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December 2013 Moms
UO Thursday
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Re: UO Thursday
What if I only eat organic all the time and will still drink the wine? Personally, I feel man made chemicals are far worse than naturally occurring substances like alcohol in wine. But I'm not overly anal for myself, we eat organic/natural for DD.
I have lots, but I'll go with this: I don't plan on dramatically changing my personality once my kid comes (not implying that some of the PPs are going to). I will still curse, get drunk sometimes (when it's responsible, obvi), eat junk food, watch trash TV...not to mention the "good" stuff I do like reading a lot, working out, working hard at my career, being an animal rights fanatic, loving my husband, yadda yadda.
I guess I just want to lead by example, and if my kid grows up with the same habits and values that my husband and I have, I'll be happy. Plus, I think it can be a good thing to curse/drink/behave poorly in front of your kids (wow, typing that out makes it sound bad...obviously all things in moderation, and I'm not someone who gets naked wasted every night or drops the C-word during dinner). I think it removes some of the power and mystique surrounding the behavior, and removes some of the temptation a child might feel to try it out. And I don't want my kids to have some guilt complex because they aren't as perfect as their mother. As long as my behavior is healthy, I don't want to become some bland, prim & proper version of myself for my children. And even the unhealthy stuff, like my anxiety disorder, isn't something I'll hide - I'll just be open about how I work on it in therapy, and make sure they know that it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
It's like you're inside my head, reading my mind. Now if you tell me that you secretly like the smell of dog paws because they smell like Fritos, then we're basically the same person.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
My UO is that this pisses me off. It is like telling somebody who is overweight to just go to the gym. I feel like I do nothing but eat all day. I have no control over what my body is doing with that food, and it's a little stressful when I know I'm supposed to be gaining weight.
I'm not obsessing over it like some posters, and I do think that behavior is unhealthy and should be addressed. But the snide remarks about it being bragplaining are annoying. Quit projecting your own body issues onto somebody else's legit concern.
I dont know if this is a UO or FFC but anytime I see someone use the words "preggers" or "preggo" I immediately think that they are less intelligent and think a little less of them. Not just on the board, but IRL too because really, you are pregnant, what is wrong with the actual word?
Mobile edit: this is in reference to Kate's post about the grandparents... Tried to reply to that specific post but for some reason it isn't showing up that way.
Man! I must have missed the debate. I think people buy them without doing any sort of research, and think that it is just what you're supposed to get. We used them with my daughter but not until she was able to push her self into a push up position. She is an animal in bed and was always coming out of nap time with bruises on her forehead. By that time she was plenty strong, to roll away from the bumper if she rolled into it. A huge plus, I didn't have to move the stupid crib every ten minutes because the paci fell behind it!!
I would take 10 weight posts a day if we could skip all the "It's a.......!!" and "We're team....." posts and posts that nitpick spelling.
DD #2: EDD July 2016
Saying "just eat more" is pretty much the same as telling an overweight person "oh just eat less" Sometimes, eating has nothing to do with it. I eat almost constantly, yet this pregnancy I have lost 8.5 lbs. I am not obsessing over it, I am however going to bring it up with my Dr at my next appointment. My BMI is still healthy and my baby has been healthy at all my appointments, but all my life I have had trouble gaining weight and have had to go on strict nutrition regimins to be able to gain weight as a teen. Sometimes being underweight is as much of a body struggle as being overweight. I feel like a lot of times people think that being skinny makes life easy and that thin people have no right to have body issues, but that is not true. I haven't brought this up before because I dont want to be one of those people that seems to be bragging, but not gaining weight freaks some people out as much as gaining too much.
I despise the use of the word, no matter who uses it, but let's not pretend that the context is the same.
I know! As I was writing it, I was thinking...hm...is there any way to make this NOT sound awful? The answer is no. It just requires a lot of explaining.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
Edit again: how the heck to I make this darn thing respond to someone's direct quote. It keeps doing this to me. Mobile makes me angry!
I never cared about the words until I joined TB, but honestly, I find the word "pregnant" to be weird. I think it's like "moist" for a lot of people. Something about that second "n" in "pregnant"...what's with the second "n"? I don't mind typing it out but it gives me the shivers to say it out loud. I have no problem saying vagina or clitoris or uterus, though. But "pregnant" out loud...shudder. (I know it's totally irrational, too, don't worry.)
