Before I started to post here, I wanted to make sure it was ok. I was asked to leave by another website and I don't want to upset or step on anyone's toes here so I thought I would share my story and make sure it is appropriate for me to stick around.
My name is Zoey and my husband and I were devastated when we found out our son had anencephaly. It was our first pregnancy and everything seemed to be going smoothly. After we found out that our baby boy had anencephaly which is a neural tube defect resulting in a large part of the brain being missing we came to the agonizing decision to terminate the pregnancy.
It has been one year now since we said goodbye to Raleigh and we are staring to try again. We miss him everyday and it has been an incredibly hard year. This decision to try again has also been very hard and that is why I have been searching for support as we begin the journey again.
I would love to get and give support here if you will have me. Like I said, I don't want to make people uncomfortable so please, just let me know if you would rather I not stick around.
Re: Intro and A Question
Zoey, so sorry for your loss and that you were faced with that difficult decision. ((Hugs)). Welcome to TB. I can't speak for all, but I have no issue with you being here. Again, so sorry you find yourself here.
married my best friend 10/04/08, TTC since July 2012
BFP#1 Thanksgiving 11/22/12, mo-mo twins(one sac), traditional EDD 7/27/13, EDD due to risk 6/15/13
mmc Angel 2/7/13 @ 15w3d, mmc Aubrey 2/13/13 @ 16w2d, D&E 2/16/13
BFP#2 9/21/13, EDD 6/2/14, DD born 5/17/14
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Are you saying that you were asked to leave a website because your loss made people uncomfortable?
I am very, very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. This is a tremendous community for those that give the kind of support they want to receive and there are women here who have had to go through similarly agonizing decisions. There is a blog at the top of the page that you might want to check out, it can give you a sense of board culture, frequently asked questions, etc. Big (((hugs))) to you.
BFP #1, 3/12, EDD 11/9/12, MMC 3/27/12, D&C 4/10/12
BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until August 2013
IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN
BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014 Please stick and grow, LO!
Additional Dx: hypothyroidism, TgAb positive & anti-TPO positive, POR/DOR (2/2013), and suspected endometriosis
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I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in.
Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.
I am very, very sorry that you had to face that and it makes me angry and deeply sad on your behalf. No one has any right to judge that decision and I don't think you will find that here. Welcome, and, again, I am deeply sorry for your loss and all that you have endured.
BFP #1, 3/12, EDD 11/9/12, MMC 3/27/12, D&C 4/10/12
BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until August 2013
IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN
BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014 Please stick and grow, LO!
Additional Dx: hypothyroidism, TgAb positive & anti-TPO positive, POR/DOR (2/2013), and suspected endometriosis
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BFP #1: 6/25/09 EDD 2/13/10 @ 6 weeks- Saw HB @ 9 weeks - DS born 2/11/10 (39w5d)
BFP #2: 2/20/13 EDD 11/4/13 - Saw HB 3/19/13 (7w2d) - MMC discovered 4/13/13 (10w5d) - Est. loss @ 9w3d - D&C 4/14/13
BFP #4: 9/10/14 (3w6d) EDD 5/21/15 - natural MC 9/23/14 @ 5w5d
BFP #5: 11/23/14 (3w3d) EDD 8/4/15 - Please be our Rainbow!
((((hugs))))) I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Raleigh. You will find that this board is an incredibly supportive community and that we are very protective of each other. In the 9 months or so that I have been on TTCAL the largest outpouring of love and support I saw was to one of our members who had to make a decision similar to yours.
Many ((((hugs)))) and I am sorry you were treated that way at the other community.
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**BFP#1 9/5/12 EDD 5/15/13 changed to 5/25/13 after u/s, missed mc 10/19/12. D and C 10/22/12**
BFP 4 10/28/19 EDD 7/6/20
BFP #1: EDD 12.28.12 - MC @ 6w3d | BFP #2: EDD 11.15.13 - D&C @ 12w4d
BFP #3: Superbaby born 4.5.14 | Just When You Least Expect It...
You will find these women to be amazing.
I cannot imagine having to make that decision. Welcome and I am so sorry for your loss and how you were treated on the other board. I hope that you have a short but positive stay here.
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BFP #1 3.16.12. mmc 5.7.12 at 11 weeks ~Avery Cameron~
BFP #2 12.12.12. mmc 1.22.13 at 10 weeks ~Theodore Michael~
D&C #2 Chromosome analysis results: Translocation Trisomy 14
My RPL Testing: Homozygous MTHFR, normal karyotype
DH's karyotype results: Robertsonian Translocation 13:14
BFP #3 9.10.13 mc at 4 weeks~Our little May Flower~
BFP #4 10.13.13- Our Rainbow Baby, a little girl, arrived June 25, 2014!
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You are welcome here. I'm very sorry for your loss. May I ask why the other board asked you to leave?
Edit: You already answered my question.
BFP#1 9/5/12, MMC, MC confirmed 10/9/12,
D&C 12/12/12 BFP#2 7/30/13, EDD 4/12/14, DS born 4/14/14
TTC since March 2012
BFP #1 1/29/13, EDD 10/9/13
BFP #3 8/11/14 EDD 4/22/14
DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
Trying again after losing a child is one of the scariest things you can do, but I hope you can find the support you need.
