Trouble TTC

Don't mess with me today!

I snapped at my boss today.

 It's CD 3 and I've been trying to schedule all of my testing and IVF appointments around my business trip this week (details in my IVF consult thread) and still get them done in time for the August cycle at my clinic.  So we'll just say I was feeling a little stressed today.

 I had to rush out of work early to get to the lab and my boss (who knows about our IF) made a joke comparing me to my BSC coworker who told my boss that she might have to miss a one and a half day business trip because she might be ovulating that day (it was her 2nd cycle TTC, she's an over sharer.  Side note:  she got pregnant that cycle).  He had been making that joke all day and I just lost it.  I turned to him and said "This is not even close to the same thing and your 'jokes' aren't funny."  Then I stormed out of the office before I had a complete breakdown.  I am generally not a dramatic person, but I had it going on today.

My boss actually took it really well.  He sent an email apologizing for his comments and once I cooled down I called him to accept his apology.  He's constantly joking about how i shouldn't have kids so i will be available to work crazy hours (there is one part of my job that nobody else knows how to do, i've been pushing to train someone as a backup, but so far i haven't gotten anywhere).  Usually I can just brush off the jokes, but somedays are harder than others.  Maybe he will understand now that "jokes" can be hurtful even if they aren't intended to be. 

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TTC #1 since August 2011

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September 2012: Start IF testing

DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA  Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA

October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos

November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues.  Converted to freeze all due to lining issues.  2 blasts frozen on day 6!

January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues

April 2015: FET #2.1


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Re: Don't mess with me today!

  • jfb29jfb29 member
    I wish I had such courage! Glad you stood up for yourself! Hopefully your boss gets it now!

    TTC #1 Since 7/2011

    Me: 30, PCOS with anovulation
    DH: 38, Low Morph & DE
    Rx: Metformin 500mg

    Cycle #1: Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
    Cycle #2: Clomid 150mg + Ovidrel = No Response, Canceled
    Cycle #3: Clomid 150mg + Follistim + Ovidrel = No response, Canceled

    Cycle #4: Femara 7.5mg + Gonal-f + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP!!!!

     

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  • Good for you for standing up for yourself!! I can't believe the other one could even be compared...
    TTC for baby #1 since March 2012 DH SA- ZERO Jan 2013, Low T, started clomid. Up and down swimmies since. Me- Ovulation dysfunction, low progesterone, hormone levels all off http://babydreamsinnj.blogspot.com
  • Ugggghhhh. Good for you for standing up for yourself. I'm glad he apologized and hope he stays in line from now on. Next time he talks about how irreplaceable you are you should ask him what he plans to do when you're on maternity leave hopefully soon!!
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    Me: 32 DH: 35  TTC#1 since March 2012
    Dx: Poor Embryo Quality, Arcuate Uterus, Poor Uterine Blood Flow, Mild Endo, 
           Protein S Deficiency, Sjorgen's Syndrome 

    IUI #1-5: BFN
    Laparoscopy & Hysteroscopy: minimal endo, partial septoplasty
    IVF #1: 10R/6M/6F ~ Day 3 ET = BFN
    IVF #2: 14R/9M/5F ~ transfer canceled ~ all embryos arrested at 1-2 cell stage
    IVF #3: 9R/5M/5F ~ 1 frosty!
    IVF #4 (FET #1): BFN

    IVF #5 (DE IVF #1 with Dr. KK protocol): Currently PREGNANT!!!!!!
    Synthroid + Prednisone + Metformin + Baby Aspirin + Supplements Galore = 15+ pills a day
    Lupron + Lovenox + Delestrogen + IVIG + B/W = 2-5 pokes a day
    19R, 17M, 17F - transferred two Grade A blasts 11/16, four frosties!!!
    Beta #1 11/24 (13dpo/8dp5dt) = 367 ~ Beta #2 11/26 (15dpo/10dp5dt) = 709
    Beta #3 11/29 (18dpo/13dp5dt) = 1,997 ~ Beta #4 12/1 (20dpo/15dp5dt) = 3,403

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    Wow!  So proud of you for being so brave about things!  And yes, your other co worker does not even compare. 

  • Thanks everyone.  I don't know if I would call it courage, because honestly it just came out of my mouth before I even had time to think.

    Also, I wanted to add that my boss is not a bad guy, he just doesn't realize how hard it is to deal with IF.  Joking and teasing is pretty normal in our department, because we are a pretty easy going but tight knit group.  So it's not like his jokes were meant to be malicious in anyway. 

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    TTC #1 since August 2011

    My Blog

    September 2012: Start IF testing

    DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA  Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA

    October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos

    November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues.  Converted to freeze all due to lining issues.  2 blasts frozen on day 6!