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
It really annoys me that the media keeps calling George Zimmerman "white" or "white-hispanic". What happened in FL was awful and I am not trying to start a "George Zimmerman is innocent/guilty" debate because honestly that is for the jury to decide, but he is hispanic and has identified himself as hispanic during this entire process and I feel like the only reason that the media keeps insisting on calling him "white" or "white-hispanic" is because they want to stir up racial drama and feed into the already hot race battle surrounding this case. This does nothing to ease racism in this country, only makes it worse. Shooting someone is wrong whether they are white, black, hispanic, asian or otherwise and whether you are any of those. The whole situation sucks, but making it about white vs black is only making it worse especially when the defendant identifies as hispanic and claims that as his race (I get that he is mixed, but so is our President and he identifies as a black man so that is what people call him. They dont insist on calling him the first mixed white-black president, no he is the first black or African American president.) The media needs to stop making everything a racial battle. It's making it harder to end racism in our country.
I saw "preggily" on another board, intentionally used to poke fun at those who say preggo, and I liked it. Now I say it in my head and it makes me smile.
IRL is an abbreviation of three words "in real life". Preggers/preggo is just a slang word for pregnant. It is not an abbreviation since preggers is the same number of letters as pregnant. Also, I apologize if my punctuation is not always perfect. The app often eats punctuation, so my bad...
I don't think it's cute, it sounds like something you would hear on teen mom.
I understood the intent of your post. I'm sure your Grands aren't horrible, mean and malicious people, but unless they're saying "that's my n-ga" then the two shouldn't be compared.
In your attempt to tell me I'm wrong you missed the entire point of my post. I have a concealed carry permit and my DH and I are proud gun owners, but regardless of reason killing someone is wrong and sucks, even if it was justified and in self defense. Shooting someone should always be the last and only remaining option.
The point of my post wasn't that he shot someone. it was that the media is stirring up the race pot and only making things worse..
This. Not to mention, it's 2013. I don't care how you were raised. You aren't living under a rock. If it's considered an insulting term to an entire race of people, you stop using the word. It's not that complicated of a concept to understand and it's not that difficult to stop using that word.
I think it's ridiculous to have more than one ticker for one child.
I don't like "themes" for a nursery, or any other room for that matter. Color schemes I can kind of get on board with, I guess. Also, I really dislike wicker furniture.
I think anyone who still recommends a Jenny McCarthy book is being willfully ignorant of the dangerous misinformation she has spread. As such, I automatically disregard everything they say or recommend.
It's like you're inside my head, reading my mind. Now if you tell me that you secretly like the smell of dog paws because they smell like Fritos, then we're basically the same person.
LOL I always say they smell like popcorn but you're right, it's Fritos! Mystery solved. Thank you.
ETA: Forgot to quote!
Oh man, I didn't want to touch this with a 10-foot pole, but it's quiet in my office today...
I agree with Rachel. I'm 29, and when I was younger (middle school aged), the F-word and the word "r-tard" were both perfectly acceptable forms of insults (for use against anyone, not as slurs). I am most certainly not homophobic, nor do I discriminate against people with disabilities (mental or otherwise) - and as I grew older and came to realize how hurtful those words were, I dropped them. It was partly my own maturity that led to the change, but also the fact that the gay community and communities supporting people with disabilities began speaking out and letting us know how the words hurt them.
The N-word has been known to be hurtful and derogatory for decades now. That's why it's hard for me to have compassion for older generations who say that "that's just the way they grew up." My grandfather is the same; he uses racial slurs all the time, and though he's not an evil man, I do think he lacks compassion and an ability to understand how his actions offend and harm others. Yes, he's 87 now and his memory is going, so I'll give him a pass, but the slurs he uses (like the N-word) have been unacceptable since he was a younger man, when he did have the mental faculty to choose to eliminate them from his vocabulary.
ETA: wow, I didn't know TB censored the word "r-tard" - that's actually really great. I'd much rather censor that than fucck.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
ahh! I'm not alone! Saying "pregnant" out loud gives me the hebejebes. I don't know why, but I really don't like saying it.
BFP 09/24/12 MMC 10/29
BFP 04/11/13 DS December 2013
BFP 04/08/16 *fingers crossed*
This this? Testing.
I didn't read the "hate my husband" thread, but I think it's okay to vent about stuff, especially when you're having a hard time seeing eye-to-eye on something with your husband. There have been times when he and I have fundamentally disagreed, and it was helpful for me to get someone else's perspective. I've had friends tell me to chill out and stop overreacting, which I needed to hear - I wasn't ready to hear it from my husband. I've also had friends tell me that my husband was out of line, and that gave me the confidence I needed to hold my ground and make sure he heard me. Sometimes you need that support.
