the really weird part is that i don't actually feel all that horny! lol, My husband is working crazy hours and just happens to come home around nap time...i guess we both figure it's not going to be part of our lives for awhile, so even if i'm not really in the mood to begin, i kinda feel like he deserves it since he is working so hard so i can stay home...we also have a deal where i get back rubs (which i love) in exchange for bjs...kinda weird maybe, but sometime's i'm into it just for the backrub at first! By the end though i' usually having a great time;) As far as positions, doggie has been a favorite, partly because he can still rub my back!!!
I am curious about any other ladies...when im on top, I end up overusing my ab muscles and getting crampy. I guess I automatically use my lower abs on top and cant seem to break myself of the habit?? Other than that, mostly from behind.. sometimes him on top if a pilllows under my back but hes gotta be quick! Haha I actually always hope hes quick now which I hate!
What are ab muscles?? haha.
If sex ever felt like a chore or if it were something that I wasn't comfortable with, we definitely wouldn't do it. In the second tri, I had next to no desire for a couple months and DH was very understanding - we did other things. Now that we are getting closer to delivery, I'm inclined to have sex more frequently knowing that once the baby comes it will be awhile due to healing, tiredness, and the inevitable body issues I'll have. Maybe it's my form of nesting. Kidding, kidding.
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wow, sounds like i'm the odd one out...our sex life has actually increased tmi last week 8 times in 4 days!!! And the really weird part is that i don't actually feel all that horny! lol, My husband is working crazy hours and just happens to come home around nap time...i guess we both figure it's not going to be part of our lives for awhile, so even if i'm not really in the mood to begin, i kinda feel like he deserves it since he is working so hard so i can stay home...we also have a deal where i get back rubs which i love in exchange for bjs...kinda weird maybe, but sometime's i'm into it just for the backrub at first! By the end though i' usually having a great time; As far as positions, doggie has been a favorite, partly because he can still rub my back!!!
wow, sounds like i'm the odd one out...our sex life has actually increased tmi last week 8 times in 4 days!!! And the really weird part is that i don't actually feel all that horny! lol, My husband is working crazy hours and just happens to come home around nap time...i guess we both figure it's not going to be part of our lives for awhile, so even if i'm not really in the mood to begin, i kinda feel like he deserves it since he is working so hard so i can stay home...we also have a deal where i get back rubs which i love in exchange for bjs...kinda weird maybe, but sometime's i'm into it just for the backrub at first! By the end though i' usually having a great time; As far as positions, doggie has been a favorite, partly because he can still rub my back!!!
I feel bad because I know FI's "drive" hasn't changed, but mine definitely has. Last time we tried, I started having extremely uncomfortable BH. I was honestly just hoping that it'd be done soon, then I ended up awake for the next 4 hours trying to get my pain to stop... Definitely not worth it!
On top or from behind, mostly. Although TMI here honestly, half the time I'm not really in the mood and would rather just give him a BJ, which he doesn't mind at ALL. [:]
I am curious about any other ladies...when im on top, I end up overusing my ab muscles and getting crampy. I guess I automatically use my lower abs on top and cant seem to break myself of the habit?? Other than that, mostly from behind.. sometimes him on top if a pilllows under my back but hes gotta be quick! Haha I actually always hope hes quick now which I hate!
This happened to me the other day. Things were just awkward and not working and decided to try going on top. I'm really short so my belly was getting in the way and my legs weren't reaching both sides so I was really using my muscles to balance. I woke up the next morning with the worst stomach cramps. It was really painful and won't be doing that anymore.
Him on top with pillows under me propping me up is the only position that works. Tried from behind and I couldn't walk because of SPD.
Arghhh cannot wait for a normal sex life and feel somewhat attractive lol
Now I feel like a weirdo. My libido has been crazy high since the beginning of second tri (it was just normal in first tri) - poor DH doesn't really know what to make of it since his drive is usually higher than mine. We are still doing it 2-3 times a week (it would be more like 3-4 if I had my way), though we are definitely limited in position options - from the back or side is best or with me on top (though not for very long - I'm just too awkward!). I figure I better get some now before I'm on a 6-week (or more) hiatus after LO arrives!
Mostly me on top [haven't figured out any other way to get my jollies in any other position], but its getting harder with belly in the way. Its maddening!
Me on my back over the edge of the bed works, same with doggie. Other than that, we're pretty limited.
On top or from behind, mostly. Although (TMI here) honestly, half the time I'm not really in the mood and would rather just give him a BJ, which he doesn't mind at ALL.
I would prefer to give him a BJ instead of getting stuck on my back, but it makes me pukey
Now I feel like a weirdo. My libido has been crazy high since the beginning of second tri (it was just normal in first tri) - poor DH doesn't really know what to make of it since his drive is usually higher than mine. We are still doing it 2-3 times a week (it would be more like 3-4 if I had my way), though we are definitely limited in position options - from the back or side is best or with me on top (though not for very long - I'm just too awkward!). I figure I better get some now before I'm on a 6-week (or more) hiatus after LO arrives!
