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August 2013 Moms
WheeLinTheSky3
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my opinion on drive by posts
WheeLinTheSky3
member
mobile: my opinion on drive by posts
::this is 100% my opinion, but I think it follows the sentiment of how most feel about drive by posting::
Imagine you joined a moms group In real life (IRL). Over a period of time you got to know the ladies and formed friendships. You have shared advice, recipes, setbacks, triumphs, frustrations, your sex life, fears and many laughs. Now imagine your group goes out to lunch every Wednesday and as you are all sitting around the table each week, random people that you don?t know keep coming up to your table to ask ?what?s your favorite freezer meal??, ?what would you do if your DH was acting this way?, and once they have their answer, they walk away until they have another question. Wouldn?t that be odd/irritating? In your group you would be happy to welcome new members who want to contribute at any point, but not the random person walking by asking a random question and then disappearing again.
This is the same thing for the board. A lot of us have been here from the beginning, but a lot have not and either scenario is fine. I don?t think it matters if you joined in at 4 weeks or 34 weeks but if you want to be a part of the ?group? don?t just drop in to use the group as Google and the disappear again. If you don?t have time to contribute, then you cannot expect everyone to be so excited for you or so supportive if they have no clue who you are.
Intros are great but make sure to actually post so that we get to ?know? who you are. I?m not going to remember your intro but if you?re posting weekly then I will get to ?know? you through your opinions, advice, own story, and amazing .gifs.
This post will not keep out the crazy and the AEs later on but just wanted to put this out there before the drive by posts really ramp up. Until then, welcome and please post?it keeps the board interesting. If not, I?m happy to watch the .gif bombings as well.
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Re: my opinion on drive by posts
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
Well said!
I totally agree.
I salute you.
I've learned a lot from all of you on this board and whoever complains about you all are way too sensitive.
Just wanted to let you all know
Very well said!
Welcome. FWIW, I dont have a problem with lurkers at all. I was one on my BMB in July 2011. I didnt have the time/desire to be active at that point and just lurked for advice/fun. I didn't share a birth story or anything similar there because I would have been the random drop in with an AW post.
The lurkers that post "I had my baby, aren't you all so excited for me?!" or "my life sucks right now, feel sorry for me!" are what I am talking about because the response amongst the regulars is "who are you? congrats/I'm sorry?" and the OP gets upset.
Tons. Because those stopping in just to post a question aren't sitting here reading the posts each day and have no idea what they're doing is annoying as sh!t. Posts like these? Not that I disagree with the sentiment, but they're not doing a thing to prevent the drive-bys. For many people on the internet a message board is just that- a message board.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
Nora Grace Due 12/26/2016
Two Angel Babies
07/03/2012
08/08/2015
"If you're still my small babe
or you're all the way grown,
my promise to you
is you're never alone.
You are my angel, my darling,
my star...and my love will find you,
wherever you are."
Agreed!
agreed. Im not really looking to change anything, just more of an opinion post.
LOL! 3 it ;]
It would be awesome if we could make this a sticky
If I could drink to this I would!!
instead:
Hahaha! Was just thinking this.
I feel this way. I try to post when I have something relevant to add but mostly enjoy reading. I was kind of worried that you ladies would not accept my infrequent posts so I don't always add what I think. I really love these posts though, and love you ladies !
I absolutely understand where you are coming from with this and mostly agree.
Honestly in just my personal opinion, in real life if someone came up to me and asked a question (happens at stores all the time actually) I would just answer and move on. I don't lose anything and I certainly wouldn't say "umm..and you are?" OR if some woman saw that I also had a baby and came up and shared her birth story with me I would just congratulate her, tell her how cute her baby is and again continue on. Nothing would be taken away from me or my day by doing so. I really try to act online how I would act in real life, and that's what I would do.
I definitely should have waited for Thursday for this one
ETA: I absolutely understood when I was on TTGP how hurtful the BFP drive bys were but here we are all having babies in August (or July or September).
DH: 37
Married: May 24, 2008
TTC #2 since: June 2020
I am in the same boat. I really enjoy all of y'all and I try to chime in when I can but being a FTM and this sort of thing I feel like I may not have as much to offer. I do like to participate when I feel like I can and definitely enjoy you ladies and definitely the gif posts! They make my day!
Anyway.. Just wanted to say that. Thanks!
I'm totally the same way. I really enjoy lurking and giving my input when I think it could benefit the post but sometimes I'm uncomfortable posting because I'm not a very vocal person to start out around any group (IRL too) and at this point am worried I'd just get the "who the heck is she?" side eye. Any suggestions for those that wish to participate more but are reluctant to do so?
Engaged 10/2/1202
BFP (a lil quicker than expected) 12/7/2012
Married to my best friend 12/24/2012
Beautiful baby girl arrived 8/15/2013
BFP #2 3/13/2016
Just do it. And then do it some more
Slow and steady yo.
Yeah, if some random chick walked up to me and started rambling about her labor and delivery while showing me dozens of baby photos I'd side eye and back away slowly because you don't want to set off the crazy. If I could gif IRL I totally would.
I soooo wish I could gif in real life. Someday, someday...
Unless I was in a hurry it wouldn't bother me, but that's how I am. I don't easily get riled up/irritated by things, especially when I could just be kind and move on.
I've gotten tons of people coming up to me while pregnant telling me about their pregnancies and asking questions.
DH: 37
Married: May 24, 2008
TTC #2 since: June 2020