Out-and-out bashing is a little strange to me, I guess. I don't know.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
You'd be wrong about that. People are free to post whatever they want. Yay for America.
I think for a lot of people this is at the center of this issue. The f-word and the r-word have been actively advocated against by the communities they were once used to hurt. However, it is hard for people to understand that the n-word is so incredibly offensive and hurtful when it is constantly being used in music, movies, in conversation, etc. by people within that community. (Not saying that this is a correct or incorrect thing, just a statement)
My girls: August 14, 2011 and December 5, 2013
It was more of a "I hate my husband RIGHT NOW and am being extremely hormonal" thread. Having disagreements with your spouse is a completely normal part of a relationship. Venting about it with friends/coworkers/on a message board (if you choose to do so) normally is not a big deal. I have yet to see someone on here who says they hate/are mad at their spouse who really mean it. And if someone is having that hard of a time with their spouse and chooses to "bash" them to the extent in which they DO really mean it, then I would think their problems at home are worse than I've ever known.
I also disagree with saying we should "bring honor to our husbands because they are sacrificing a lot right now". There is no way that my husband has had to make the sacrifices I've made during pregnancy...not even close. He knows it, and I know it, and it certainly isn't a point of contention for us.
I think she was talking about Hercules who definitely is quoted also.
Oh geeze, I know that in America people are allowed the freedom of speech. I was just saying that the point of the "UO posts" is that you can say your opinion without people judging or responding negatively. However, we've already all agreed that omitting those types if comments is super boring.
So technically I was not wrong about the "rules" of this type of post.
I hear what you're saying, though I don't think my 87-year-old grandfather has ever listened to a rap song in his life, or has ever really heard the N-word in a non-derogatory context (if such a context even exists). And I do see the gay community "reclaiming" the f-word, which is risky to me for the reasons you outline above. I also do think that the n-word has been actively advocated against. I guess I can see how it would be confusing...but then when I think about the people who I've heard using racial slurs, I think they're smart enough to know the difference between how they use it and how it's used by the community.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
Lol, everyday is a great day in the bump!
Word play sounds kinky. I'm in.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
UOs are not flame free. FFCs are rarely flame free.
Well, I did read the deposition, and here's what it said. When asked, UNDER OATH, if she had EVER used the n-word, Paula Deen said yes, of course. Now, she could have lied and said, "why no sir, I would never use such a horrible word." That would have been lying under oath, but I bet she wouldn't have gotten fired over it.
Instead, she told the truth. In the past, she's used the word. The one time she could remeber was when telling her husband about a black man who held her at gunpoint while robbing the bank she worked in. As she put it, she wasn't feeling very charitable towards the man at the time.
She also then clarified that it was a long time ago, and times have changed. And I quote, "Things have changed since the '60s in the south. And my children and my brother object to that word being used in any cruel or mean behavior. As well as I do." So, basically, she said yes, she used to use it. But now she recognizes it is cruel and mean, and she doesn't say it anymore.
How is this worthy of her losing her job and being villified by every cable news channel and newspaper? Times change, and people change with them. She's done that. She doesn't use the word regularly, she wasn't caught on tape using it last week. She admitted she used it in the past but not anymore. End of story. Personally, I'm pretty happy that instead of being PC, she chose to tell the truth under oath. Something our former (and great) President Clinton wasn't always able to do. But hey, he just lied about cheating on his wife and using his position to get sex. No big deal, right?
And what I'M saying is that no, it's not the point. And anyway, nowhere does it say "Flame-Free." Even on "Flame Free Friday Confession" people are allowed to flame away if they so choose.
I felt the same way, but then I had them! The thing is, I only want like a bite of something I'm "craving." So like the other day I got s'mores pop tarts, which I probably haven't had in at least 10 years, I had one from the pack of two and now I'm good. They will probably go stale in my cabinet! I don't know what it is, something just sounds good at the moment and I need it, but it's not like I continue eating it. It's only happened a few times, it's probably all mental! Ha!
... and I feel like it's always Britax related.. Plus, there are hundreds of reviews on Amazon!
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Yes! Love this and I'm not arguing with ya people. On most forums unpopular opinion and flame free posts are meant to be what I described. If you see my other comments though, you will note that I agreed with you... The fact that people disagree us what makes the posts fun an interesting for most of us.