My libido is high, just my desire to actually have sex is low. lol I'd be so much better if I didn't have to...reciprocate. lol
I am curious about any other ladies...when im on top, I end up overusing my ab muscles and getting crampy. I guess I automatically use my lower abs on top and cant seem to break myself of the habit?? Other than that, mostly from behind.. sometimes him on top if a pilllows under my back but hes gotta be quick! Haha I actually always hope hes quick now which I hate!
This happened to me the other day. Things were just awkward and not working and decided to try going on top. I'm really short so my belly was getting in the way and my legs weren't reaching both sides so I was really using my muscles to balance. I woke up the next morning with the worst stomach cramps. It was really painful and won't be doing that anymore.
Him on top with pillows under me propping me up is the only position that works. Tried from behind and I couldn't walk because of SPD.
Arghhh cannot wait for a normal sex life and feel somewhat attractive lol
Yeah I had cramps/BHs for HOURS after 1 time on top, and then ended up doing the same after sex in the pool (TMI!)..the water helped him hold me up to do some "new" positions, but apparently I still used my abs to "help"... haha So I can only be on top now for a short time, doing very little "work".. side sex works quite well too.
Oh and I agree with some PP, I feel like a whale any way!! He does his best to make me feel sexy, but having a huge gut bumping into him or wherever just makes me feel fat. :-P
I also want to do BJs more for him (he's hinted a lot too, since our amount of sex has gone down the past month or 2!), but with my acid reflux, it has to be at just the right time of day, otherwise it just makes it worse, which I can't stand!
Not too much more time ladies!! (ugh, but then 6 weeks healing... hmm...)
MH feels too nervous for actual penetration. I'm not on pelvic rest, but he seems convinced it will start my labor. I'm not too upset. I'm super uncomfortable. Plus, every single time we start fooling around, LO starts kicking. That ruins it for me.
We haven't in AWHILE. My drive is super high, but my DH isn't. Plus it's hard to feel attractive when your boobs are leaking and your hubs isa boob man. :-/
I find being on top or doggie style but at this point dh and I talked and I am just to in comfortable to have sex and he understand even though I really want to as well as we both want to stay away from causing labor
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Me on top or from behind.
This is me too.
"Are you done yet?" "Hurry up, this isn't working!" Good thing his mood isn't easily ruined. lol
This made me LOL. I have thought about telling him this but I feel bad cause we only do it about once every couple of weeks.
We've found other positions that work well for MH still, but haven't had too much luck on my part. I would, however, highly recommend a kama sutra book for inspiration. Got ours on amazon and LOVE it. Plus it's cartoons, so if LO comes across it, it's not like their finding a porno.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1588169715/ref=oh_details_o06_s00_i01?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Same here.
Ditto. Although its becoming less and less as the weeks go on.
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
What are ab muscles?? haha.
If sex ever felt like a chore or if it were something that I wasn't comfortable with, we definitely wouldn't do it. In the second tri, I had next to no desire for a couple months and DH was very understanding - we did other things. Now that we are getting closer to delivery, I'm inclined to have sex more frequently knowing that once the baby comes it will be awhile due to healing, tiredness, and the inevitable body issues I'll have. Maybe it's my form of nesting. Kidding, kidding.
lol this sums it up. I'm still comfortable with him on top but he lasts longer and 99 percent of the time, the quicker the better.
It's been so long, DH just isn't interested.
This is us too.
This is us too.
this. doctor told us a while ago it was a no go. gotta love cervical issues
Haha, this! We haven't had sex since we conceived!!!! Hubby is too scared it'll "poke" the baby lol
Yup. Same here. It's faster and not as much work!
This happened to me the other day. Things were just awkward and not working and decided to try going on top. I'm really short so my belly was getting in the way and my legs weren't reaching both sides so I was really using my muscles to balance. I woke up the next morning with the worst stomach cramps. It was really painful and won't be doing that anymore.
Him on top with pillows under me propping me up is the only position that works. Tried from behind and I couldn't walk because of SPD.
Arghhh cannot wait for a normal sex life and feel somewhat attractive lol
This!!
This! My thoughts exactly!
Me on my back over the edge of the bed works, same with doggie. Other than that, we're pretty limited.
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yup, pretty much this. But we end up giggling through the first half while I awkwardly try to find a comfortable position.
Yeah I had cramps/BHs for HOURS after 1 time on top, and then ended up doing the same after sex in the pool (TMI!)..the water helped him hold me up to do some "new" positions, but apparently I still used my abs to "help"... haha So I can only be on top now for a short time, doing very little "work".. side sex works quite well too.
Oh and I agree with some PP, I feel like a whale any way!! He does his best to make me feel sexy, but having a huge gut bumping into him or wherever just makes me feel fat. :-P
I also want to do BJs more for him (he's hinted a lot too, since our amount of sex has gone down the past month or 2!), but with my acid reflux, it has to be at just the right time of day, otherwise it just makes it worse, which I can't stand!
Not too much more time ladies!! (ugh, but then 6 weeks healing... hmm...)
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