Birthday Etiquette - New mom with a question.

singingirl96 · June 2013

Hi. My son (1yr old) was invited to a 4yr old's party (his friend from daycare, so I know the mother in passing). It's at one of those gym/bouncy house places. Since my son doesn't walk, I don't think he'll get much out of it, plus it is kinda far, smack in the middle of the day, yada yada yada... we don't really want to go.

So here is my question, do we still buy her a gift? What is the birthday etiquette for kids b-day parties. Since I'm a new mom, this is a new concept to me. Thanks!

I should add that I did not invite any of the daycare kids to his b-day party (in 2 weeks, yikes).

bumpuser260585 · June 2013

I wouldn't go to the party and probably wouldn't buy a gift either. If it was a kid that was in the same daycare classroom, maybe, but not for a kid in a different room. If you really want to get something, maybe some new crayons and coloring book or something else small.

karen_loy · July 2013

If you don't go I'd just get him something small (playdoh set, activity book + markers, sticker book...) and give it to him at daycare

EastCoastBride · July 2013

For daycare or preschool parties, if we don't go, I don't give a gift.

However, in our neighborhood where the families really are more our friends, I do buy a gift no matter what.

And it's o.k. that you didn't invite everyone. This is NOT a requirement. Some people do, some don't. Do what works for you. Especially w/ that kind of age range!

Last year, out of DSs entire preschool class (9 kids), we were only invited to one party.

danieliza1127 · July 2013

If you aren't going and they aren't close friends, I would not give a gift.

BootsyLou · July 2013

I probably wouldn't buy a gift unless we were good friends outside of just daycare.

melody921 · July 2013

In this case, if I didn't go, I wouldn't buy a gift. For close friends' kids, I get a bday gift whether there's a party or not. But not for a daycare buddy.

singingirl96 · July 2013

Thanks for the input. No gift it is!

blu-eyedwife · July 2013

Laurendag:
Lurking but sounds a little gift grabby to me. Unless you have other older children in the same daycare there was really no reason for her to invite your LO. She should know that a 1yo wouldn't have anything to do at a bounce house party.nbsp;

I'm thinking it was an inhome care with a range of ages and all were invited so no one would feel left out.

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