    January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues

    April 2015: FET #2.1


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  • I hate days like that! Hoping the rest of your evening has been better!
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    Me: 36, DH: 41 TTC: Feb 2011
    Dx uterine fibroids & MFI = Varicocele causing decreased SA
    *** 12/2011: IUI #1 50mg Clomid = BFN ***
    *** 8/2012: IUI #2 100mg Clomid = BFN ***
    *** 11/2012: IUI #3 150mg Clomid & Metmorphin 150mg = BFN ***
    *** 1/2013: Changed RE's & Urologists for more focus on MFI ***
    *** 4/2013: IUI#4 Femara & Follistim = BFFN ***
    *** 5/2013: IUI#5 Femara, Follistim & Bravella = BFFN ***
    ***6/2013: Taking a much needed break***
  • Ugh. Sorry Twinkie. I know that some people do not have ill intentions but don't realize how terribly the things they say come across. Sorry you had to deal with that. 

    ** After  2 1/2 years of Unexplained IF, 2 failed medicated cycles, and 4 failed IUI's - our baby girl came to us through the miracle of
     Mini IVF! **

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  • I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. That was so unprofessional of your boss to joke with you like that. Some people just don't get it. IF is not something that should be taken lightly but unless you're going through it you'll never understand the frustration. So sorry you're going through this. Hopefully you won't be here too much longer. Good luck!!

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    • Happiest day of my life: September 10, 2011
    • Off birth control pills: November 2011
    • First and Only BFP ending in chemical pregnancy: June 2013
    • Diagnosed with poor luteal phase:14 days and ovulating but low progesterone: July 2013
    • First month on Progesterone 200mg: August 2013
  • ky29ky29 member
    Good for you for standing up for yourself!  I agree that sometimes they don't intend to hurt you, they just don't know how to say things.  But in that case, that was a bit much.  Sorry it was a rough day!

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    DX: MFI (4% motility)

    Cycle 13: Natural cycle w/ HSG test = BFP
    Identical twins! 
    Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks

    Cycle 14-16: Natural Cycles = BFN
    Cycle 17: Follistim + Trigger + IUI = BFN
    Cycle 18: Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 19: Follistim + Trigger +IUI#2
    Polyp found: SIS 11/11 - hysteroscopy 11/14
    Cycle 20: Follistim + IUI#2 = BFFN
    Cycle 21: Follistim (adj. dosage) + IUI#3 TI  = BFN
    IUI cancelled due to weather
    Cycle 22: Follistim + IUI#3.1 = BFN

    Cycle 23: treatment break, IVF consult
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    Cycle 27: Follistim + IUI#4 = BFFN
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  • Glad you mentioned something so boss knew not cool! You handled well!
    Married BF 6/29/2002/
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    ME:34 all clear/DH:41 DX Severe MFI/
    IVF w/ICSI OCT 2012 Stims started 10/8/ER 10/19/12/ET 10/24/Beta#1 11/2=BFN (beta was 1.2)

    IVF 2.0-Baseline 11/7/12 beta 0/All Clear
    Stim start 11/7/12//ER 11/19 11M//10F
    ET 2 embies 11/24//Beta#1 28 Beta #2 23 Beta#3 29
    stop meds Beta#4 37/C/P 5W5D EDD:8/12/13/IVF#3 in Jan

    Ivf 3-frozen 3 poor 3day/fet=bfn

    Ivf#4 New dr. New protocol=beta1 197 beta#2 677 beta#3 1557
     u/s 8/13 =TWINS 2 strong hb
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  • Sorry you had to go through that today. I can relate about bosses teasing hitting a nerve . I am not open about TTC in my job but since I am married and have no kids whenever I go on vacation my boss says " don't you be getting pregnant now". I know he doesn't really mean it but it hurts, well 'cause we haven't been able to.
    *Losses mentioned*
    Me: 34 DH:32
    TTC #1 since Dec 2011
    HSG = tubes clear, bicornuate or septate ute; MRI= severe arcuate uterus no septum seen 
    SA #1 low count, low morph;  SA#2 4% Morph, count OK  SA#3 july 2014= NORMAL!!!
    9/2013  IUI#1 w/Clomid 100mg = over response; cycle converted to cryoocyte IVF
    IVF #1: 9/15 ER= 9 mature eggs, all eggs made it thru vitrification
    10/23 ICSI 6 fertilized; 10/28 5dt of two morulas. Hold on to me babies, stick, stick, stick!!
    11/6 BFP EDD 7/14/14 Beta #1= 18; 11/9 Beta #2= 44.8; 11/12 Beta #3= 7 = Early loss @4w6d. No frosties
    Feb 2014 Hysterscopy = no septum seen ute all clear in the inside
     IUI #1.1 4/2/14 Beta on 4/16 BFN
    Thinking about IUI #2  RE advised to try 3?????
    Natural cycle surprise BFP 8/3/14 EDD 4/11/15  beta#1(8/5/14)=35 Beta#2(8/8/14)=22  CP/Early loss@5w
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