TTC since April 2012
BFP #1, 10/03/2012 - EDD 6/15/2013 - MMC 11/15/2012 - D&C 01/04/2013
BFP #2, 04/06/2013 - EDD 12/17/2013 - MC 04/19/2013
6/12/2013 Diagnosed with Balanced Translocation (12 & 16)
IVF #1 with PGS: 10/2013: Canceled 9/27/2013 for issues with genetic lab
IVF #1.5 with PGS: 11/16/2013: Canceled. 11 eggs retrieved, 9 mature & 9 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #3 with PGS: 5/10/2014: Switched to FET in July. 10 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized, 2 healthy embryos!
FET #1: 7/31/2014: Transferred 2 nearly perfect (6AA, 6BA) healthy embryos- BFFN
Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus
IVF #4: 12/8/2014: Canceled. 17 eggs retrieved, 15 mature, 10 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
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Oh holy hell. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. OP, your loss is just as much a loss as anyone else's. I am so, so sorry. You are more than welcome here. ((HUGS))
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
I'm sorry for your loss. I hate reading that you weren't previously supported, it makes me angry for you. You are definitely welcome here.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal
5 IUIs = BFN
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First off, I am so so sorry. I know a small portion of what you went through and they were the most pain ridden days of my life. After problems were noted with my baby I knew and my ob suggested that termination for medical reasons was probably the path we were headed down, as the issues seemed to be incompatible with life. Our baby slipped away on its own before we had to make that decision but I lived in that world for 3 days. I am very sorry that anyone made you feel uncomfortable. There are some great resources out there I am going to send you a private message with the resources/info my ob shared with me. I didn't share this part of my story in my intro but just had to reach out with HUGS...
All of this. ((hugs)) and welcome to the board!
BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks
BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
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This is a wonderful community of supportive women who have experienced all types of loss. I hope you will find the same comfort I have hefe. Welcome.
Secondly welcome. Thirdly I hate that those women made you feel bad for your choices. Lord knows its hard enough what you've been through without adding others judgement on top of it all. You are more than welcome to stay. And if you do and support others you will be a cherished member if our board. We root each other on and don't pass judgement for choices beyond our own lives. I want to punch those women who asked you to leave. I'm so so deeply sorry for the loss of your baby boy and that those women are so inconsiderate and hurtful.
Ill tell you right now that is NOT how we do things here!
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BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
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ETA I'm really blind. I read your question wrong. I meant to ask what board it was on which website. I want to make sure I never never venture there.
THE DARK SIDE IT IS
and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
~All AL always welcome~
It is terrible that you were judged by others for your decision. I am very sorry for all the heartache you have experienced. You are welcome to join us.
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TTC #1 since June 2012
Current Status: IVF with ICSI and PGS
Genetic, RPL, SA and Fertility testing = Normal/Good HSG = All Clear
BFP #1 12.30.2012 || Blighted Ovum 02.05.2013 || D&C 02.11.2013
BFP #2 09.10.2013 || c/p 09.12.2013
BFP #3 12.1.2013 || mm/c 01.15.14 || D&C 01.21.14 chromosome abnormality
May 2014: Residual HCG and retained tissue found
05.13.2014: Hysteroscopy D&C to find and remove retained tissue
June 2014: Tissue sample results indicate a partial molar pregnancy
May - Aug 2014: TTA for monitoring and testing
08.21.2014: Hysteroscopy to remove minor scar tissue - the result of 3 D&Cs
Sept/Oct: IUI #1 Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
Oct/Nov: IUI #2 Femara + Ovidrel = BFN
Nov/Dec: IUI #3 Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
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BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13
SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis Unexplained
BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole)
BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole)
Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14
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I am so sorry for your loss of Raleigh. I cannot believe they said that to you. It is of course a loss. You made the best decision for you and your son. No Mother should ever have to make that decision. I go to a support group IRL and there are a few Moms who had to make this decision as well. I'm so sorry you ran into that...not ok at all! (((hugs)))
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BFP# 1 7/7/12 Beautiful DD born still at 36 weeks 5 days on 3/2/13
Diagnosed with PCOS in 2005. Started Metformin July 2013
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This, 100 percent.
Married 9/18/10
TTC 1/1/12
BFP #1 12/13/12 MMC Confirmed 1/30/13
BFP #2 6/17/13, (Clomid+Ovidrel) CP Confirmed 6/26/13
BFP #3 8/14/2013 (Letrozole+IUI) Charlie Grace born 5/2/2014
Laparoscopic surgery 8/15 to remove misplaced IUD
BFP #4, #5, #6 (Letrozole+IUI)all MMC, BFP #7 EDD 1/3/2017
I am so sorry for your loss, what a heartbreaking situation and decision you were faced with. ((HUG)) You are a good and loving mother! You are certainly welcome here. As others have said this is a group of fiercely protective and supportive women.
That is awful, shame on them. It breaks my heart that there are women out there who would feel that way.
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
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